i've been talking to this guy for 7 months we don't go out beacuse it's just never been brougt up and we're both going through our oun problems right now. anyways the point is thqat whenever we're together it's amazing i'm always smiling and it's like i have no worries in the world ans we exchange I Love You's. i know he loves me and i love him too and recently we've been arguing because i listen to my friends. they're always saying he's no good and that he's a dog and guys are anly after one thing and he's cheeting on me and i guess i let it get to my head. but i know in my heart that he's not after one thing because it's been 7 months and we had sex once and he stopped because it was hurting too much. and he never asked for it or even brought up the subjlect it jussed happen so how do i stop listening to other people and show him that i really do love him and trust him?
2007-03-23 07:04:06 · 6 answers · asked by couture_17 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You've only been talking and you don't go out but you have had sex!! I don't think you really know what you have with him or want from him.
Figure that out. Then you'll know what you should do.and remember you can love people in different ways. So, maybe he only loves you as a friend. Maybe he thought having sex was a mistake and that's why he's gone back to the platonic friends thing.
Listen to your friends...they only are concerned for you...then make up your own mind how and where you want this relationship to go. No there is not doubt he is a friend...is that enough for you? Good luck
2007-03-23 07:10:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you need to know why your friends are saying he's so awful. Sometimes your friends have seen things you haven't and just don't know how to tell you. But if they have no reason for saying the things they are saying, or if they are just jealous of the time you spend together, then calmly tell them you love them, but they are hurting you with their comments and making it difficult for you to be around them. If they are sincere friends, they will back off. If they don't, then maybe they aren't such good friends. But make sure you are ending friendships because of their sincerity, not because you want to spend time with a boyfriend. Friends usually have a good reason not to like whoever is dating their friends before they say anything.
2007-03-23 14:13:56 · answer #2 · answered by luvlandon2006 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You've got some pretty crappy friends. Your friends should back up whatever decisions you make in life. Thats the job of a truly good friend. Since you dont have that... I say tell them thats how they should behave or you dont want or need their friendship. If they have to act childish about your relationship, then you dont need them. They will come around. Surely they dont want to lose a friend either. Good luck
2007-03-23 14:08:43 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't get it. You said here that you're not a couple. How can he cheat on you if you're not a couple. If you're not having sex, how can he be after one thing?
Maybe you meant, literally "we don't go outside" when you said, "we don't go out." And you actually ARE a couple. Then you must decide if you trust your friends or your boyfriend more, If it's the bf, then tell your friends to stop the trash talking.
2007-03-23 14:41:03 · answer #4 · answered by LSD 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just forget about what your friends are saying, he does sound like he cares about you. If you guys trust each other, you can talk and work out all the issues that you have because of that.
2007-03-23 14:07:23 · answer #5 · answered by boricua_chick_21 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Trust yourself more than your friends. Only you and your boyfriend know how your relationship is working.
Your friends could just be talkin trash and not knowing what else to say. Just let it go in one ear and out the other.
good for you!
2007-03-23 14:08:32 · answer #6 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋