Age space between kids?

Question

My husband and I have a 9 month old and want to begin thinking about another child. What is a nice space in age between siblings? I am 6 years older than my sis and 8 years older than my bro and I feel like that is too much and that they are too close together. Does anyone have kids that seem to be spaced a nice distance apart?

Answer 1

I don't have kids, but I felt that my folks spaced my sister and I out perfectly. We are about 5 years apart. This was good, because our 'special events' (ie, graduations, confirmations, etc.) never conflicted, and we were never in the same school together, which allowed us each to have our own experiences without living with the other's presence affecting that. I was glad that by the time my sister entered high school, I was already in college, so she saw my experience, but she got to live her own life, free of my shadow.
And maturity wise, because I was always steps ahead, my sister has always been mature for her age, and so now that she's almost out of adolesence, we are able to be friends as well as sisters.
My best friend and her sister are 8 years apart and that's too far...because my friend was like a second mom to her, and they don't connect so well. A 15 year old and a 23 year old don't have much in common.
Hope it helps! :)

Answer 2

I have a 7 and a 3 year old. When my 7 yr old is old enough to drive a car there will be a 3 yr difference before i have to buy another car . I think 3 1/2 yrs is a good space. My sister in law has 3 kids a 4yr old a 2 year old and a 6 month old she is going crazy. Be Patient enjoy them give them a couple of years space between each kid. It gives u more time to enjoy ur 1st one. My kids get along well my 3 year old looks up 2 her sister and even though they r 31/2 years a part they have a lot in common. If u have them too close they will never have individual personalty's and friends .My sister and i were 2 years apart and i hated having the same friends and sharing things.

Answer 3

Its so hard to tell because it depends a lot on the kid's personalities. I have a 15-year-old girl and boys 11, 7 and 6. In my case, the big spaces seem to work good because the current "baby" was nearly four when the new baby was born and didn't mind sharing my attention (and thought the new baby was a living doll). On the other hand, the 7 year-old never really knew what life was like without a younger sibling, so again no trouble with sibling rivalry at that age. In my opinion, I would really prefer to avoid having a new baby when I still had a toddler because toddlers require so much of a parent's physical energy to keep them out of trouble.

Answer 4

my sister and I were two years apart, this was a GREAT age span for us. We have been best friends our entire lives. I mean, there were a few Little fights now and then but over all we got along fantastically. We would even have strangers comment "I never would have thought they were sisters, they act like girlfriends" lol

My husband and his sister were also 2 years apart. They got a long pretty well without much fighting either. It was different for them being boy and girl vs two sisters though.

We decided to space our kids 1 1/2 to 2 years apart. We figured that gave us a 6 month window each time for conceiving. We started trying for number two when our son was 9 months old...and we conceived when he was 10 months old! lol so our kids will be a year and a half apart in age.

I think it's going to be a lot of fun!

Answer 5

My first is a few weeks shy of 3 years older then my second. My second and third are just over 2 1/2 years apart. They all get along pretty well. The older one could get ready to get out the door by himself (mostly) so I would not have to be dressing two children. I don't think there is an age difference that would work for everyone.

Answer 6

My older 2 are 3 years 9 months apart. They play well but fight a lot. My middle one and youngest (for now) are 2 years 10 months apart. I love the age difference. They play well together and he is such a good big brother! My youngest and the one on its way will be 1 year 11 months apart. They will be very close and I already see how hard it will be. My youngest is still such a baby and I cant hold her because I am too big. She doesn't get it. So.. the almost 3 year difference is my favorite. Good luck

Answer 7

You need to give your body at least 1 year between pregnancies to recover.. My kids are 8 in June (we lost him to SIDS) 6 last Dec(she was still born) then 5 last Oct., 5 in May(he is adopted) and 3 last Nov.
So I have 5. Right now I have 3-4-5 in my home and it s CRAZY here. I love it but its crazy! 2 years apart is a great distance. Any younger and you are doing everything together and you get all the milestones together or right after each other!
Good Luck
God Bless

Answer 8

I think that 2-3 years in between sibling is a nice distance apart.

Answer 9

Do what is right for your family. My son is 3 and I have wanted another one since he was 6 months old, but we couldn't handle that financially, so we are going to wait until we can. I have siblings as close in age as 13 months and one as far as 12 years.

Answer 10

I have three girl and they are spaced 2 years apart...and yes this was on purpose. i figured OK, first kid...don't really know what I'm doing give it a year or so then we'll see..I like motherhood a great deal so i had an other...I want an other! babies are so cute!! wait an other year or so...had an other this is awesome, but i think three's good for me!!