2007-03-23 06:31:48 · 17 answers · asked by sarah louise m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I used to be shy but i just realized if people dont like me then theres i can do about it so I just act like myself now and usually am the crazy one which is a lot different than i usde to be its just something you have to mentally overcome on your own
2007-03-23 06:37:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
All you have to do is tell yourself that shyness is a waste of time. It keeps you from being yourself and making a good impression. If this helps, try pretending that you already know them in some way. But believe me, shyness does absoloutely nothing for you. Beat it down or it will stay with you and keep you from enjoying life for years to come. The other day, I told a young woman in a store that she had beautiful eyes. Years ago, I could not have even looked her in the eye. She thanked me very warmly, and both of us smiled. Little things like that can help you get over the shyness. Talk to people in stores and shops, etc.
2007-03-23 06:39:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've already answered your question. You are soooooooo smart! You get over shyness by meeting new people. The more that you make it your goal to hi to the person who is ringing you up at the counter or to start a conversation with the person standing next to you in the elevator, the more you will become comfortable with yourself. You will figure out what your interests and strong points are by seeing how well you can hold and conversation and you can take that experience into your next conversation.
A large part of getting over shyness is also being confident in yourself. I'm sure that you are a fun, beautiful girl so why are you shy about letting people see that? You should think about what you like and try to let your interests determine what you talk about, how you talk about it and who you want to hang out with after you have finished talking to them. Good Luck! If you need more advice send me an email.
2007-03-23 06:42:03 · answer #3 · answered by Vince R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a very difficult question, especially as we would need to know what you think is the cause of your shyness. I personally I'm not very good at first when I meet people for the first time either and I have to warm to them, but generally I feel if I throw myself in to stuff I'm okay. Over thinking and worrying about meeting new people doesn't help either.
Saying all this though I find shyness quite attractive in a woman - it makes me feel that I need to work harder to get to know them and I like a challenge, so it's not necessarily a bad thing either.
2007-03-23 06:38:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes just realize that they are only human beings such as yourself and relax and try talking to people as though they were family members. That should help you get over your shyness.
2007-03-23 06:37:07 · answer #5 · answered by myleshunt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what i try and do is pretend im alsmost someone else by doing this i come over as confident and inteligent blah blah! then come time that i know people well enought these people learn my true personality which is (how ever weird this may sound.) the person i am!
so by telling yourself that you are pretending/acting/over componsating by acting like someone else you trick your mind you start believing it and as time goes on youll relaise that all youve done is get the guts up to being you!
i have made soooo many friends doing this! and im far more social noone taught it to me i just decided i was fed up being the one laughing at jokes instead of telling the jokes!
2007-03-23 06:39:16 · answer #6 · answered by SWANNY AND SNUGGLES! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends... what kind of people? Office colleagues, social acquaintances? When you are nervous, you tend to be clumsy with words or with your physical acts. If you think you ae getting nervous, pretend you nd to go to the washroom then rejoin the group only when you are at ease. I know where you are coming from. I am a shy person myself & I realise I make big blunders when I am especially nervous.
2007-03-23 06:38:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I know how you feel,my face flares up just going to the till to purchase my things,I cannot keep eye contact with someone,I always look away or look down.I don't know what you can do about it though,I could do with a few tips myself lol
2007-03-24 11:31:57 · answer #8 · answered by xxpink_carnationxx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so wrapped up in yourself. Show the other people you are genuinely interested in them and what they have to say. Don't talk just about yourself. And Smile.
2007-03-23 06:36:20 · answer #9 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was like you but now i am totally oposite. i just went for it and i gradually got bettter, now i am great with strangers and i chat like theres no tomorrow.
try it you will overcome it,
dont bother about going red or whether you say the wrong thing , just be your self.
good luckk
2007-03-23 06:35:43 · answer #10 · answered by minty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋