He is a deacon in his church and has a sister that he doesnt speak to because he didnt like her life choices nor does he go and see his Mother who is in a nursing home.
2007-03-23 06:28:25 · 44 answers · asked by shirley e 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I am not gossiping, this is my brother and its all about money.
2007-03-23 06:47:00 · update #1
The best thing to do is pray for him. Prayer is very powerful and sounds like the Lord has put him in your heart & concerns.
2007-03-23 06:54:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just because he is a deacon, doesn't mean that he is a true Christian.. There are alot of ppl out there who go to church every Sunday, are "active" in the church, but still have no clue what being a "True Christian" ia all about...
I would say that the man has some real issues...and can not seriously expect God to approve of his actions...
I actually feel sorry for the man...he is obviously a lost soul..and doesn't even seem to be aware of it..
2007-03-23 06:40:05 · answer #2 · answered by Termite 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I know of people who do this, they do not speak to family members if they have chosen to go off and live in sin....but I do believe, we should be a light to them....to gently rebuke them as the word says and show them God's word---pray with them, help them....but if they refuse then comes a time you do just pray for them and move on-
God does say this however:
1 Corinthians 5:11
But now I am writing to you not to associate with anyone who bears the name of brother if he is guilty of sexual immorality or greed, or is an idolater, reviler, drunkard, or swindler--not even to eat with such a one.
-Speaking about a christian of course- someone who claims to be a christian but lives this way--
1 Timothy 5:20
As for those who persist in sin, rebuke them in the presence of all, so that the rest may stand in fear.
So you see, it's a toss up with some--because they are family- I have a friend who I have pretty much stopped talking to because she has chosen to live in sin, yet still claims to be a christian- she has fallen away from the truth and I have tried being a light to her, and showing her what the word of God says--I pray for her still- But with family that would be hard! Now is this sister of his a christian? If she is not, He should be sharing the gospel with her and being a light to her....maybe he has already, and has shaken the dust from his feet. But he should go see His mother in that nursing home!
2007-03-23 06:42:59 · answer #3 · answered by Mandolyn Monkey Munch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest I would think he's a hypocrite. How you go be a deacon but make cruel choices like him. It always surprises me how church going people can be the biggest devils.
2007-03-23 07:17:33 · answer #4 · answered by HoneyBrisk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A deacon eh?
Sounds very familiar. In my experience with Religion, the more someone strives for position in their church, the more judgemental they become as they learn that politics is alive and well in the church structure.
This guy is willing to turn his back on blood verses looking bad to other church goers. Not a nice way to be, but all too typical for someone trying to elevate their position in the church.
2007-03-23 06:36:22 · answer #5 · answered by ɹɐǝɟsuɐs Blessed Cheese Maker 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Writes like he is a little self righteous.
When one is born of God, born of His Spirit, cleansed by His Blood, joint heirs with Jesus, part of the family of God; that person is made the righteousness of Christ. Nothing can change that, being a child of the King inheriting Kingdom blessings.
It seems that your brother is trying to be more righteous (self righteous not Christ Righteousness) and critical of others not right like him. He needs to realize who he is in Christ, or become born of God Gods Way (if he isn't really a Christian yet).
Also, you need to walk in forgiveness toward your brother. Ask God where he is. If you ask God how to help your brother out of love, then God will hear your prayer & let you know how to pray for your brother.
2007-03-23 07:15:32 · answer #6 · answered by LottaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not know all the circumstances, so it is hard to "judge".
But there are times when the Bible says to cut off relationships with people who have made immoral choices. It says to "treat them like one of the gentiles". You love them, you continue to pray for them, but you do not have a friendship with them. But you do hope and pray that a some point God can restore them.
It is sometimes referred to as "tough love" or as not being an "enabler". There are times when you have to step back and let a person face the consequences of their own choices.
But again, not knowing all the circumstances, it is hard to say if this is one of those times....
2007-03-23 06:35:57 · answer #7 · answered by dewcoons 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that is a very poor example of a Christian. One of the reasons people today have a thing against Christianity is because alot, not all, Christians are judgmental. I think people feel like if that's what a Christian acts like then they don't want a part of it. It's very hipocritcal to preach the Lord's forgiveness but not to live it.
2007-03-23 06:35:38 · answer #8 · answered by wolfdance1978 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think he's missing the whole point of serving Christ...the key elements is love, forgiveness, and all the other fruit that Christ have.
Suppose I have the gift of prophecy. Suppose I can understand all the secret things of God and know everything about him. And suppose I have enough faith to move mountains. If I don't have love, I am nothing at all
-1 Corinthians 13:2
2007-03-23 06:38:26 · answer #9 · answered by Nish 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am a brother who did that.
I was very hurt by those people and wanted to keep my life separate so I could be hurt no more and keep that type of pain and influence out of my life so I could focus on God.
Do you discriminate about the way he lives his life? Where you all very hurtfull to him in your choices and in the past?
Have you made amends?
There has got to be a reason why he is doing it.
Maybe you should go to his church and have a sit down with his bishop to resolve the issue in a good manor. As christians a good bishop bears one anothers burdens and helps strengthen familys.
www.lds.org
Familys can and should be together for ever.
2007-03-23 06:34:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋