so i am getting married in oct. and i started planning in december. my sister got engaged right as i started planning mine. every time i got out with my mom she comes wih and i am sick of her talking about her wedding!! i picked my wedding spot and she is now doing the same thing. i choose to get married on a yatch and now she is too but bigger and better. i was going to go dress shopping with my mom and i wanted her to go with me to help and she asked if i minded her trying dresses on too!!! what do i do?? i am sooooo frustrated.
2007-03-23 06:23:00 · 13 answers · asked by waffle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i am the younger sister and i have lived on my own since 17 and she is older and still lives at home. she is the golden child and i cant go over there and go ona shopping trip without her knowing she is ALWAYS THERE!
2007-03-23 06:41:50 · update #1
I had a daughter get married last October and the other one in January. Initially, I am sure there were some bad feelings over this but in the long run the girls had a ball helping the other one with plans, etc. and it made them much closer. Don't fight it, plan yours the way you want and be supportive of your sister. Each girl had their wedding that was unique to there individual personality. Both were beautiful and each one got what she wanted. Don't let this affect your realtionship. She is your sister.
2007-03-25 06:56:28 · answer #1 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know exactly what you mean. My brother and I got married within 6 weeks of each other, I had to trick my mother into shopping for a dress with me! I got through it and so will you. Try to tune out as much as you can. Do most of the planning yourself if possible, I had a similar battle about colors for the wedding. But Then I decided to go a different route at the end. I planned my wedding in nine months, they took two years!
2007-03-23 15:13:25 · answer #2 · answered by Poot's Mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do whatever you want to do and be happy. This is the most memorable day of your life and don't worry about it being compared to your sister's or anyone elses. Millions of people have had weddings before and some of them will be similar to yours, but yours will be special to you. Don't let her ruin your day. If she wants to do things "bigger and better" that is her choice, but it shouldn't stop you from being happy about your original choice. If she wants to come along dress shopping, just do what you would do if she wasn't there - try on dresses and have a good time. If she wants to talk non stop about her wedding, let her. Just don't let her life interfere with your plans and happiness. If she can't plan an original wedding and do things on her own, she's the one who needs to be stressing about it, not you. Just be happy for her, let her know you love her, and keep doing what you're doing - planning the best day of your life!
2007-03-23 06:43:19 · answer #3 · answered by jennyss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be frustrated but you also sound jealous of your sister. There's obviously a reason there's this competition thing going on between the two. I would guess its been like this your whole lives. Why should now be any different? Why do you care that her yacht is "bigger and better". That sounds like jealousy. Anyone can see that. Can't your mom and you plan a shopping trip without your sister knowing about it. That seems like the easiest solution.
2007-03-23 06:33:22 · answer #4 · answered by Kimmy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard one! I wouldn't recommend doing or saying anything to hurt her feelings. But ya'll do need to sit down and talk about it. Tell her how you feel, I'm sure she'll understand. Chances are that she is feeling a little jealous herself. I know I have been have those feeling myself. I got engaged last April (I'm the oldest) and we knew that we where going to have a long engagement so I didn't dive in head first at the beginning. Then in July my sister announced that she is pregnant and that they are getting married. So now she is due April 23 and they are getting married in June. Right in the middle of my happy year. I try not to let it get to me but I still can't help but feel like "I'm the oldest, I was suppose to get married first, I was suppose to have the first grandchild and so on!" But anyway, I'm sure that you sister is probably having some of these same feeling. Sit down and talk with her. I'm sure ya'll can get though this. Good Luck!
2007-03-23 08:27:10 · answer #5 · answered by warriorchic84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have three options.
1. You talk to your sister about how you're feeling and hope that she'll back off a bit.
2. You don't include her in the planning of your wedding.
3. You just put up with it.
Do keep in mind that she's just excited, and try to be patient with her. I think the best option is #1. Hopefully, if she understands that she's detracting from your enjoyment of planning your wedding, she'll understand and back off a bit.
2007-03-23 06:29:45 · answer #6 · answered by Raising6Ducklings! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got engaged while my little sister was finishing up the plans for her wedding. It is difficult to try to plan two weddings but remember these two things. This is your day, so do what you want, and remember your sister's day is hers and she should be allowed to have what she wants. Tell her you'll help her and she can help you, but set aside separate days to plan them so you aren't trying to do both and compete with each other.
2007-03-23 09:19:34 · answer #7 · answered by rnfast2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two opinions. First is, I believe that she is excited about her wedding, as well as yours, and wants to be excited with you at the same time. My second opinion is, maybe she's trying to out-do you. Is there any reason why she would try to compete with you? Like, does your Mom prefer her over you? Maybe that is the reason. I hope things get better for you. Talk to her about your feelings. As hard is it sounds, maybe it'll make things better. Good luck!!!
2007-03-23 06:33:05 · answer #8 · answered by jennifer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hire a hit man.... Nice thought though...... Talk to your mom about needing some of her personal time without your sister. Stop sharing information with your sister. Your sister is being a turd and I don't think talking to her would help. I am actually wondering, If your sister older and trying to out do you??
2007-03-23 06:42:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yikes... that is really crappy of your sister to do this to you. This is suppose to be YOUR DAY and here she is pushing in on it. GEEZE... did she not get enough attention growing up that she has to hog in on you whenever you are getting a little attention. I say ask her to change her wedding date at least 6 months difference, and if she refuses... CHANGE YOURS because there is NOTHING worse than being compared to your sisters. and she is SOOO In the wrong on this.
2007-03-23 06:27:42 · answer #10 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋