I'M 25, HE'S 27. MY BF OF 9MTH TOLD ME HE WANTED 2 TAKE A BREAK ABOUT 3 WKS AGO (ABOUT A WEEK AFTER I MENTIONED MARRIAGE). I THOUGHT WE WEREN'T GOING 2 TALK AGAIN BUT HE KEPT CALLING AND WANTING 2 SEE ME,HUG,ME,KISS ME. BUT WHEN I ASKED HIM IF WE WERE BACK TOGETHER HE SAID HE STILL NEEDED TIME 2 THINK ABOUT THINGS. SO I TOLD HIM NOT 2 CALL ME UNTIL HE FIGURES THINGS OUT. BUT HE STILL KEPT CALLING, TXTING ME AND WANTING 2 SEE ME. I EVEN ASKED HIM IF HE WANTD 2 C OTHER PEOPLE BUT HE SAID NO, THAT ITS NOT ABOUT OTHER GIRLS. HE LEFT FOR FLORIDA ON WED FOR A WEEK WITH THE BOYS. BEFORE HE LEFT HE CALLED ME & WANTED TO C ME, BUT I TOLD HIM NO, HE CAN C ME WHEN HE GETS BACK NEXT WED. HE SAYS HES NOT OVER ME & I AM THE ONLY GIRL IN HIS LIFE BUT HE HAS NOT CALLED ME IN 3 DAYS...THE LONGEST WE HAVE EVER NOT TALKED. HE IS IN FLORIDA HAVING A GREAT TIME WHILE IM HERE CRYING. DOES HE MAYBE JUST NEED TIME? IS IT BAD THAT HE HAS NOT CALLED? SHOULD I WAIT FOR HIM OR SHOULD I JUST GIVE UP ON HIM?
2007-03-23 06:29:26 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You never give up on love. I think it could be one of 2 things the first ur prob not gonna like and may not be true
He might have wanted to take a break so he wouldnt have a gf and feel guilty if he does something in flordia with the guys but he wants u to still be there when he gets home, or
maybe you scared him a little with marriage. 9 months of dating to a guy isnt very long and at 27 some men just still dont know what they want. Maybe he really is just thinking about things. I remember when my hubby asked me to marry him I had to think about it. He was divorced and already had a child, but now were married and a baby of our own and I dont regret it. Give him a little time.
2007-03-23 06:36:39 · answer #1 · answered by Mom to Isobelle 2, & Gavyn 8mths 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie if he disappears after you mention marriage there's a problem, maybe he's not ready to get married, maybe he wants to just be with you but not in marriage. Men like this plan on making no committments and if they do it usually isn't for long, you two have been only going out for nine months, and he's a little old to not know what he wants. When it's true love, which is the only love you should want, it doesn't take nine months, it doesn't take years for you to know that this is the ONE you want to spend the rest of your life with. Me and my boyfriend have been together for four months going on five on the eleventh and right from the start I knew he was the one and he knew I was the one. If he's not sure and you are, it's not true love. Don't cry over spilled milk, move on, now you know what you have to do. It's not giving up, but you have to be selfish sometimes. Why didn't you go to see him when he asked you to? If all the times you did all he wanted to do was be all over you then you already know what he's interested in, you're wasting your time, which no amount of it will make him change. So good luck with all that babe! Tell him he can have time to think, all the time he wants. He's a free man now.
2007-03-23 14:00:02 · answer #2 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you told him not to call and you should not be crying its not good for someone to be able to string you along like that. Wait until he gets back ask him if he is going to get back with you or not. and if he says he needs time move on because you are worth more than that. You have only dated him 9 months. I have dated my bf for 3 yrs and i dont want to get married yet.. take it slow.
2007-03-23 13:35:54 · answer #3 · answered by Lovely 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patience is very hard, but will give yo great rewards, your best bet is to stay as you are, if you aren´t together as boyfriend, don´t let him kiss you etc., see if he values you. For now he is wondering if he should stop partying or keep it going for some more, you can´t decide for him, just stay away and let him think about it, show no interest on your part, you should seem happy, hope the best for you...
2007-03-23 13:38:38 · answer #4 · answered by rikalife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
But when he is back you need to sit him down, and tell him how you feel, and that you want to know NOW if there is a future for the two of you. If he can't give you a satisfactory answer, then get out of the relationship.
2007-03-23 13:35:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally wouldn't take that. He stopped talking to u as soon as you mentioned marriage. that's a little strange. It sounds like he doesn't want the relationship to get too serious. You're too grown for such nonsense.
2007-03-23 13:33:49 · answer #6 · answered by *VS* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a little time...but not too much...you dont want him to think that he can run all over you...He needs to respect your feelings...and not be afraid of his own. Guys are just weird sometimes...If you love him, let him go...if it's meant to be, he'll come back to you...Good Luck Girl!
2007-03-23 13:36:03 · answer #7 · answered by emeia04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont force yourself to give up
if you still love him
he obviously still loves you
so its just a matter of time
well you told him to call you
when he gets back ...
so hell probably call you when he gets back
but whatever you do
dont give up on him
he might just be your future (=
2007-03-23 13:46:47 · answer #8 · answered by Evolet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Screw that go your own way pretty lady :)
2007-03-23 13:37:40 · answer #9 · answered by kuenn7287 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IM here...pick me pick me ;)
2007-03-23 13:32:23 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋