Hey everyone i just got myself a new girlfriend 21 years old we have been seeing each other for a week now and we get on really well. I know she will take it up to the next level and will want to have sex with me soon the problem is i'm 23 years old and still a virgin i feel stupid but some people say its a good thing. I just never found the right person to do it with. I'm pretty worried about telling her and what she will think, plus i'm worried about showing myself to her and what she will think should i be? i am 5 inches and non circumcised is that ok?. i know most guys moan about there size but i just don't want to put her off i really like this girl. Thanks for your help.
2007-03-23 05:23:38 · 31 answers · asked by djrhythmdave 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ur jumping the gun aren't u?
one week?
4 heavens sake get 2 know each other b4 u worry about ur looks, performance & the after effects!
& 5 inches is entirely normal.
NORMAL.
ur worrying over nothing at this stage.
2007-03-23 05:28:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi mate, I'm 23 too. I had sex the for the first time ever last year. It was tough! I mean, gearing up for it, all the worry what she would think of the way I look and inexperience.
I think girls actually feel good knowing that the guy they are with is a virgin, due to the fact it makes them feel "special" because they get to take your virginity from you. Unless your girl is purely after sex, it should be fine. That's good thinking on the finding the right person to do it with, because it's that extra bit special when you're with the right person.
I am certain if you tell her, she will be fine with it, even happy I reckon. She might go "Wow!" but it would be a good wow, not a bad one. 5 inches is fine and non circumcised is also fine. I'm not circumcised, and I think about 62% of males aren't in Europe, so it's pretty normal.
When it comes to sex, tell her you don't know what to do, and that you need guidance. She should be cool with that. Let her be on top, and let her put your, uhhh, penis inside her with her hand. It's that much easier! Just take it slow, and please understand that the change of you actually managing to *** the first time is low. Most guys don't, because they are so nervous. Tell her this beforehand, that it may take a while for you to get used to it before you can fully let yourself go, because you're worried.
2007-03-23 12:33:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well you shouldnt worry about your size or the fact that you arent cut. Most guys from the UK arent so she wont be expecting any different.
If you think that this girl is really great and you think she is a nice person then tell her that you have never done it before. She should be cool with it. Dont make it into a big deal. Maybe you just want to say that you havent got much experience and this is a nicer way of saying that you havent done it before. Maybe she can teach you some tricks?
Just take it realy slowly. Dont feel intimidated. Dont rush to fast to get it over with otherwise it will be over in a flash and youll regret it. Work really hard to satisfy her before you go for it, that will make her know that her pleasure is important to you and that you dont want to just get the sex out of the way because you are inexperienced.
If you start and it doesnt feel totally right then tell her.
Also there is no real rush to have sex anyway. I mean you have only been seeing her for 1 week. Give it a chance to get to know her a bit better, the more comfortable you feel around her the better your first time will be.
Hope this helps
2007-03-23 12:32:24 · answer #3 · answered by salsabrunette 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it! I was a virgin at 23, too - she'll understand, and she should be flattered that you think she's the right person!
Also, it's a little known fact, but size really doesn't matter - most of the nerve endings are in the first two inches of a woman's vagina, so as long as you don't have a micro-penis you'll be all right :D
Spend time on the foreplay and maybe do some oral, she'll think you're fantastic!
2007-03-23 12:42:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you may be 23, but I think the problem with this society is that even when you get to that age, there is still a stigma with regards to being a virgin... Remember the days of being an adolescent and feeling like you should fit in? Or just getting away with blagging about your virginity? To be perfectly honest and rational about this, being a virgin doesn't make you who you are and by now you have probably had a lot of other different experiences anyway... If your new girlfriend feels uncomfortable with this, or takes the micky of you then she isn't worth your time - all people come in different shapes and sizes, personalities and have had different and unique backgrounds. No one should make you feel pressured or embarressed for being who you are.
There is a lot you can change about yourself, but there are equally other things you can't. Explain the truth to her in a succint and factual way, and just explain that you would prefer her to go in to this slowly... If She doesn't respond to this appropriately don't bother with her, I'm sure there are plenty of open minded and understanding women out there who would like to be with you...
Just be strong with who 'you' are, and be proud of who you are and what you've done, good or bad.... Warts and all. Do what you want with your body in your own time, thats my only advice for now... (P.s Practice makes perfect) lol
2007-03-23 12:37:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must tell her how you feel, and that you are a virgin -though she will know fairly quickly, from the way you are behaving in the bedroom.
Most girls will feel flattered that they are your first sexual partner, and if she does indeed care deeply for you she will take things slowly.
Don't expect your first time to last long, especially if you are fairly highly aroused, as your body wont want to wait for your girlfriends arousal -some reading on what to expect may be of use, here I've added a couple of site addresses that may help you to understand what's going on (see after my reply).
The most important advice I can give you is wear a Condom (new one every time) for both your and her protection from STIs and unwanted pregnancy -the contraceptive pill would be a good idea (for her) too.
Take your time, relax, and go gently with your girlfriend... and have fun.
2007-03-23 13:18:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first off don't go having sex with her after onlya week. if she thinks that a week is long enough she isnt the right girl for you..
it took me and my fiance 3 months before we did anything like that and we have been together for almost 3 years and i am 23 he is only 22. DON"T give her sex just because she wants it.. if you respect her you will wait and make her wait for at least another few weeks.. circumsized is fine 5 inches is small not average which is 6 inches but if your not gonna listen to me the cover your dick dude. condom use is important . she thinks she is ready for sex but she doesn't know she isn't. tell her you are not comfortable with it right now if she gets mad tell her to leave and never come back
2007-03-23 12:31:32 · answer #7 · answered by Da Q 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whoahhhhhh hold it right there!!!
your new lady is gona be so impressed that you have chosen her as the special one to loose your viginity with.
5 inches...... please please dont worry..... this is totaly average.... and at the end of the day it isnt the size of the boat that counts is it... its the motion of the ocean...... as for circumcision.... there are more guys out there who have not been curcumcised than guys who have..... the main thing with circumcisaion is that its cleaner for a start. btu so long as you wash well and look after yourself this shouldnt be an issue.
i suggest you take thinigs slowly..... lots of kissing, and lots of foreplay...... a woman loves foreplay...... take your time.... cherrish the moment. seriously now i doubt sahe is gone be lying there thinking to herself .... oh my god hes only 5 inches"
explore each other... be sure to ask her what she likes..... and be sure to tell her what you like..... being open and honest about sex will ensure you both get what you want.
i wish you all the very best in your new found relationship.......well done for finding that special person.
ps..... dont forget to make sure you have condoms handy...... it always looks better on a guy if he ensures that he is well prepared..... safe sex is always thew best kind of sex.....
have fun xx
2007-03-23 12:35:22 · answer #8 · answered by in the truth 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you sound to have a very loving relationship, So any (and you haven't) irregularities would be of no consequence to her anyway ok! and why you feel that a helmet on or off makes any difference i've no idea?? You worry too much mate, life is short and you have blown a few years here 23!! All the best...LEX.
2007-03-23 12:35:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't worry about it. If she likes you and if she's the right girl these concerns you have really will just be trivial. Telling her your a virgin again won't be a big deal. She'll probably feel quite privileged that you're happy for your first time to be with her. Just relax!
2007-03-23 12:35:21 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋