Today while I was cleaning out the closet I found a box and started going through it and to my surprise it was pictures of my current boyfriends ex girlfriends. Some even in picture frames. It kinda got me upset that he still had pictures of his ex's and even more upset when I found the ones in the frames.
So my question is he still not over them. I have some pictures of my ex's also but their not in picture frames and also I would throw them out if I ever got married. Should I tell him to throw them out if we do get married someday or just ignore them?
2007-03-23 06:25:49 · 12 answers · asked by labtecbunny2002 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know your boyfriend, but my thought is to not worry about it. The photos were probably in frames before, and he didn't bother to take them out after they broke up.
I suggest either ignoring the box or very casually mentioning that you found it. Perhaps he forgot it even existed. Just play it cool and see how he reacts. Ideally he'll only show concern for your feelings, not the photos. Then you can say something like, "Gee, these frames are really pretty... would you mind if we put them out with a different photo?" On the other hand, it's possible that the ex choose the frames, in which case you may want to just get rid of them! Hope this helps.
2007-03-23 06:40:09 · answer #1 · answered by Winnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless, picture frame or not you still have pics. And were you really cleaning or was that an excuse to go through his stuff? I have pics of old boy friends-Have gotten over them but it is still a part of my past. Anyway a pic. of an ex, thrown away or not, will not keep someone from not thinking about them. Maybe he is over them, maybe not. Why don't you ask him what you discovered when you were cleaning and let him know your honest feelings. If you can't do that maybe you feel guilty for snooping.
2007-03-23 13:35:54 · answer #2 · answered by antie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not married yet. It's just a memory. Don't worry about them being i picture frames. that means nothing. Everyone has pics of their exs. He probably never looks at them and forgot all about them. Don't worry about it. You can talk to him about it if you really think it is needed. I would mention to him that you found them though and ask him what he wants you to do with them. That would probably be a good way to talk to him about it w/o sounding or being what is the word......overly protective.
2007-03-23 13:39:18 · answer #3 · answered by Snickerz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This always amazes me. People that are so insecure they are afraid of a persons past. Everyone is entitled to their past history it is what makes them who they are. Sure, certain types of pictures are best "burned at the stake" if you will but there are valid reasons to keep some. Get counseling to become a more realized adult and assured of who you are and how you fit in a relationship. I guess you could ignore them or talk to him about how they make you feel. Try to understand why he still has them if he has a reason. Making assumptions and trying to guess or interpret why is doing you no good. Like they say, positive communication is the key to a good partnership.
2007-03-23 13:37:58 · answer #4 · answered by fnsurf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably had them sitting out, and when they broke up, he just threw them in a box in the closet... it'd be completely different if he still had them sitting out somewhere, but they were in a box... in a closet... I'd say that's proof enough that he's over them, but probably too lazy to actually take them out of frames.
2007-03-23 13:29:37 · answer #5 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you throw them out? it is part of your past! unless your ex did something so terrible that you HATE them i dont understand why he or you would need to throw away those pictures, those people helped you become who both of you are in your relationships, they molded you into this couple you are in right now, you should appreciate that! it didnt work out with the exes so that you two could be together! dont have regrets, because remember that at one time that person made you happier than anyone else, do you think they belong in the garbage?
2007-03-23 13:30:41 · answer #6 · answered by puppyluv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah you should tell him to throw them out once yall get married, but really I wouldn't worry about them. I mean really you are his girlfriend not those over girls who once had him. He is thinking about you everyday when he goes to work ,not his ex's so don't fret , just put the pictures back and act like you never even seen them, until you get married
2007-03-23 13:32:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he wasn't over them, they wouldn't be in a box in the back of the closet. I think you are insecure enough to ruin this relationship if you keep it up.
2007-03-23 13:32:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id ignore them. He probably doesnt even realize that they are in those boxes and you are going to look like a snoop by asking him about them.
2007-03-23 13:31:39 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if he refers back to them every now and then you should confront him. Srry but if he is still not over them dump him. Y settle for second best?
2007-03-23 13:32:43 · answer #10 · answered by Rocker_chika 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋