To quote an old line from Seinfeld, what goes into the process whereby you decide that someone in worthy enough to go all the way? So many men are expert at presenting themselves in ways that turn out ot be less than true leading to disappointment. Are there any tips for avoiding this outcome? Any thoughts?.
2007-03-23 05:49:42 · 5 answers · asked by suzzieQ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just sleep with everyone, experience is a valuable trait, so just use a sponge again if you have too.
2007-03-23 05:53:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
Unfortunately, there's no magic number or formula to answer this question. Part of the answer depends upon your expectations; in other words, what do you require to go all the way? For some people, it's as simple as a look in the eye. For others, dinner and a movie will suffice. Some want to feel secure in a long term monogamous relationship, and still other expect wedding vows.
Another consideration is what do you expect to gain from going all the way. If you're simply wanting to satisfy your biological cravings, there's a reasonable chance that you won't be disappointed--and if the guy turns out to be a complete loser in the sack, you won't have to look far to find another to test drive.
If your needs are more complex and you want to share your sexuality as a mutual expression of lasting affection, there's a greater risk of disappointment. We all want to believe the best of our partners and not feel like we're being taken for a ride, but it's best to remember that actions speak louder than words and that a "track record" can only be established over a period of time.
I can't quote any numbers to back this up, but I strongly suspect that the people who are most likely to be disappointed are those who try to use sex to broker a "permanent" relationship.
My advice is have sex if you want sex, but do so in the context of enjoying it for its own sake and for how it can enhance your relationship but not for how you expect it to define that relationship and definitely not based upon any expectations of any guarantees.
2007-03-23 13:21:16 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Really get to know them--and not just them, but their friends and family, too. And if they pressure you for it or say it will prove your love, they're not worth another second of your time. And listen to your instincts-if a guy is a jerk, you aren't going to change him with your love, no matter how incredibly awesome you are. And don't settle for less than you know your deserve-ever.
2007-03-23 12:56:13 · answer #3 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
trust ur gut instinct remember tv love and relationships are scripted in reality it never happens in 30 minutes with commercials relationships take work and unless ur into workin on it then ur in it for the sport of being cheif sponge bob bedpostpants
2007-03-23 12:55:07 · answer #4 · answered by mmbmw2000 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i can say wait 2 weeks when that's usually when the horns come out, but alot of gals get jumped before that lol what a waste of the sponge isnt it? or in my case, time lol *sigh*
2007-03-23 12:52:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋