I have been seeing this new guy for about two months now but we knew each other for a while before we started dating. I am falling in love with him and falling hard! Great right, well it should be. There is nothing wrong with him, it is me and my own screwed up mind. I have been burned very, very badly in the past and I don't think he would ever do the same things to me. But the thought of falling in love again scares me to death. It is almost like I am guarding my heart.
How do I get over feeling like this?
I trust him 100% and I am not a crazy, jealous or controling person in the least. I know he would never intentionally hurt me but I can't shake this want to guard myself.
Is this normal? Please help me to get over this so I can move forward with this wonderful man.
2007-03-23 06:25:54 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First off...congrats!! Finding a love that makes you feel the way you obviously feel right now is difficult. Some people go without ever finding it. So, how can you not sit back and enjoy every minute of it?? I understand the wall you've built around your heart, but you have to realize...he's innocent. From the sounds of things, he would never do anything to hurt you. He's just going to have to prove himself to you. Don't worry yourself sick about something that someone else once did. This could very well be the time of your life. Enjoy it. You gotta let your guard down or you'll never get the full effect of falling helplessly in love. It's a great feeling...isn't it?? =) Just have fun with him. Learn from your past, but don't let it consume you. Good luck!
2007-03-23 06:34:07 · answer #1 · answered by geminiqtpie22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is very hard because u have been hurt in the past. I understand that u are scared but this is life and u have to face reality. If u somewhat guard your heart and continue to push this guy away - he's gonna go and u'll regret it. you said it yourself - he's a great guy - you've already accepted the fact that u have a problem so now u have to decide to take a risk and hope that everything will be alright. But before u take that risk of letting him in ur heart completely, u have to find out if he's really worth it. Just have faith in the love that u have- If u don't, this will keep happening over and over again. You have to make a choice - i know it seems hard - best wishes
2007-03-23 06:44:40 · answer #2 · answered by bre l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, when people have been hurt in the past they have a tendency to put up a wall...but we can't live our lives being afraid all the time..especially of love, it's such a wonderful thing...and it's worth the risk. It's only when we face our fears, we find out who we truly are. so tear down that wall girl and let him in don't let your past relationships mess up a potentially good one.
2007-03-23 06:32:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are absolutely normal , any one had a hard time in the past , normally he is afraid of the present and the future , you are in love with this guy , but you can't trust him just like that , after you faced before . but if he loves you as will , he will gain your trust , of course you should be scared , because , you can't stand being disappointed of a one you love so much . try not to rush yourself and him in a strong relationship , give yourself more time to insure your trust and to examine your feeling just to be safe from another shock ,
2007-03-23 06:46:07 · answer #4 · answered by m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
put the past where it belongs. you have found your peace and understanding of the past. so why bring it forward. See him , when you look at him and no one else. Know that you deserve good.
2007-03-23 06:35:05 · answer #5 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey love makes the world go round so what if you love him this aint a bad thing its a good thing, i only wish there was somebody who loved me (sobs) see you upset me now lol.
2007-03-23 06:29:52 · answer #6 · answered by wierd and wounderful world of me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋