So My boyfriend which is my babies dad left me and moved to San Diego and we were seperated for 6 months and we recently got back together but hes still over there. we only see each other ones or twice every 2 weeks, when hes here he treats me like a queen but when he leaves its a different story we hardley even talk unless I call him and its just for a couple of minutes then he says hes tired.I really love this man and I want to spend the rest of my life with him but I sometimes feel like he only got back with me because of our daughter. So im thinking of diriving up there more often but im not sure if I'll be doing to much, I just dont want him to forget about me and find someone else if he hasent yet...
What should I do?????????????
2007-03-23 05:11:41 · 12 answers · asked by rina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it would be best if you moved on. It sounds like he has. Staying together for the child isn't really the best option sometimes it is more damaging to a child's well being. If he want's to be involved in the child's life then he shouldn't have moved away. I think he did so to get away from his problems. I know that you want to be with this guy but it's just not going to happen.
2007-03-23 05:16:47 · answer #1 · answered by Marius , II 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off you should have to do all of that. You are talking care of your baby and he is off doing who knows what. I mean it is always good to have the actual father but if he distances himself from that life and only sees you and the baby once or twice every 2 weeks thats pretty pathetic. Your decisions are all you so you should do what you think is right. Maybe a serious talk with him to sort things out. It is better for you to find out what is really going on so that you dont have to wait up or feel this way anymore and move on.
2007-03-23 12:17:32 · answer #2 · answered by JK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make a decision on this soon because it's only going to create confusion in your daughter's life. He sounds like a jerk to me because if he really cared he would show more devotion to his family. Most people don't react well to ultimatums, but in your case I think it's time you gave him one. Either he shapes up and either moves back to you or has you move up with him, or else you get him out of your life completely and get child support started right away. You and your daughter deserve so much better than this!
2007-03-23 12:20:21 · answer #3 · answered by paddington_ck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on by yourself with your child. If he was the childs "daddy" he would be there all the time or set something up through the state to be there as much as you. Find yourself and build some confidence to be with a man that will stick around because he wants to, not because you made a baby together...
I know, brutal, but true.
2007-03-23 12:17:34 · answer #4 · answered by Tammy T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm just being honest: It sounds like he's pulling the old, I don't want to pay child support trick.Nobody comes over your child! If he hasn't married you by now he doesn't plan on doing so, so go ahead and handle your business.
2007-03-23 12:18:13 · answer #5 · answered by Khalil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's seeing you just enough to get out of paying child support. Hit him with the option of coming home or paying up and see which one he chooses.
2007-03-23 12:15:22 · answer #6 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to hem about how he feel about you .. but if hes going to be like that then just move on theirs a lot of guys that could do you rite and your daughter and not just when he fee like it try to get some one that leavs where you leave the way you could see hem every day and dont have to worey about hem cheeting on you .....
2007-03-23 12:23:44 · answer #7 · answered by Gu3r@ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to put u and ur daughter at number one! Ask him and find out if he really wants to be with u. Good luck!
2007-03-23 12:19:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
Just talk to him and tell him what you are feeling and take it from there . I hope all works out .
C
2007-03-23 12:17:20 · answer #9 · answered by Constance M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say , live together 24/7. that way it'll be alot better.
your daughter will see him everyday . and you';ll see the real side of him
all the best
2007-03-23 12:18:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋