i dont have any luck finding decent men any info on how x
2007-03-23 07:15:44 · 8 answers · asked by sarah louise m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A happy easy going woman who is open minded and will say whaty she wants and will listen. Please don't say "I don't mind, what do you want to do?" all the time, that is so irritating, and be yourself, putting on a show just causes suspicions. A nice appearance is something I'm sure you already have covered. Good luck.
2007-03-23 07:29:28 · answer #1 · answered by Doodle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A long answer but if you give it a shot you might get something out of this that you could find very useful...
The first thing I would advise you to do is
1: Find out who you are, what you want from someone else and what you are currently doing to to find a man.
Before we can even find the person who makes us feel at home in their hearts we have to feel at home in our own. The key to this is asking, "Well, who the heck am I?" If you already know the answer to this question you are ahead of most people. And whatever the answer to the question is, you need to accept yourself (and others) as you are unconditionally.
2: Next, what exactly are you looking for? My colleague is about the same age as you and she said she "doesn't know what kind of man she wants, but she knows what she doesn't want." Focussing on something you do NOT want causes the matter to persist. Thinking of a negative ("I don't want an alcoholic guy!") only causes you to find more of the same. For example, do NOT think of your favourite food...see there you go, right? You have to say what you want -- positively. Get very specific and write down what kind of guy you want.
3: Men vary as much as women. Some are very physical and others are emotional. There is no one single type. However, there is a generalisation that goes like this. In stable relationships "physical men" attract "emotional women" and vice versa. This is a good match but at the poles of physicality and emotionality lies trouble. That opposites attract is a truism but polar opposites fall apart too easily without anything to bind them together. Are you "emotional or physical"? Find someone with a ying that goes with your yang. My wife is 35% emotional to my 65% physical -- nice match. Emotional types are like cats, don't like too much attention and can go without regular phone calls and prefer to avoid very regular sex after the relationship has settled. They are sometimes happier in their own company. Physical types are like fussy puppies and need all the phone calls and affirmations and the 100 "I love you" texts a day and so on. They wither without physical touch and are usually the centre of attention. A physical will ask, "Do you love me?" and the emotional replies, "Why are you asking? I told you last month. Northing's changed. Stop asking me, OK!" Physical-Physical relationships are like fireworks - sexy, bright, loud, but brief and you can burn your fingers. And emotional-emotional relationships fizzle out like damp squibs. When I was younger I looked for physical girls and often gloried in the splendour of the burning ashes of failed romances myself. When I found my wife I felt at home and gave up the indoor fireworks. The emotional and Sexual concept is the work of Dr. John Kappas and you can find him on Amazon.
4. Last, and absolutely not least, I would check out the work of Claude Steiner and his Emotional Literacy, which is a love-entered approach to emotional intelligence and transactional analysis. Using the book of the same name (downloadable for free!), you can work out your life-script, work out why you have been choosing the partners you have chosen and then change your plan in light of what you will have learned.
Both Kappas and Steiner were pivotal in my life and their work has been tremendously useful.
Remember, Ovid said "To be loved, be loveable."
Peace and best wishes.
Warren.
2007-03-23 08:03:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A grown lady... educated, goal oriented, with drive and ambition, a nuturing instinct, and not still acting 15 they like grown women or women getting they grown woman on
2007-03-23 07:22:53 · answer #3 · answered by Im da Example 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Silly girl guys that are 24 usually don't even know what they wnt they are still driven 'round by their HORROR Moans..lol
2007-03-23 08:27:29 · answer #4 · answered by mauikittie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your kidding right? Most men only have one thing on the mind, and it aint roses or romance!
2007-03-23 07:21:06 · answer #5 · answered by Patsfan34 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not Joking now but,Children in my case.
2007-03-23 10:01:46 · answer #6 · answered by edison 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are still prob immature looking for one thing ..u all ready know what that is ! Just be you .. and when he comes youll know ..
2007-03-23 07:30:08 · answer #7 · answered by pivotalperson111 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they want sex and more sex
2007-03-23 07:31:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋