Hi. I am Mexican and mother of a 14-year old daugther and we may move to Kansas City, Kansas soon. She is freaking out because she feels she will have a hard time in adjusting (we live in crazy Mexico City, very different from the quiet life in KC).
Could you please give me some tips on how to help her cope with this change? Any suggestions?
Thanks in advance for your help.
2007-03-23 06:08:56 · 5 answers · asked by G 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I guess I should have added that we would be specifically moving to KS, KC because my boyfriend lives there. Not *******, BTW, I would be a legal immigrant.
2007-03-23 07:19:00 · update #1
Well, I'm not Latino but I think I have some good suggestions!
Find things in the area that interest your daughter. If she likes to dance, find her ba studio. If she likes art, art classes. Sports abound too! If she likes to read, find a poetry club. The community should have a library with information about community events and such or you could flip through the phone book. Having her involved in something she is already familiar with will help her make friends quickly and easily as they already she a comment interest.
Take her around the neighborhood either on bikes or in your car so you are BOTH familiar with the lay of the land. That way she will knwo where things are happening and where people hang out and YOU will have the comfort of knowing where she is and what goes on there.
Make sure she is allowed to call her old friends as much as she wants. Encourage her to take pictures of her new city and share them with her old friends. Make a photo collage of old places and faces that's the first thing she hangs up in her new room. Before you leave Mexico City, have a going away party. Take LOTS of pictures and have the girls exchange friendship bracelets or something of the like to remind them of each other.
She will be okay, make it special for her. When she finds out what the "coolest" fashion accessory in KCY is, make sure she has one. LIttle things will help her feel more comfortable without losing herself in the process. You're a good mother, you'll do just fine!!!
Good luck!
2007-03-23 06:22:25 · answer #1 · answered by Kristy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why Kansas City? I dont know if Kansas is the best place to go if you are worried about her adjusting. I would say any gulf coast cities. There are plenty of hispanics in Texas... myself I dont care for Texas. There are also quite a few hispanics in Mississippi and Alabama. Around Biloxi, MS and Mobile, AL there are several jobs for hispanics and the society is very acepting. If she enjoys the busy city life then try up north. Frederick, Maryland is very large... there are plenty a jobs.... quite a few hispanics... not as many as on the coast but there are a large group of them.... they are also a pretty accepting area. I have found states like Kanas, Arkansas, Indiana, and Ilinois to be not as accepting.
2007-03-23 06:17:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk to your daughter, because it is going to be a big change for the both of you. It's really good that you can speak good English, that will help things alot. My husband is from Mexico, and when we go in public, we sometimes get dirty looks.I'm white and alot of white people here don't like mexicans. They are just jealous I guess!Who cares? Any way what i am saying is that it is hard for someone from another country to fit in sometimes! Good Luck and safe trip!Welcome to America!
2007-03-23 06:15:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have some advise. I moved a lot as a kid. Found out what is in style there and get some new clothes there before going to school. I had some bad experiences with clothes and new towns.
2007-03-23 06:52:09 · answer #4 · answered by The Invisible Woman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i contemplate whether that's the actual fact you're from different cultures, or if that's a faith element. in case you're of an identical faith, that would desire to help her mum and dad such as you extra. in the event that they allowed you to spend time with them so as that they might comprehend you have been a good guy, they might turn unfastened of their choker-carry on their daughter. If not one of the above helps, i might say which you 2 might desire to comply with see individuals. in case you're going off to college interior the autumn, an entire new international awaits. you will possibly desire to nonetheless % to be together with her, and that's to be expected. in line with possibility you 2 might desire to devise to % an identical college so as that when she gets there a 365 days when you do, you 2 might desire to attempt back with out her mum and dad respiration down her neck. till her mum and dad loosen up or till you 2 are out from under their watchful eyes, that's ideal to relax off the relationship. it extremely is an poor lot of rigidity for the two considered one of you and the relationship does no longer be virtually as relaxing because it somewhat might desire to be. Sorry it extremely is occurring. i wish you 2 hit upon a manner via this. good success! :-)
2016-10-20 07:18:18 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋