My 10 year old brother has been getting bullied and was excluded from school today for fighting. He insists everythings ok. How should I tell him to solve the problem. Is there anything encourageing I could say to him?
2007-03-23 05:50:36 · 18 answers · asked by bumblecustard 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds like he's handling it by fighting. Good for him.
Bullies pick on those who won't fight back or are too scared to fight.
If your brother is in the process of being bullied and instead strikes out with swift violence against the bully, that will probably resolve the problem nicely.
One of my regrets as a kid was one time when I was being bullied, I just weaseled out of it, instead of just going after the guy. Sure he probably could have beaten me up, but at least he'd know I'd stand up for myself and wouldn't let myself be bulllied.
I know, this is not the PC advice we get from parents and psychologists, but it is the way of the world. Those that stand up for themselves and are prepared to fight often never have to.
2007-03-23 05:56:31 · answer #1 · answered by Uncle Pennybags 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my brother and I were younger the same thing use to happen to him he was real skinny and kid of a wise a s s , We were two years apart in school so I became a mediator and most of the time things worked out but these days bulling is so much more intense he should probably check in with a counselor just to check if his self esteem is still intact, and that he is not the only person being singled out by this person, but if the bulling is something you yourself can handle I would approach the bully myself (if your bro is o.k. with it) and tell it how it is, in the most tasteful way possible bulling is typically a mind game if you are sharp and you probably are, Come at em with a sharper more wise way of doing things without hurting their self esteem cause chances are they have got problems deeper then just being a dick, People just want happiness see how you can help, that's what I did and my brother turned out just fine.
2007-03-23 06:39:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This bullying in schools is becoming so outrageous and downright evil. I watched Montel yesterday, and his guests had mothers whose children were literally physically assaulted by CHILDREN. And one VICTIMS Mother was told by the school, that BOTH her son, and the ATTACKER should be suspended/expelled!!!! What the H*** is going on???? These so called educators (principals, school board, teachers) are sitting around with their thumbs up their A** doing absolutely NOTHING to protect our children! Parents EVERYWHERE should start making these educators accountable for letting these things go on! Please, for the sake of your little brother, make some noise, go to the local news if you have to, bring awareness to this national crisis. These little punk thugs who go to school and wreak havoc on other innocent children need to be stopped. Yeah, what kind of advice do you tell a 10 yr. old??? He doesn't want to look like a sissy I'm sure, but for God's sake he shouldn't even have to be worrying about getting into fights!!! Was he fighting to defend himself??? if yes, then why the heck was HE punished??? Do you see the injustice???
2007-03-23 06:07:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a big sister, there's not much you can do for him in terms of bullying (as I'm sure you're not in the school with him) - the best you can do is just spend time with him and do things that he likes with him or help him and his friends hang out through driving them around. Being part of his support group is very important at this age.
2007-03-23 05:55:05 · answer #4 · answered by Sean/Guy Wiley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your behavior was extremely immature, you are acting like a 5 year old throwing a tantrum. You need to suffer the consequences of what you did, if you don't like it then follow your parents rules! I hope your older brother tells your mom and you get grounded longer for being a little brat. I am 15 and my brother is 25 and we NEVER disrespect each other. I would never damage his things. Please grow up.
2016-03-29 01:03:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was bullied a lot as a kid(being small for my age and quiet didn't help).
I think your brother needs to confront this bully and show him he's not afraid of him and won't back down any more.
2007-03-23 06:51:16 · answer #6 · answered by jimmideon49 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depending on how old you are you can actually help alot. My little sister was bullied in school as well and i put a stop to it just by being the "cool big sister" i'd tell her to call one of her class mates and invite them to the movies or the mall or somewhere they liked to go. Before she knew it she was the most popular kid in school and everyone wanted to go hang out at her house....
2007-03-23 06:24:23 · answer #7 · answered by mare022 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only way that this can be solve is him beatng one up. Cuase if one of you goes and tells on the bullys its just gonna make it orse and then your brother will be reffer as a "snitch"
If your brother ets the bullying continue ig wil just keep goin..and trust me dont get involve in it youll emberace him so much ....nothing worse then your sister fighting your battles
2007-03-23 06:20:22 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, who says he's being bullied, that's the first thing. Are you sure he's telling the truth? I am assuming that the school investigated it thoroughly.
The school should have contacted your parents and they should be dealing with this.
2007-03-23 06:12:54 · answer #9 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bullies are that way cause their life sucks and they are not happy till some one elce is miserable
I had my daughter corner the bully when no one else was around, she walked up pushed her in the john and said now that your alone whats your problom....in a group they are braver alone they fall.............................. She never had another problom
we went to the school NOTHING
we went to the teacher NOTHING
we went to her parents NOTHING
So I made her take it into her own hands
IT ENDED THERE ON THAT DAY
2007-03-23 06:00:50 · answer #10 · answered by Peggy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋