ok i broke up wit my boyfreind because he said he didnt do long distance relationship n that he might b leaving to some college far away but that when he does decide that he will text me wat he will do n if he does decide to go far away i will no that our relationship is over. i didnt want 2 break up with him but i did. ok well 2 days ago he was tellin me that he still loves me n he is thinkning of me. he told me a long time ago that he was suppose to go to the club yesterday n he didnt. but i didnt no so i said hav fun nite. then he txtd me back n said i didnt go nite but in a mad way. n then i was like ur mad n he told me jus go to bed. im 17 and he is 20. one day he is happy n the next he is all mad. wat should i do? wat do u think?
we got back together after i broke up because he said he didnt want to leave me n i didnt want to leave him either
2007-03-23 07:07:46 · 11 answers · asked by SofaKingBored23 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like a lot of miss-communication to me... my advice? Stop texting, and pick up a phone or see him in person. So mannnny things that were meant one way, are taken a completely different way over text.
So far as him moving away, if you care about him and love him, then you will stick with him for as long as you can, and if things get broken off, then I'm sorry. :(
Bottom line, less texty more talky. ;)
2007-03-23 07:12:32 · answer #1 · answered by Sammeh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is probably the truest thing anyone will ever tell you about relationships, so listen close:
If you are not able to be by yourself and be okay, you will never have a healthy and satisfying relationship. If you can't be happy without being with this guy, then you need some time to work on yourself and discover who you are.
Would you hang out with a girlfriend who was mad one day and happy the next? No of course not because that would be crazy. So then why have a boyfriend who does the same?
Learn to love yourself first... there will plenty of time for relationships later.
2007-03-23 14:12:52 · answer #2 · answered by Wolverine 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all what will happen when he turns 21 and can go to bars? Second don't let him string you along. Tell him flat out that you want him to make a mature decision. If you all break up and you all date other people and later down the line you get back together, well then you both learned a little more about yourselves, grew up a little bit and found it ment to be with no questions to ponder. Good luck. Also remember if your in the US and he turns 21 you can't go clubbing with him. Are you ok with that?
2007-03-23 14:13:18 · answer #3 · answered by 20+ years and still in-love! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you should follow your dreams... really think about it for the rest of your life i mean the next 50 or 60 yrs left do you really think they would be spent with u two together... You are so young and many other men will come and go out of your life... Dont be selfish and think ofyourself and let him not go to college... also you should be trying to get in college... Be supportive of his dreams that shows u care and if its meant for yall to be it will trust me... u can always try to go to school where he is at so you two can be closer... there are alot of ways but let him do whats right for his future which is education... b/c with a degree he can then buy his own house, and have a good job, and good life so if u want to be with him then help prepare for your future dont stop him from going to college... go to college together
2007-03-23 14:13:52 · answer #4 · answered by Im da Example 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have a maturity gap here.
First, be careful of that age difference. He's an adult and you legally are not, se beware!
Secondly, you two are very fond of each other. Good luck with the long-distance thing. Go into it with an open mind. Not everybody can handle it, and if it doesn't work for you, then you might just have to let him go.
2007-03-23 14:21:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop acting so controlling and overbearing or this relationship is NOT going to work. Breaking up in this case may have been for the best. He is going away to college and thats going to be hard on both of you. LD relationships rarely work out and if trust is in anyway a problem then it DEFINITLY wont work out. I say let him go to college, without an education, hes going to be stuck in a life he may not want later on. Be careful with both of your hearts...I think you were thinking clearly to break up with him, and i think you are NOT thinking as clear to reconsider him. As far as the clubs go, if he wants to go out, let him... dont make him feel guilty for wanting to go. You broke up with him.
2007-03-23 14:12:36 · answer #6 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay with him for as long as possible. If he is going to college, try to make the last days the best possible.
2007-03-23 14:11:11 · answer #7 · answered by Eason W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously has control issues. He is not in control of his own emotional state and wants to have you at his beck and call. He is controlling you. Best to get away--as far away--as possible from this guy.
2007-03-23 14:11:47 · answer #8 · answered by Carol D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well honestly i think that you should follow your heart and he should too if yall both really love each other then yall should be able to do the long distance.
2007-03-23 14:12:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he is just using you when he wants you. It sounds like he might be hanging around with you because you are younger then him and he might think that you will do whatever he tells you to.
2007-03-23 14:11:42 · answer #10 · answered by iluvmyself676 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋