Now I know that sounds harsh, but she is always trying to one up everyone, if you are doing something , shes doing better, It doesnt matter what it is. I get so tired of hearing how much money she makes or when her husband gets bonuses at work or ok. so what you just bought a 60 inch h i def tv.. good for you, its not that im not happy for her in her life but she doesnt see that the rest of us are happy with ours and somethings we dont need to know.. I feel sometimes as if she cant help herself, she has to well, brag.. how would anyone suggest without being to obvious getting her to stop this, i try ingnoring it but its getting to the point we avoid going around her..help!
2007-03-23 06:52:34 · 18 answers · asked by ANGELA29 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My future-sister-in-law is the same exact way. Whenever she starts a story, I just cut her off by saying "good for you" and turn my attention to someone else who is nearby. Eventually she got the hint and doesn't really bother me anymore.
2007-03-23 06:56:18 · answer #1 · answered by Doreen A 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I think people such as them (braggers) are doing it unconsciously. I am even more annoyed when they dont brag about themselves but someone they know "a friend or a friend of a friend ..."
I wouldn't suggest ignoring it but instead eloquently interrupt when she starts talking. Such as with the TV, when she begins, say something like, "I know, you have a 60" hidef, you told me a couple weeks ago". When she begins the bragging sessions, interject with a different topic like "Hold that thought, let me check the washing machine" or what I always say "Let me check on the kids real quick" and don't come back. You can also just interrupt her when she talks and say "good for you, some people just have different opinions on these things, like i like mine the way it is".
Just be careful when you say things because these are the people who are here for life and seeing them forever with some animosity is not good. (I know, I know, them disappearing would be even better but that is in our "ideal" world *smile*)
Soon enough she will notice that you dont want to hear anymore and back off.
Best,
G
2007-03-23 15:20:32 · answer #2 · answered by Georgina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say something along the lines of, "We;d love you the same if you were dirt poor. You dont have to tell us everything," but say it with a little smile so if doesnt seem offensive.
Some people have to talk themselves up because they dont like themselves or their own life. If she doesnt stop, just tell her you dont want to hear it anymore. You dont have to be mean about it, but thats better than just avoiding her or shutting her out.
Good luck =)
2007-03-23 13:59:51 · answer #3 · answered by independent101 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simply state. I am happy that you can afford such things. I would prefer to use that money differently, you know, donating some to charities. " If you think that sounds to snippy, try this. When she begins to brag state ; "That's nice." and then quickly change the subject. If she doesn't get the hint, the girl is either an idiot or callous. Check changing the subject when she begins to brag. Eventually she may ask why. Then you can tell her "We don't think it is proper to brag about finances."
2007-03-23 13:59:43 · answer #4 · answered by BellaDonna 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I don't think you can get her to stop. People like that do those things to make themselves feel better....and they make a fool of themselves in the process. If ignoring is getting hard then I wouldn't spend a great deal of time with her, if you have the option of doing other stuff. Just comfort yourself with the knowledge that you do not need to do that and other people are seeing what you see.
2007-03-23 13:58:00 · answer #5 · answered by Clarissa 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is not as happy as you and others may think. I think that people who brag have low self esteem. I think she may feel a sense of not belonging so she brags to gain attention. Next time let her know how fortunate she is after all the homeless people we have out in this world who may have nothing or nobody!
Please Do Not Reject Her! Invite Her To Everything!
2007-03-23 14:03:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my mom would start to get frustrated she used joke "I killed a guy in Texas once".. say that because I just want to know if you could say that with a straight face and if she would one up that... LOL
My girlfriend was set up with this guy through a friend and she took and another with so she wouldn't meet him alone. This guy was a total dork. He would gloat "yeah I would ride my go cart on the freeway at night.. 'cause go carts don't have head lights.. and I would wear my clear goggles... 'cause I have like 12 pairs of goggles.." and I said "how many goggles?" and he went on to list the stupid goggles.. AAHH! He was 30 years old talkin' about how many goggles he had.
Make fun of her while appearing to be interested. People like that make me laugh.. Take it in stride. You'll be alright. :)
2007-03-23 14:08:23 · answer #7 · answered by Nemesista 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time she starts up, tell her in a nice, calm voice that you really don't give a f u @k and walk away. I'll guarantee she never "brags" to you again.
2007-03-23 13:57:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
SOUNDS AS IF SHE HAS AN INFERIORITY COMPLEX. JUST POLITELY SAY "THAT'S NICE" AND CHANGE THE SUBJECT. IF SHE IS TOO THICK TO TAKE THE HINT AFTER A REASONABLE TIME ,TELL HER THAT YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY SHE NEEDS TO TALK FINANCIAL, PRIVATE THINGS.
2007-03-23 14:32:36 · answer #9 · answered by Bettee62 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when she is totally up her own as s with self compliments like woo look at my new top of the range fridge it even dices the veg and cooks it just look disinterested and i say ohhh right.nothing more and do it to eveerything she says she will soon stop.
2007-03-23 13:59:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋