Here's the situation, I met this girl 4 months ago and at first I just thought it was going to be a short term thing. Over time we continued to spend time together and she began to get really attached. There is an age difference as she is 27 and I am 22. I have to admit that personality wise we match very very well and she is a great girl.
On one hand I'm feeling trapped, but on the other hand she has put up with all of my BS since November and has proved herself over and over again. She's invested so much because she believes that it is meant to be. At this point I'm pretty torn because I'm young and I want to have fun, but she has really proven herself to me and passed all my gf tests with flying colors. What to do?
2007-03-23 07:18:18 · 4 answers · asked by DF81 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well one thing I forgot to mention is that I just don't feel as if I trust this girl. When we began to first spent time together she'd get calls and texts from all these random internet guys being like 'hey I'm gonna fly out and see you etc.' she now claims that she doesn't pick up the phone or talk to these random guys anymore. Not to mention that she's hooked up with too many guys for my liking, but now she's in a different place.
2007-03-23 08:18:29 · update #1
Or so she says, who really knows I can't shake the feelings of mistrust.
2007-03-23 08:19:44 · update #2
stay with this girl mabey it is meant for you to be together, as long as you have your freedom too, like for sports, etc. however tell her you have a 5 yr. plan [for instance,] like no serious commitments, then see how she feels.
After all she has a life too. I am quite a bit older than my husband, we have a loving marraige for many years. you'll lose freedom to do what? sex with other girls? you could get one pregnant, and it's one you don't care about, and then you pay child $ for 18 yrs. or you could get a deseise. A younger girl would most likely cheat on you eventually--and then if you decide you want this girl again--she'll probably be taken. Forget about bars and clubs, you'll only meet manipulating women, and some have kids at home!.if you were my own son i'd tell you to pray about it.
2007-03-23 07:27:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to consider your options and be honest with her. If you break it off you have to realize that she may not want to spend anymore time with you, and if you dont you may not have as much freedom or part time as you would like. What I reccommend is telling her the honest truth. Tell her that you are really into her and you really like sharing your time with her, but let her know that you are not ready to settle down. Tell her that you want to continue dating her, but you also need time to do things with your friends and work on your career or whatever it is that you want to do. If she really cares than she will give you the space that you need. Honesty is really the best policy....sometimes its not easy to tell someone the truth or even to hear the truth, but in the long run it keeps problems from evolving!!!
2007-03-23 14:27:40 · answer #2 · answered by lyndsyherard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You make up your mind. You either want to play around or you want to be with your girlfriend. You have already stated that she passed your "girlfriend test" and that she has put up with all your crap. My question is this, what's more important to you? Thank you and good luck.
2007-03-23 14:25:36 · answer #3 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get your priorities and values right it will make the decision for you!
2007-03-23 14:26:51 · answer #4 · answered by jj 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋