I have known him 10 yrs, dated him off and on for 5 yrs, and been in a serious relationship with him now for 5 months. He has always been a very neat, clean, scrubbed, nice smelling, well kept attractive man. But, for the past month or so, there have been times when he visited me that he LITERALLY smelled bad. I don't mean bad breath from eating onions or a sweaty smell after working all day in the sun. It is, instead, like he has gone three or four days without a bath or deoderant. It actually gave me a headache one evening when it was at its worst.
I love this guy with all my heart. One of the things I like most about him is the fact that we can be ourselves around eachother and be comfortable. But this is just too much. I cannot stand it. I could smell him all over the house!!! This cannot continue and something must be done, but I can't stand to think of hurting him. I am very patient and understanding, but I can't handle this. I need a solution badly. HELP!
2007-03-23 07:03:36 · 10 answers · asked by Prozacella 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you've known him for 10 years and have never seen him like this then I would say there he might be having some personal problems. You might have to brave a fight and just tell him - just think of it as trying to save your relationship. You sound like you're about ready to quit. Good Luck!
2007-03-23 07:11:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is either depressed or abusing a substance. I am a depressed person on medication. Prior to that I stopped caring how I looked. I just didn't care period. You have a long history with this guy. When he eats something spicy have a breath mint on hand and say "Here honey, this will take the strong smell off your breath. " If he is sweaty and smelly (gross!) say "You must have worked really hard today! I can smell." And then laugh to take the sting out of it. You can also come right out and say "I care so much about you. Lately I have noticed you have stopped caring for yourself. Please tell me what's wrong?" Open up a gentle dialogue. If this failures and you really love him, put it on the line. "I really hate to say this, but I feel I must. You have stopped taking care of yourself and it is very noticeable. What's going on? You used to take very good care of yourself. I can't stand seeing you like this. It hurts me." That should do it. He will know there is a problem and that you care a lot about him. Good Luck.
2007-03-23 07:12:45 · answer #2 · answered by BellaDonna 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well whether he is cheating or not you definitely have to calm down and not have so many rows with him because it will ruin your relationship, don't tell him off just talk to him and tell him how much it hurts you and remember, if it comes to an argument YOU have to be the calm one, because if you're the one that stays calm then you will not only be thw winner of the argument but you will be the problem solver of the relationship which is always a good thing he is probably doing himself up because he realized how lucky he is to have a girl like you and he wants to impress you but because you have brought this to his attention he has had a massive leap in confidence and he is starting to think that you should try and look better for him because he is making more effort for you try and build an OPEN relationship where it wouldn't matter if you looked at his texts, but you have to wait a while, then you can investigate,I'm afraid you will have to live with it for a while otherwise you might end up being wrong and losing him, nothing in a relationship is solved with anger and aggression tbh i don't think he is cheating on you and that he respects you a whole lot, when he talks to other girls, hang around with him, don't have arguments with them, if a girl starts chatting him up infront of you then kiss him and thats it you have claimed him and they will stay away from him basically what u have to do it CALM DOWN hope this helped :)
2016-03-29 01:07:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
guess what it seems like the honeymoon (figurative) has worn off. Go to the mall and shop around, take him to the cologne counters and tell him (nicely) which scents you like. never hurt his feelings (I did that and it messed us up for a while) or go to bodywash or bodyspray and do the same thing. men need subtlety. men do this after a while. they think that we love them regardless of anything and even though we do they still need to care for themselves, if it a beard or mustache tell them you like a clean shaven man, or whatever you like. dont try to outright change them, just tweak them a little.
2007-03-23 07:14:13 · answer #4 · answered by lydia manning 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you all are that comfortable with each other you should tell him. Hey I don't want to hurt your feelings but your starting to smell babe. It could be a hormone imbalance and he may not notice it himself.
2007-03-23 07:10:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he has the same sensitivity towards you and doesn't want to be the one to break it off. This "style" seems brash but it looks like it is working.
2007-03-23 07:09:12 · answer #6 · answered by sensible_man 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get him to go out side with you and lie by saying you want everyone to see you to kiss or something. then tell him to close his eyes and run over to a pressure washer and blast the frickin daylights out of that stinky prick
2007-03-23 07:08:18 · answer #7 · answered by tONY g 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Could be a sign of depression or using drugs/alcohol.
2007-03-23 07:09:39 · answer #8 · answered by SubservientAngel 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like depression to me.
2007-03-23 07:08:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is only one reason, he has stopped caring about you.
2007-03-23 07:06:23 · answer #10 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋