me and my boyfriend have dated for 4 years we have a wonderful relationship. but when he gets on my space he finds other girls that live in the area that we do and starts trying to have cyper sex with them. he tells me that he doesnt mean it and the only reason he does seek these girls is because he is a nymp. i dont really think that is a good answer but when i try to talk more in dept about it he just drops the subject. i know that there is something i can do but i just dont know what it is. i dont want to end our relationship because he has never really done anything outside of the internet. please someone help me! i will do almost anything to get this problem to dissappear
2007-03-23 06:15:49 · 14 answers · asked by Jessica C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
BELIEVE ME he cheats on you constantly. Deal with it or end it NOW.
2007-03-23 06:18:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well some may say if it's on the internet that doesn't mean he'll do it in reality.
But I know if you entertain a thought long enough in your mind it's possible it could happen eventually in real life.
Some feel that kind of thing on the internet is a form of cheating because its like wanting to have sex with someone else, even if only in the mind. That is where it starts.
It's up to you what to do but look at your relationship and how you really get along, how you are treated.
I think is is time to leave, because honestly some people have more tendancy to do that and some don't. Maybe he is one of them. But wouldn't it be worse if he did cheat on you for real sometime in the future.
You are single and free. Decide what you will. But ask yourself this, or ask him... if you did the same thing on the internet with others and gave the same excuse would he be upset and call it BS or would he not be bothered?
Maybe then you'll have your answer.
2007-03-23 06:23:07 · answer #2 · answered by dmh7593 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean when you say, he has not done anything outside of the Internet. Don't you realize that lusting after some one begins in the mind before it becomes a reality in just a matter of time. You can practice this if you do not believe me. Just keep something on your mind long enough and then see how you will eventually act on it. Another thing , if he says that he is a nymphomaniac, then he also has a sex addiction and needs to be treated for it. I am sorry to tell you, this is a problem that will not go away without professional help or counseling.
2007-03-23 06:26:27 · answer #3 · answered by myleshunt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it as an addiction.
Step one... you find girls online
Step two... have cyber sex with girls online.
Step three... Cyber sex is no longer fulfilling
Step four... Find girls in person
Step five... well... you know...
Get him to stop the cyber sex or ditch the dude. Any guy that shows that much lack a respect for a four year relationship doesn't deserve to stay in one. You can do better. Four years is nothing compared to four more years of finding out that he's been cheating on you behind your back.
2007-03-23 06:26:55 · answer #4 · answered by lemonheads 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We became swingers for a while and now there is no jealousy. We don't do it anymore cause it got boring, but it got it out of our systems. LOL Sometimes we still think about doing it. It was good for our relationship and I got to experiment w/ my bisexual feelings. It is not for everyone, especially the over jealous or the overly uptight. You would be surprised by who swings. It is lawyers, docs, average people. L
2007-03-23 06:24:22 · answer #5 · answered by LUCY 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it sounds like he is a player and if it hasn't gone off the internet, it eventually will. If its that he has a sexual fixation with cyber sex - can you guys role play and you be a stranger on the internet?
2007-03-23 06:20:00 · answer #6 · answered by stepss1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish there was some magic help for you, but your bf has a problem and it's not going to disappear! As hard as it will be for you, you need to dump him and find someone who is not addicted to cybersex. Even though it's not REAL it's cheating!
2007-03-23 06:28:39 · answer #7 · answered by JEANNE B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey Iam sorry for you, It hurts I know, your best option would be to let this guy go, and move on with your life he is immature, tell him to get a life, and you get one to,(separately)
Good Luck
2007-03-23 06:21:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeh like my guy telling me its hard to be faithful..but he loves me so he is trying..WTF..gilr keep your eyes open..hoepfully heis not cheating outside of the internet
2007-03-23 06:20:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to quit or he's not getting any more p*ssy. That should solve the problem.
2007-03-23 06:20:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋