my boyfriend's great aunt just passed away and he's been really emotional since then! i told him that im here for him if he needs anything! and he said that he doesnt need anyone to talk to! its like everything i say makes him mad! i dont want to make him mad but i want him to know that im here and i care! im just tired of making him mad! ive tried backing off but then i feel like im not caring!! what should i do?
2007-03-23 05:53:26 · 10 answers · asked by Jenna Lee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell him that no matter where is aunt is, she will always be beside him and in his heart!!!!! ask him if he needs dome time off!!!!! and tell him that u still care no matter what he does and that he should be happy that his aunt is sumwhere more peacful and not struggling in this world, and that he will sum day meet her again!!!!
2007-03-23 05:59:55 · answer #1 · answered by smith_kallissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u go on like this chances are u two would get in a fight and u may lose him.If he don't want to talk to anyone give him some space, let him be alone for a while.But don't leave him alone always, just go to meet him atleast once a day and give him some presents like chocolates or anything which he likes and chhers up his mood.U r caring for him but he his heartbroken after that incident, in such a situation time is the best healer. Pls give him condolences from my side too!
2007-03-23 13:12:14 · answer #2 · answered by Mystery Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you've had someone close to you die you cant really relate and that is prolly what he is thinking right now. Dont sit there and say i understand and everything will be ok becuase most likely you dont and everything wont be ok. but you can comfort him. and let him know thats exactly what your there to do is make him feel better. Your not there to stich up this open wound (even though you want too). Make sure he knows taht you know that you cant fix everything just that you want to help in any way possible!
2007-03-23 13:00:34 · answer #3 · answered by mare022 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to be there for him, don't keep asking what you can do. Each person moves at their own pace and deals with situations in their own way. The more you push (and you +are+ pushing), the more you are going to push him away.
If you really want to do something for him - do something for him - whether it be go to a movie you'd rather not see with him or just surprise him with something out of the blue. But do NOT press him for his feelings. Care through your own actions and I'm sure he'll be grateful.
2007-03-23 12:58:48 · answer #4 · answered by Sean/Guy Wiley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great aunt!? Dude....who even knows their great aunt? It can't be that serious. Or I'm out of touch. This is the perfect time for you to bail on this guy...sounds like a bit of a pansy actually.
2007-03-23 13:03:30 · answer #5 · answered by Tadow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You told him you were there for him. That's it - one time is enough. Let him decide how he wants to grieve. He may NOT want to talk to you about it. So, let it go and he will quit getting mad at you about it.
2007-03-23 12:58:01 · answer #6 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You care and he knows. Everyone has different ways of dealing with issues.
2007-03-23 12:59:55 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for him if he reaches out...just give him some space right now
2007-03-23 12:57:53 · answer #8 · answered by Bad Mood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him his space he will approach u when hes ready he has to work thru his greiving process just knowing ur there for him willb enuff
2007-03-23 12:58:15 · answer #9 · answered by mmbmw2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang there he will get over it he just needs some time
2007-03-23 13:17:06 · answer #10 · answered by babyphat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋