ok, so me and my boyfriend have been dating for 4 months now, and i feel like im ready to move our relationship up a level.. problem is, that his parents are always home when i'm over, and always check on us like every 30 mins.
i'm nervous to move ahead cause i've never been past like making out and "petting the monkey" for like 5 mins. he f1ingered me before, which was awsome, but still..
any advice.??
2007-03-23 05:40:41 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i get what all of you are saying.. but like his parents arent' as half as bad as mine. like my parents wont even let us share a blanket sitting on a couch. i mean really... come on. so his house is basically "the house" we can do anything in.
i can do more at school then i can at home. wtf is up with that??
2007-03-23 05:48:38 · update #1
If the only place that this momentous event can happen is at your boyfriend's house.....You're way to young to be even considering it.
2007-03-23 05:44:17 · answer #1 · answered by flowbabyflow 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off, you are fairly young and inexperienced. You will fumble around a lot before you have any good idea of what you are doing or supposed to do. Don't take the chance of getting cought by your parents. It is never good. First, go to a birth control clinic, both of you, and get all the lectures and ask all of the questions. Second, find a secluded beach or park someplace. You may get caught, but it won't be by your parents. Mostly, take your time. It will all come together some day and it will work. If you push it, that is when you run into problems.
2007-03-23 12:54:34 · answer #2 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its really not a good idea to be doing this in his parents house even thought you really want to. Do you honestly want to get caught and then never be allowed over there again.
You need to find somewhere else. Maybe at a party, or at your house or anywhere you cant get caught.
You need protection.
If its both your first times then it may all feel a little trial and error because you have never done it before. Dont just jump into this. Think about it and dont try and just get it over with quickly.
Also how old are you. His parents may be checking up on your for a very good reason.
2007-03-23 12:54:21 · answer #3 · answered by salsabrunette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep. Never do anything your not truly ready to do. Otherwise, youll regret it for the rest of your life. Trust me, I know. Now, if and when you decide to go all the way, first, get protection. Not just for you but for him too. Second, find a place where you and him can have at least 2 hours worth of privacy. For the record, though, I think 4 months is just a little too little amount of time to go from 0 to 60. You may be better off waiting at least another 4 months and dont let him pressure you.
2007-03-23 12:49:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well I say don't rush it....If there is a reason you two can't get alone maybe its not meant to be right now. Give it some time ,wait it out, and see what happens. Me and My boyfriend are at this stage of our relationship where we feel like we are ready , but we both know we shouldn't and it's hard to sneak around the parentals, so I figure we just wait it out, we are about to be grown and out of the house and so we got plenty of time to do what we wanna do..( that's my point of view I look at it from) and on the bright side theres always kissing and hugging and being all touchy feely which is fun.. :-)
2007-03-23 12:49:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead with this. Don't be nervous about his parents knowing anything. You are an individual capable of deciding your life. Good luck with everything. If you still insist U could make plans for not letting his parents know.
2007-03-26 12:50:18 · answer #6 · answered by Chaste 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes, TMI, I would wait..it doesn't sound like you are ready to take on the responsibility that sex involves .I know that sounds Korney, but you will know when the time is right and with the parents always home then that should be a red flag for you..
2007-03-23 12:46:40 · answer #7 · answered by Bad Mood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off if you are younger then 18 don't bother .. they are always home anc checking because parents don't trust boys and they also don't trust girls either not to have sex or try to in there own house.. i have gotten away with it with my fiance because i am 23 and he is 22 and my parents leave us alone cause they work. my dad has every other friday off and he and i still manage to do it cause my dad never leaves the house on his days off. if you are there when they go to work try then but if it the weekend then don't bother trying anything when they don't leave.
2007-03-23 12:46:11 · answer #8 · answered by Da Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why cant he come over to your house? Or why cant you two go on a picnic in a private area. Just because its not in a bed, doesnt make it any less romantic. Good luck
2007-03-23 12:44:10 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're obviously quite young. Have you spoken with him about this? Maybe HE isn't ready? And, have you thought about birth control? And about what you'll do if that fails? I am all for physical intimacy, but make sure you are ready for the consequences of your actions! Be smart!!!!
2007-03-23 12:45:10 · answer #10 · answered by melouofs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋