My bf and I have been dating for over a year. He moved from his hometown and came here a couple of months before i met him. Anyway he has been having a lot of problems and is thinking of going back but i don't want him to. I asked him to take me with him but it means i would have to leave my life behind and start a new 1 (which is what im intending on doing anyway!). I just don'tknow what to do. I love him to bits and would do anything for him! Can anyone help?
2007-03-23 07:18:22 · 9 answers · asked by Kaz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Karina
Hon, how does your boyfriend feel about you moving back to his hometown with him? If he has any ambivelance at all about it, just don't do it----he'll feel pressured, and you'll end up somewhere you might not want to be, all alone.
On the other hand, if he's enthusiastic about it, you could start by checking out employment opportunities there.
I wish I knew what kind of "trouble" he has been having. If it's of a legal nature, I hope you can just let him go. But if it's just a run of bad luck, that's a different matter.
Even if you don't move there immediately (assuming he goes back) you can stay in touch with him and move there when the time is right for you.
Again, whether or not you should go depends on great deal on how HE feels about it. Best of luck to you both.
2007-03-23 07:29:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like u've pretty much decided anyway...
If u were gonna pack up and leave anyway then this seems like the perfect opportunity. How far away is your bf's hometown from where u live now? Nowhere's too far away that its inaccessable and so u can always pop back from time to time when u want to. And at least it wont be starting a completely whole new life because at least u'll know 1 person where your going (your bf).
It's sounds like a great idea to me and if i were u then i think i would. Good Luck to you!
2007-03-23 15:14:28 · answer #2 · answered by only_lil_kez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have already answered your own question when you said you were intending to start a new life anyway.The thing is if you do go with him you need to be prepared to go it alone if things don't work out between you.Hopefully this new venture will strenghthen your relationship.Best of luck to you both.
2007-03-23 14:37:51 · answer #3 · answered by ageless_san 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its something you're intending to do anyway then go for it! you never know, u mite love it! plus, love is a very special thing... even more special than work, home etc at times!
2007-03-23 14:28:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you gotta listen to your heart and trust your instincts on this one.life if always a gamble and this is one which might pay off for you.if you think he truly loves you back then i say go for it or you might spend the rest of your life thinking about what might have been.
2007-03-23 14:28:58 · answer #5 · answered by johnboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life has no real plan. So I guess its time to move
2007-03-23 14:23:53 · answer #6 · answered by Mack J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do not say whether he has said that he want you to go with him. find that out before thinking any deeper.
2007-03-23 14:47:06 · answer #7 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could help him more ..if you both move back youd both have to start over .. youd prob. have to carry him till hes able ..
2007-03-23 14:36:11 · answer #8 · answered by pivotalperson111 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's what you are intending to do, then do it.
2007-03-23 14:22:18 · answer #9 · answered by siany warny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋