2007-03-23 06:52:29 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It's YOUR DAY.... thus, you and your love are the ones who call the shots. Receptions are not necessarily for the bride and groom but for 'everyone else.'
It's tradition, yes, but you can break tradition. The most important thing is your marriage, not the wedding day. Most couples say it's the 'most important day of your life' - but if that's the case, what is the marriage?
You do NOT have to do a typical wedding and reception. I've known plenty of couples who get married and then go off on their honeymoon and have small, intimate family dinners when they return (not a formal reception at all, a dinner at home with family or a restaurant) and then open gifts with immediate family present.
Don't waste money on a reception if you truly don't want one. Ask most couples and they will tell you they NEVER EVEN GOT TO EAT THE FOOD they picked, only had one bite of cake and don't even remember the reception because they were way too busy greeting guests, working the room to say hello to everyone they truly missed out on the party that was supposed to be FOR THEM.
Think about this.... and instead, take the money you would have spent on a day for everyone else and put it down on a condo or home. You'll be glad you did!
2007-03-23 07:04:29 · answer #1 · answered by The Answer Monster 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not completely unheard of, after all, the reception is the expensive part. If you want to just have the wedding without a reception, that's fine, there's nothing in the wedding bible that says you must have a reception. Most do, simply to allow their guests to congratulate them and to thank them for sharing the day with them. You might want to keep the wedding very small and intimate in this case, just keep the guests to very close friends and immediate family.
2007-03-23 14:09:12 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all ... a lot of couples choose to have an intimate wedding with only close friends and family and go to a small dinner afterwards. A reception can still be held with all of your extended family and other friends well after the actual wedding date.
2007-03-23 14:01:21 · answer #3 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is uncommon these days! I have even heard of Open wedding showers! People walk in put a gift on the table get a cupcake along with a glass of punch then leave!
The EXCUSE the bride and groom(To Be) have a virus!!!!!
2007-03-23 14:17:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not as uncommon as the bridal mags make it out to be. I've had the big reception, and it was a lot of money. My second marriage we just went out for brunch afterwards. There's no shame in not having a reception. I have plenty of friends who've opted to save money by not having one.
2007-03-23 13:58:01 · answer #5 · answered by chefgrille 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is uncommon i dont think i have ever heard of a wedding without a reception. but if you dont want a reception then dont have one, its your wedding. i totally understand not wanting to pay for food of all your guest.
2007-03-23 13:56:45 · answer #6 · answered by andy a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my idea of a perfect wedding is a very small wedding in the church rectory, with our closest friends standing up for us. the four of us going out for a nice dinner at a very very nice restaurant.
then we would just go away for a few days by ourselves.
i would send cards after the fact to people letting them know we were married.
the marriage vows and ceremony are so sacred and private that i wonder at people wanting to have it witnessed by everyone they have ever met! it seems to me that now-a-days its all about outdoing whatever anyone else has done.
so.....go have your wedding and forget about a reception, do what you want to do.
the marriage, the love you share, and your life together is what matters.
good luck and god bless.
2007-03-23 14:11:18 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you would usually have something, because there will be more than just you and your groom at the wedding ceremony. If you have, for example a courthouse wedding, or just a jp doing a ceremony at a home, or a minister at a church - there would at least be your parents there, and/or siblings. Just host them for at least a meal after the ceremony.
2007-03-24 07:40:31 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea its kinda uncommon but who cares if u dont wanna reception dont have 1 its your wedding :)
2007-03-23 13:56:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually there is some sort of celebration after the ceremony, even if it's just cake & punch or drinks somewhere afterwards. But there is nothing written in granite that says you must.
I just married a couple who went to a nice dinner alone, after the ceremony.
2007-03-23 13:56:33 · answer #10 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋