Why does he want to be with me but he doesnt want us to have this child together? I understand that he is not financially stable but he thinks that if i keep the baby then i dont love him and i do. He says that if i keep the baby then he's not going nowhere because he's not going to leave his child but he keep begging me to abort it.I don't know what to do because i want to keep my unborn child although i already have a 19 month old that's not his. Does he really love me or should i just get the abortion to make him happy?
2007-03-23 06:31:32 · 15 answers · asked by shawty_red_atl 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You want to make him happy? Well what about you? Will you be happy? Will you be regretting that decision for the rest of your life? The fact is he will be down the road either way before long more than likely but you will have to live with the guilt for the rest of your life. Don't think about what this guy wants. Think about what you as the mother wants. It is ultimately your choice.
2007-03-23 06:39:33 · answer #1 · answered by great dane fanatic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just scared. Unplanned pregnancies are a shock. If you really want to have the baby, don't impose that decision on him, give him the option to stay or go. Unfortunately for him he will still be financially responsible even if he decides a baby isn't what's right for him, but maybe he should have thought about that before he got in bed with an already single mother using no reliable form of birth control. If having an abortion is something you would consider just to make him happy then maybe your relationship isn't the best for any of you. Sounds like you keep getting pregnant hoping to hold onto a man and are just as easily persuaded to end the pregnancy to keep him. I would not bring another child into that kind of relationship. Terminate the pregnancy, give him back his "life", get into some kind of counseling for your attachment issues and PLEASE stop having unprotected sex.
2007-03-23 14:04:15 · answer #2 · answered by flow_mj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never get an abortion, or any other medical procedure for that matter, just to make someone else happy. If you do, you will regret it for the rest of your life. You will also come to resent him and you'll end up breaking up anyway. Most likely, he's just afraid of the responsibility. Once little one gets here, he'll fall in love like most fathers. Just be prepared for the chance that he won't.
That said, you do know how babies are conceived, right? Then the next thing you need to do after the baby is born is get on reliable birth control.
2007-03-23 13:37:28 · answer #3 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I went through this with my first child, my boyfriend at the time wanted me to have an abortion and I refused. He was mean and cruel through out my entire pregnancy. If I complained he told me he didn't want to hear it because I made this decision myself. When my son was born, my boyfriend (my son's father) cried...He apologized for all the things he had done & said. Today, my son is five years old & you couldn't pry them away from each other if you tried. He may want you to have an abortion but that is your choice NOT HIS. If you keep your child, he may or may not want to stay & be a good father/partner to you & your child but if he leaves, oh well...you will have the unconditional love that comes with having a child.
I wish you the best of luck & god bless you in what ever decision you make.
2007-03-23 15:14:57 · answer #4 · answered by Mom of two boys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is childish and selfish. For me, I could never have a future with a guy acting that way. And do not do anything just to make him happy. It's your body, and your baby. Do what YOU feel is right, and be prepared for him to be a loser parent. If you want to keep your baby, an abortion will scar you emotionally for life.
Just be sure to use a better method of birth control after this baby gets here!
2007-03-23 13:37:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Girl don't listen to that CRAP. In 1988 I became pregnant and my boyfriend then did not want me to have the baby. He told me we would stay together if I terminated the pregnancy. I told him to take a hike and raised her on my own. She is now 18 year sold and has only had my ex in her life for two years. They have a crappy relationship because she knows he was never around.And he never paid child support. Kick that jerk to the curb Hun. He wont be around in a year or two but that baby will always be a part of you.
2007-03-24 22:54:17 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never ever have to give up a part of yourself (much less a human life!) in order to prove your love to someone else. Even if he says that he will leave if you have the baby, you need to be strong for yourself and for this unborn child. If he really loves you, he will make it work. Good luck!
2007-03-23 13:39:23 · answer #7 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I personally would keep the child. If he didn't want a child he should have made that known from the start. That way you both could have taken the proper precautions. You should never do something your not comfortable with just to make someone else happy, regardless of who it is.
2007-03-23 13:38:16 · answer #8 · answered by kattvamp000 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
DONT EVER GET AN ABORTION TO MAKE SOMEONE ELSE HAPPY!!!!!!!!!! really dont do it! If you want to keep the child then you should do that - his wants and needs dont enter into this. If he didnt want a child he should have made sure he could not get you pregnant.
2007-03-23 15:10:46 · answer #9 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HIM???? What about you? You need to do what you feel is right. He is not worth it if he is begging you to have an abortion. He is being selfish. You need to tell him goodbye and have your baby.
2007-03-23 13:43:45 · answer #10 · answered by SAMMY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋