ok so i've been with this guy for three months and the other day it was his birthday. me, him and my sister went out for drinks.... we all were drinking but he got really drunk and at one point in conversation he told my sister that it would be a good idea to open up a business for her self because she never know what the furture holds and that looks only last so long and that her husband might find the next pretty lil thing.... This is my sisters situation... she does not have to work because her husband makes a lot of money... my sisters huband is also 25 years older than her... but that is her business and i dont get into her business... the next day my sister refreshes my memeory cause i hadnt remembered this... and so i confront my boyfriend and ask him why he would say such things.. he says he doesnt remember and he feels really bad for ever saying anthing like that... but i break up with him anyways because i really dont know what to think... what would you do?
2007-03-23 05:21:35 · 12 answers · asked by Lipstick 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ive never seen this sort of behavior from him... meaning when he is sober ive never heard him get into other peoples business... i really like him but dont know if this is a red flag...
2007-03-23 05:25:22 · update #1
ya well what do you expect from someone who is drunk?
2007-03-23 05:25:45 · answer #1 · answered by JK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's an offense that warrants breaking up with him. Sometimes when people have too much to drink, their tongue gets loose and they say things they ordinarily wouldn't say if sober. Granted, it's usually what's really on their minds (he obviously really feels what he said) but etiquette and tact usually takes a backseat when one is drinking - or drunk. You've already explained to him what he said and how it made you, and your sister, feel. All he can do at this point is apologize for hurting her feelings and hopefully you all can move on. Not really a big deal. If I can add my $0.02, I happen to agree with your bf. Beauty fades and men are fickle, if her husband is the "trophy barbie-wife" type, when she no longer looks like that, WILL he trade her in on a younger version? He just might. She should be putting a nest egg away for herself now so when the hypnotics of her beauty stops holding her husband's attention, she won't be left high and dry with nothing to show for it. Good luck.
2007-03-23 13:03:35 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he does not know your sister's husband, he is just being honest with his feelings and advice. It is not personal. You could cut him some slack and at the same time ask him not to give out advice like that because it can be hurtful. Then move on. He is just giving a man's perspective on life.
If he knows her husband pretty well then maybe this is a more serious warning and bears further investigation into what her husband is thinking/planning/doing/etc.
2007-03-23 12:29:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dumped the guy because he got drunk and stupid (which he normally doesn't do). While he insulted your sister, he may not have meant it that way. It could have been worse and he could have suggested a three way with you and your sister.
You have only known the guy three months, but you should have given him more of a chance to explain himself. What do you want him to do? Look within yourself and ask if you have done this with other relationships. It is easier to break things off when not a lot of yourself has been invested.
Good luck.
2007-03-23 12:33:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First he is right. No matter how rich your husband might be always have your own money if not to spend it at least to save it cause you realy dont know what the future hides. He said when he was drunk casue this is the time we let out our true feelings and concerns so he said it with honesty. I dopn't see a reaon why would you break up with him. RETHINK IT THROUGH
2007-03-23 12:32:52 · answer #5 · answered by EDD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you may have overreacted a bit by breaking up with him. Maybe there were other factors to the breakup. You said it yourself you were all drinking. I'm not saying your sister is wrong, but do you think her judgment could have been a little cloudy? He did apologize, give him the chance to apologize to your sister. Bottom line, do you want him in your life? If so give him a second chance, unless you feel that this is the beginning of things to come.
Good Luck
2007-03-23 12:29:34 · answer #6 · answered by Shy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to break up with him if you know the reason. The real reason is he has an alcohol problem (as indicated by black outs) and you don't want to spend you life straightening out the messes he gets into when he's drunk.
Tell him you'll consider getting back together with him if he starts going to AA meetings or some kind of alcohol rehab.
2007-03-23 12:27:48 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my bf when he is drunk he said all the funny things and i accept his words, he said to me if i marry him and we have out first child, our child will be older then he son who is 9 yrs of age, then he said to me that his mum won't like me if i our first born is a girl, or he will say my love, i am sorry to i love u so much but will u still marry someone like me a poor and not good looking guy. then he pass out. I looked at him and smile.
The next day i asked him why must our first born be older than ur son? He asked me who said that, and i say dear u did and he goes omg, did i say that i am so sorry, i was not myself yesterday, then i asked him again, u mom will not be happy if our first born is a girl, who said that he asked me and i said u did, and he goes man i should not have drink so much,i am sorry love my mum loves u like her daughter, no matter our first child is a boy or girl.
And baby girl, i know u will love me and i really want to make u my wife. I m so sorry i got drunk yesterday and tell u things that hurt u. and he don't recall how he went to bed , the last thing he remember is he was talking to me.
2007-03-23 13:02:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm... why would ou break up with him over this?? obviously you are very uptight, as he was drunk and didnt even remember saying this!? and who is to say he was being serious anyway.. maybe he didnt think you or your sister were so touchy. . maybe the relationship was never that strong and this is an excuse to get out?.. i do apologise if u think im being harsh but its the truth.
2007-03-23 12:27:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when people get drunk they can make mistakes and maybe he has said something that he didn't mean it's whether you trust him or not!!!
2007-03-23 12:26:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you broke up with him over that? you couldnt have been in love with him, we all say stupid things, if we drink, and after all mabey he was right about her husband
2007-03-23 12:26:30 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋