I am 23 and I am completing my graduate studies. I have always found a balance in studying hard and hanging-out. Everyone knows how much I like to go out and how very outgoing I am. However, I broke up with my boyfriend about two weeks ago because he was being unreasonably jealous. It wasn't the first time that he was clearly upset in front of everyone. He is truly an amazing guy (i.e. incredibly considerate and fun) but I have difficulties dealing with his tantrums. The fact that he had custody of his 6 yr old daughter, the fact that he is a 30 yr old who was never able to complete his studies, and the fact that he is working as a waiter never bothered me because I saw in him some amazing qualities (he was much more than what he did, to me).
Should I go ahead and move on or should I try, once again, to work things out with him? I don't want to get involved in an abusive relationship and regreat being with him but I can't stop thinking about him. Any advice?
2007-03-23 05:56:35 · 12 answers · asked by Me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Move on. It was only 9 months. You REALLY don't want to end up with a controlling abuser.
2007-03-23 05:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by kermit 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, even at 6 months, I think it would be just as painful. I don't think it was so much that he was prolonging it...more that he was trying to figure out whether or not this was the relationship to last. He didn't want to cut it off or say anything to soon, because he was not sure. Believe it or not..this actually has a bright side to it ( I know it doesn't seem like that now, but...) consider yourself lucky that you did not get married and then end up having to go through a divorce. Every individual is different...if it is worth the risk, and you don't want to be alone...you will have to trust again, otherwise you will never have a good relationship. Please, whatever you do...don't judge the new guys on the past guy's behavior.
2016-03-29 01:04:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Me,
Your only 23. First of all don't get back with this guy ( nice or not ). You are about to start your career. Start it. Be on your own. Buy your own home etc. Date. Nothing serious. Just casual dating. Good time to find out what kind of guys you really like. Expand your horizons. You have plenty of time for a serious committed relationship a few years down the road. I am a 35 year old male. I was married at a very young age ( yes I am still married ). I am happy and love my wife and kids but I wish so bad that I had lived on my own and had the single life before starting the life that I now lead. Enjoy this time in your life. Yes you will love being in a happy relationship with kids etc. but just wait a little while before you take the plunge. Get to know yourself better before you find a long term guy. I know everybody says "there are no good guys out there so if you find one you better grab him" but that is not true. There are lot's of great guys and they will still be there in 4 years waiting for you.
2007-03-23 06:11:12 · answer #3 · answered by great dane fanatic 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You're too young to be in such serious relationships. You shouldn't have any boyfriends right now. What you should be doing is focusing on your studies, and starting your career, meanwhile just casually dating different guys when you have the time. In a couple of years, when you are finished with school and are working in the career that you have been going to school for, then you can start having serious relationships. Until then, just worry about your career, and have a little fun!
2007-03-23 06:53:04 · answer #4 · answered by eviltruitt 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i disagree with most of the answers you have got. you shouldnt always put careers and material things in front of love thats how people end up old and alone! you have to consider that he is older and at a different stage of his life than you are maybe he just doesnt understand your behavior and is mistaking your outgoingness as flirting and he also may be ready to settle down and doesnt understand why you need to go out as much as you do. if you are really afraid that he might be abusive in the future you should definetly move on but if not and you really do love him talk to him and see what happens
2007-03-31 04:11:48 · answer #5 · answered by holdemmike100 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Move on now. The man is a jealous twit, he has an ex and more baggage than the O'Hare airport. Get out while you can you see this coming .. what did they teach you in school?
When you feel uncomfortable in a situation.. RUN!
2007-03-23 06:01:14 · answer #6 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have u seen sleeping with the enemy??? This sounds to me like the beginning of that same story. Guys who are possesive get u n2 messes. If u were all gusssssssshhhhhhhhhhyyyyyyyyyyyyyy and ga ga over some other guy, I could symp with him, but not at times like this. This calls for a major kick to the curb.
2007-03-30 17:50:37 · answer #7 · answered by Priss 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
jealousy is a sign of insecurity and low self esteem.
It's not worth it. Do you still love him? Give it a few months and see what happens.
2007-03-23 06:01:19 · answer #8 · answered by Butterfly 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a rough start already.. watch your step as you go out the door
2007-03-31 02:52:51 · answer #9 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont even think about it of going back, start a new life cos going back means your life will be a total hassle
2007-03-30 22:45:14 · answer #10 · answered by aircapone 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋