My friend has a boy who is about to turn 8 yrs old he is a monster I would'nt normally be like that about a child I will give some examples of what he does...
Everytime he is at my house he wee's or poo's every where in my toillet,
he's mean to my four year old son
he kisses and cuddles my six year old daughter when she ask's him not to
he spat at me when I told him off
he is violent to his mother
he has to win at all costs
he tells the smaller ones to do things
and lies
called His mum a F***ing W***re in the middle of the shop
and hit a 6mth old baby
he does other things also but they are some of his worst
I have got to the point where I dont want him at my house for my childrens sake I have talked to his parents but no matter who tells them and a lot of people do
she will make excuses for him in front of him I am an upfront person and have said I think the kid needs to see a doctor
all she can say is he's no naughtier than other children how do I say No more
2007-03-23 05:59:54 · 12 answers · asked by loopy loo 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
OPEN YOUR MOUTH WIDE...........NOW READY?
NO MORE!!!!!
You must protect your children from this poor sick child.
2007-03-23 06:34:33 · answer #1 · answered by sw-in-gardener 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that this is more of a parents problem than a kid problem. I mean he is now 8 years old, and can be dealt with, but the reason he is this way is because of how his parents have treated him. Is he an only child? Is he the oldest or youngest child? Do mom and dad correct him, ever? The parents need to change before they have a really bad person on their hands. Give that boy 8 more years and he could end up REALLY hurting someone else!
2007-03-23 06:31:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her point blank (whether shes a close friend or not) say "your son is not allowed in my house nor to play with my children until you see a drastic change in his behavior." If she is making excuses dont help her along... tell her why, and when she makes excuses for him tell her what a good idea would be for him and repeat yourself and say "no more" at your house. If you draw it out she will make excuses for why you blew her off. She needs to know loud and CLEAR. For her kids sake too. All kids deserve a good childhood, and maybe hes having a hard time figuring right from wrong. So do it for him too.
2007-03-23 06:25:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
say you do not want that behaviour in the house if he can not behave he can not come in. when your friend is over make him stay in the yard away from your kids. he may get the picture. or tell your friend that you can not have that kind of behaviour around your children when she comes to come with out him. I am sure he not the worst behaved child. but guess what the worst ones are.
I would not allow it in the house. I have my childrens friends come over all the time. and I know in my house they are respectful.
You can not do anything if the mother is not willing to do something. but you can protect you and yours.
2007-03-23 06:30:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he might be in need of seeing a doctor, but being that he isn't your child or relative it is really hard to tell her this. If it really bothers you, make plans to get together without the kids. Or tell her, which I know could ruin your friendship, but save you the sanity. My son has add but isn't violent or hurtful, this might be a case of adhd or worse..
2007-03-23 06:27:40 · answer #5 · answered by Chelle F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family comes before your friendship. There is absolutely no reason to have disrespectful, dangerous children in your home or around your kids, regardless of their parent's relationship with you. Unfortunately you will have to stop seeing this friend. Maybe in the future, when she wakes up and does something about her son, you can be friends again.
2007-03-23 06:11:28 · answer #6 · answered by Lyn 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is simple. You tell your friend that you simply can not allow her son to come to your house anymore. Tell her that his behavior is unacceptable in your home and that many of his actions have left your children afraid of him. Tell her you understand she loves her child and that only she can decide what he should or should not do, but that until he is either in therapy or learns better manners he is not welcome in your home. It will be tough...you stand a chance of loosing your friend. But I agree that the safety of your own children, as well as your own emotional well being, come first.
2007-03-23 08:19:13 · answer #7 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should not tell off some ones child, it's time to so no, no visits no play dates, and if the mom asks why be honest, put your family first, that friend is not being a good parent or friend, time to let go
2007-03-23 06:14:35 · answer #8 · answered by melissa s 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You`ll have to, unfortunately set bounderies with your friend. Tell her that she can`t come over until she understands that her sons disrespectful behaviour has to stop. Yes, children do misbehave, but they need to be corrected.
2007-03-23 06:13:16 · answer #9 · answered by lost2day 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel you here, I have family like this.
But you obviously do not want the influence of his behavior around your children. Sounds like your friend needs to get ahold of his attitude before he gets any older.
2007-03-23 06:26:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's your house, It's your castle and you can have whoever you want in it. Kick the kid and mother out and don't feel bad about it.
2007-03-23 06:13:30 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋