this morning i herd my mom crying hard and i went to see whats wrong she said somtimes my brother is meen and im making her so sad from the discions im making and im breaking her heart! im moving out soon and they hate my b/f but i love him and wont leave him...it really hurt me when my mom said im breaking her heart when i feel like im doing good in my life, im happy have a good job im going to school...i dont know how to feel im a little angry...how can i make my mom see im ok and the discions im making are good they work for me...i feel so bad to see her cry but im also hurt...any advice
2007-03-23 06:50:04 · 8 answers · asked by Lovley 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
my brother is a butt (= he hasnt ever been very social with the family, he is very moody and short with everyone..he is 18 so it cant be the teenager stage. he set her off
2007-03-23 07:11:46 · update #1
i understand why you feel like you do, i hate it when i find my mum crying, i'm not sure exactly how old you are but your mum is probably just sad about how quickly you've grown up and feels that you are deserting her because you've lived with her all your life (i'm guessing this is right), don't you ever feel sad when you look back on your life and always wonder Why did i do that? and Why didn't i do that? and How come i didn't realise in 5 or 6 years it would be lke this and why didn't i enjoy every minute of childhood? well your mum is doing just that, she's looking back on you as a child and how easy everything was, but now your moving out to live a boyfriend she dissaproves of but if you love tham that's what matters. you need to talk to her about this, explain that you love you boyfriend very much and you will move out whether it's now or in 5 years time, it's got to happen.
About your brother i think you need to confront him about what he's doing thats upsetting your mum, as a girl you and your mum have a special bond and you need to stick together and help her out when it comes to your brother. Explain to him that your mum is very upset at the moment and being nice to her won't hurt, when she see's how grown up your being i think she will see everything your way and see that the decisions you make ARE good for you, even if she can't see that now.
Good Luck
2007-03-23 07:01:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is the same scenario i am going thru i have been with my b/f for years now and we have a 3 year old boy and another one on the way! weve been living together for like about 4 1/2 years and my mom has never approved of him or even my dad. They will talk to him if they see him and my b/f knows this too and he kind of has been wanting to get away from them as much as he can. It does get me mad that htey can't never approve of him and of course i am not going to leave him because i love him. Everytime i talk to my mom she is always bitching about where we live and what we drive and that we could do so much better. And i usually just get mad and we end up in an argument. so i have just decided to love my mom and dad as they are and don't talk about my personal life with them becasue later they will just throw it in my face. They just need to accept that you are moving on with your life you are not going to be there forever. well good luck and hopefully this helps you!
2007-03-23 06:59:18 · answer #2 · answered by *Loving my two boys* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should consider what your mom said. The guy on here that answered first has a good point. Your mom knows more about life than you do so I think that you should listen to her and at least consider your options. Sounds like your brother is a real butt.
2007-03-23 07:05:11 · answer #3 · answered by Christina. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked her why she feels this way? My mom and dad didn't like my husband when I first meet him to. They warmed up to him when I got pregnant. Talk to her, tell her how you feel and that you will always be her daughter but you need to move out and start your own life/family. Hopefully she come around for ya. :)
2007-03-23 07:22:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it time, let her see you doing well, succeed and make something out of your life, that will help her to feel better, it's just hard to let go when you are a mom, make sure you call her often, visit, and keep her involved in your life, she is most likely afraid she is loosing you, give her a hug and tell her you love her
2007-03-23 07:12:31 · answer #5 · answered by melissa s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly loosen up. It is well to care approximately your father and mother. But if someone tells you to disobey Allah (i.e shaving the beard or stoping going to Masjid) then there's no obedience to the man or woman. . So obey Allah.
2016-09-05 13:08:57 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think you are making the rigth decisions, when yor mother, who loves yo and knows more about life than you do, thinks you are not? Have you considered that?
2007-03-23 06:53:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
she should be worried about your brother
tell ur mom how u feel
2007-03-23 09:10:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋