talks about my friends and calls them "b,s,w's" talks badly about my family, always wants me to stay in bed, has the bed fixed so he knows when i move and i have to ask to get out cause he has me blocked in, monitors all my conversations and calls and then harrasses me about them
2007-03-23 06:46:57 · 11 answers · asked by xmascapri 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's controlling, dump him, as soon as you can, you need to find someone else who will repect you.
2007-03-23 06:50:00 · answer #1 · answered by kitty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazy!!! Get out NOW, it will only get worse. Believe me, it took me 2 kids and 7 yrs before I was able to leave. He never let me have any friends and hated my family even more. It was all about him. He told me what to wear, what to eat, how to clean the house (the way he wanted it). Kept telling me he would kill himself if I left. (He was a total drunk - everything was my fault) and I didn't even drink, still don't. It got worse than that, I would get my butt kicked every weekend when he was drunk. My mom kept saying if he was going to kill himself he would have already done it. Finally one day he took off with his friends, I told him the kids and I wouldn't be there when he got back, of course he didn't believe me. That was 13yrs ago. You definitely need to file a restraining order as soon as you can. I know it's hard and you want to believe he loves you and that it won't get worse, but it will. There isn't anything anyone can tell you that you don't already know, it's up to you if that's the kind of life you want. Only you can make the change because you already know he won't. Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-23 15:26:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dated a guy like this once, and the whole time I was saying, "maybe it's just me." I didn't realize until several months later that it really, truly was him. Part of your questioning whether he is controlling reflects your self esteem-- believe that you deserve better, someone who will treat you well. Those people are out there! Take a deep breath, break up with him, and begin the process of healing/becoming a true friend to yourself. Think about it-- if a friend of yours came to you with this situation, what would you tell her?
....Exactly.
2007-03-23 13:54:01 · answer #3 · answered by suzcurtis 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Those are even worse than the list I was going to type before reading your details.
Leave.
Now.
Edit -- after calming down a bit. To me, the freakiest one is that you can't get up in the middle of the night to pee without his permission. That's so far over the top controlling I can hardly type.
Next chance you get, grab what you can (no possessions are worth your life), and get to a women's shelter as fast as you can.
What you describe never gets better; it always gets worse.
2007-03-23 23:19:48 · answer #4 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you start going to work with black eyes...pretty good sign there are problems.
Your boyfriend appears to be somewhat of the insecure type...could be a number of things, maybe he lacks in a department or two...but whatever the reason, he is controlling, and insecure. From the way you described things, that is for sure.
My advice, leave him. It only gets worse, never better. Get out while you can, your guy has major issues.
2007-03-23 13:51:49 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Ed 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a very controlling man. I would not be able to stay in a realationship with a man like that again. It could prove to be really dangerous to you.
My 2nd husband was so controlling that I could not even go to the bathroom without him coming in to see what I was doing. I couldn't go anyplace by myself not even to the grocery store or laundry. It got to the point that I felt my life was in danger so I got out...........
I feel that a controlling person has so little self-esteem that they feel that they have to behave in a controlling manner to have any self-worth.
Please for your safety, be very careful and try to get out of this relationship safely.
2007-03-23 13:58:54 · answer #6 · answered by Linda L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Signs: Isolates you from friends and family. Making the your whole world HIM. Beats you down emotionally to where you would rather not bother contacting anyone to make him happy. Restricts what you do, who you do it with....He is a classic controller!
As I have heard many times....If he is like this now...he will be alot worse if you ever marry him (god forbid...have children)! That is a GUARANTEE! Look beyond now...
Drop him now...you deserve better. "Love" is not enough to sustain a relationship!
2007-03-23 14:01:25 · answer #7 · answered by iamafly2004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you would get more freedom if yo lived in a prison in iraq!!!dump him he is a total loser and control freak who doesnt deserve you or trust you and will never change my mate had a bloke like yours and he got her pregnant to tie her to him then everytime the kid went to school he got her pregnant to tie her down.they now live in a remote village cos he doesnt want her to talk to or see anyone not even her family.by the way he accused her of trying to get off with her uncle!!!
2007-03-23 13:55:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have already answered that question for you self. I was with someone like that and then it became abusive. Do yourself a favor and leave before it gets worse and you get more obsessed with him.
2007-03-23 13:52:31 · answer #9 · answered by antie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well in 27 years on this planet I have experienced many different situations like this. I have two words for you, "restraining order" . Oh wait one more, "immedietely"
2007-03-23 13:50:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋