Had my date tuesday..and it went fine..so I think...I asked her, and straight to the point..does she want to see me again...(text)
she replied on a text..
" Quite busy for the rest of the week, how about we stay friends for now, keep in contact and see what happens?" :- ) x
From my understanding and just talking to her..I believe that she had been hurt in the past...and probably not ready to give her emotions. plus as well, in a past text " little bit fragile".I havent contact her since wednesday ( text )..And of course I dont want to scare her, and don't want to smother her.
my reply " Me too, hey thats fine..have a good week and I will contact you soon " x
When is a week..until sunday?..wanna text her monday is that too long?..shall I send flowers?...help..I really do like her.
2007-03-23 06:23:37 · 22 answers · asked by Jamie79 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No flowers, that is definately over kill and likely to make her nervous. You don't have to wait a full week. Just keep the note light and friendly. Don't make the mistake of asking her when you'll go out again etc. and also make it on the shorter side.
Think of it as a brief attack. In and out quickly without her panicking. See how she responds. If she keeps it short then wait a couple of days and try again. After two or three weeks see if you can come up with some chummy thing to do that wouldn't be thought of as a date and see if she'll join you.
By then you'll know...Don't act like a dork and follow her around, or send her notes, have others ask her what she thinks of you...all those things guys do when they are desperate. That is a GIANT NO NO.
Good Luck
2007-03-23 06:32:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm not a woman and it's a little after the fact, but maybe you should have asked this question face-to-face or at least using voice over the telephone. Asking via text strikes me as a little too shy, almost as if you were already expecting to be rejected. Most women seem to appreciate direct honesty and self-assuredness in a man--and remember, you can demonstrate self-assuredness without making yourself look like a conceited @$$!
My advice is damage control, give her until the next week and then follow up by CALLing her or speaking to her IN PERSON. Have an activity ready to suggest. Don't just say "Hey, you wanna get together again sometime?" because she will probably say "Sure, SOMEtime" and then someTIME someONE will come along with a more definite plan of action and she'll be out on a date with HIM or HER and then it's, "Nice knowing ya, BYE". If she doesn't seem interested in what you have in mind, your next move is to ask her what SHE would like to do.
Save the flowers until your next date with her--that'll be a great time to give them. Before that, you'll just come across as desperate.
2007-03-23 13:45:22 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't send flowers. While a nice gesture they may scare her off is she is already feeling a bit unsure.
Take it easy. Text her next week and just ask how she is. Keep in touch but wait a while before asking her to go somewhere again. Actually be friends. (That may be all she wants since that is what she said) If you want more then do not contact her because you will just get hurt.
2007-03-23 13:27:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It appears as though she just wants to remain friends. If I were you i would not send flowers until I feel she wants to be more then friends. The flowers will not make her change her mind. If I were you I would remain very aloof with this girl and let her come after me if she is interested. I do not mean totally avoid her, but treat her as though you agree that the two of you should just be friends. If something beyond that developes, then that is okay too and would be on her end, since she is the one who requested that it be no more then a friendship.
2007-03-23 13:34:05 · answer #4 · answered by myleshunt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't crowd her too much. It sounds like she's hesitant. It could be she felt the tension between you or just that she's not sure if she wants anything serious. Be friends with her, but don't let her string you along. If you want, ask her if she's free this weekend. Tell her yo'd like to catch a movie with her or something, but make sure you have an activity in mind that will keep you busy so that there are no awkward pauses. If you can show her that you can be a good guy as a friend, she may consider your potential to be a good boyfriend. If you send her flowers, make sure you send her a spring bouquet, not roses (they imply romance, which may scare her) and thank her for the date.
2007-03-23 13:30:18 · answer #5 · answered by kra_z_nic 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would text her on the weekend, ask her what her week was like. dont send flowers cause if she doesnt like u in the same way then after that she wont want to stay friends. flowers would be pushing it. it sound to me like she likes u but isnt sure if she is ready for a relationship. if she really just wanted to stay friends than why put the "keep in contact and see what happens" thing in. give her some time to figure it out.
good luck
2007-03-23 13:32:11 · answer #6 · answered by Finn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm so sorry to tell you this, but I think she is nicely telling you to back off. If you like her I would play it safe for awhile. If she's been hurt it could definitely be a baggage issue, but I think flowers are too much without a reason. Maybe send her flowers for a bday or valentines or something like that, but random flowers is pretty aggressive. I'm someone who (I hate to admit) but has a lot of baggage & I push guys away that I probably shouldn't. But I know the one thing that makes me run the fastest is when they come on too strong. So if it was me - no more than once a week - send a text to check in. Don't completely disappear, but let her come to you. If its going to happen it may have to be on her terms if you are willing.
2007-03-23 13:30:36 · answer #7 · answered by stepss1 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well first I say be original and send her an edible arrangement, since she is so fragile and probally has gotten flowers from whom ever hurt her in the past. www.ediblearrangements.com
and i would insert a little note in the arrangement saying:
"I know you have been hurt in the past, I don't want to rush things, but just wanted to let you that I am interested in getting to know you better, and you will always have a friend in me"
With Love,
(Your Name)
2007-03-23 13:38:16 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Jae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey ! take it easy , don't rush her, it all takes time,!! She sound like she is not interest in a serious relationship, but don't give up, just call her on Monday, to find out how is she doing, but don't ask anything about going out or see each other again! Just be very natural , act like a very good friend ..... if later on in other conversations she keeps pushing you away, and keeps telling you she only like your friendship, sadly but true....move on dear! hope everything turns out good for you
2007-03-23 13:37:18 · answer #9 · answered by sweetweelove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait, and be friends for a while, that can help her get to know you better and don't feel pushed.
It's good to get to know each other in a different way before you jump in a relationship.
Just text her on Sunday or Monday and see what she's up to.
2007-03-23 13:35:48 · answer #10 · answered by twisted_352 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋