I have been with my Marine for 1 year, even before he decided to join the Marines, and now, we're planning to get married when he returns from SOI... I know the age of consent for the Marines is 18... but will that matter if we are legally married?
2007-03-23 07:14:33 · 10 answers · asked by thazz_redonkulous 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Like I have to have parental consent to get married at this age, but my dad is alright with it. I'm just scared to get my fiance or soon to be husband in trouble...
2007-03-23 07:25:54 · update #1
Thank you all for responding... just a little more details... I am 16 and I'm working full time, going to school full time, and living on my own and paying all expenses. I know what it's like to be without family and friends.
I think I will be able to hang in there while he's in Iraq, because I've had lots of experience, and I have undying love for him.
I'm going to continue to go to school and work while he is away, but because I am so intelligent, I will be graduating high school next fall and going on to OSU after.
2007-03-23 10:08:44 · update #2
The ONLY thing I'm worried about is getting him into legal trouble... We have talked about this situation, and I have mentioned that maybe we should just wait for a couple years... he says he would rather "bite the bullet."
I'm just wondering, will I cause him to get into any LEGAL trouble... or just criticism from his peers??
2007-03-23 10:10:36 · update #3
I'm not sure about legally, I think you have to be 17 don't you? Either which way, I don't think the marine corp in general will care, but he will catch a lot of grief about and it will most likely cause problems for your marriage. I would think a little harder before jumping into something, especially since he is overseas right now, during a war time deployment and he is very lonely. Take your time please.
2007-03-23 07:20:41 · answer #1 · answered by "HKB" 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've been with my fiance for 4 years now and last year he joined the Marines (he was 17) We are now both 18 and are getting married next year. I think you have to be at least 17, not too long to wait! Don't worry!
:o) All the best.
ps, I'm from England so I'm not sure if it's different for the US Marines.
EDIT: you shouldn't get your fiance into trouble, you're not doing anything wrong don't worry! Just wait till you're 17, I mean by the time you've got everything sorted for the wedding you'll probably be 17 then!! (it takes a long time to plan and budget and get that beautiful dress!!) You sound really similar to me! I hope everything goes well for you and your Marine!!
EDIT AGAIN: I would just like to add in reply to "Navy Sailor" that I agree with some of the things you're saying....
In England we finish school at 16 and goto college after that. I'm studying for a Degree at college and then going on to Uni to continue my education wherever my then husband will be based (I'm lucky in that he is in a relatively stable part of the Marines). But you see, I'll be busy and getting on with my education whilst he is still training in the Marines and we are pretty sure it'll work. I see theres no reason why this girl can't do the same?? :o)
2007-03-23 14:24:02 · answer #2 · answered by beaujolais_fairy_blossom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
from experience any branch of the military is hard on families and relantionships, i know my husband is air force for 10 years (ten more to go !!!!). it is really hard when they are gone. before you do anything ask his high up first, dont just go get married. because if he does something wrong it is a lot worse than a slap on the wrist sometimes. Also the military is not just a job, it is a life. he cant say no to anything they tell him to do, the military comes first no matter what. for example my husband works mid-nights, well they have an exercise this week and he has to work 12 hr shifts, so we have seen each other about 2 hours total this week, and we have a 8 month old. i get home at 5 and cook dinner and he wakes up at 6 eats and is off to work. dont get me wrong i love my husband and have great respect for him. he does what most people want. i would trade my life for anything. But in the begining it will be hard it always is for new couples, they dont know what to expect. but once he has been in for a while you will get into a routine. if you can make the deployments overseas with out cheating or getting a divorce, i dont say this to be mean but it happens alot, you will apprecaite each other more. it makes you quality time more vauleable. i wish you the best.
2007-03-23 14:55:12 · answer #3 · answered by andy a 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hers's a heads up from somebody that got married when they were 18. It is still the worst mistake of my life. I was 16 and engaged just like you. I was in love or at least I thought I was. As an adult I quickly learned I was more in love with the idea of being engaged and being married. The other people are right, you will get divorced and you will grow up A LOT. You will wonder where your childhood went and even your young adulthood when you are supposed to be having fun free of all the responsibilities. My mom was ok with things too and now that I am a parent I wonder what she was thinking. Your dad should have a problem with it. You need to be at home finishing school and going to college, at least a community college. You need to learn who you are and not take on the issues of the military and being a military wife. Even adult woman have issues with what we do in the military and you will have even more. Your husband is going to be deployed a lot. You will be home by yourself a lot. The amount of time you are going to spend alone you should be spending at school getting your diploma and some college under your belt. I know you think you know you are right and you know what you are doing. We all did at 16, 17, 18, 19. But in reality, you need to open your eyes and ears and listen to the people that have been there and done that. Your dad of all people needs to step and say no to you and get you focused back on school. Once you are done, with a diploma not a GED maybe you can get married. Not now you are jumping off a cliff you will regret jumping off of. Real life is not playing house. It is a lot of work to live on E1 pay and pay all the bills and deal with all the work related stress your young husband will have. It is no cake walk to marry a non-military person, but it is going to be an uphill battle for you to jump in with both feet at 16 with no life experience and marry the USMC. THINk ABOUT IT!! You can be there for him in all the ways he will need you, but you need to stay at home and take care of you too or you will regret a lot of things when you are truly old enough to know what is best for you.
2007-03-23 14:58:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
One of my Marines was married to a minor, and it wasnt smiled upon by anybody, then again there wasnt much we could do. The girl went to school on base, and conducted herself like an adult. As long as its a legal marriage there isnt much anyone can do. Of course they were married before he came in, your fiance or boyfriend at this time can get in trouble for being with a minor.
2007-03-23 14:31:46 · answer #5 · answered by Kenneth W 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I know you believe this is true love but think about it: your not even finished with high school yet, you have your whole life ahead of you. Wait until he is done in the armed forces and then if you still feel the same get married. But I sure wouldn't do it now.
2007-03-23 14:36:34 · answer #6 · answered by shorty 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Based upon my experience, serving 22 years in the navy, the guys he works with will treat him like a child molester. Your marriage will be lucky to last 2 years.
2007-03-23 15:18:54 · answer #7 · answered by Yak Rider 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
you guys are doomed for divorce, you'll be so far away from you family and your SO young you haven't experienced anything, being a military wife isn't what you think it is
2007-03-23 14:29:37 · answer #8 · answered by Falloutgirl 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You are 16... please wait! You change so much from 16-18, 18-20, 20-23. PLEASE wait. I know you are in love now but at least wait until you are at least 18.
2007-03-23 14:31:23 · answer #9 · answered by Valli 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Jail Time and also a discharge!!!
2007-03-23 17:35:23 · answer #10 · answered by BadKarma 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋