what should I do?

Question

Hi I dnt really no wat to say without soundin like a cow, but im sat cryin with no one t talk to, Im 20 and 2 years ago I got engaged and moved in with my fiance,his mother really doesnt like me, I cant understand it we were like best friends until he got a loan 4 her in his name because she is black listed and then she didnt keep up the repayments and i had to intervine and pay it because they were going to take my fiance to court, ever since she thinks im interfeering and often texts her son bitchin bout me and says im rulin him cause he dunt go c her much anymore, this is because when she says shes goin to b in we go n shes gone t the pub. now when i ask my other half he never wants to go.
I feel like I shud stand up to her and tell her to stop been so nasty but im really scared of her shes threatend me b4 and Im nt a violent person.
my other half doesnt want to loose her which I cn understand but were movin house n startin a family n im worried things will get worse!!!

Answer 1

Okay - she's not your mother. It doesn't matter what she says - get rid of the emotional need we all feel at some stage of the other to have everyone like us. It's not going to happen and if she is such a low character, you don't need her approval. Learn to distance yourself - it is your fiance's problem, not yours. Ignore her, get on with your life.

Answer 2

Don't start a family until after you get married and don't get married until after you move at least 60 miles away from his mother.

You are in for more hard times, otherwise.

He is not worth marrying if he does not go along with what I said above. If he does not leave his mother go away with you and get married, you must leave him. Don't make this mistake. If you make the mistake of starting a family instead of working my plan, you are in for a life of worse misery than you have now.

Answer 3

Men's mothers get jealous when their son's find someone who can cook for them after all, who can love them more after all, who can take the attention from his family and be connected to a "stranger" who came and "kidnapped" their sons :)
They think they can be forgotten and thrown away by their sons who they take care of so much and love them so much. They don’t want to “share” their sons with someone else. They want all attention on them as used to be. It’s natural for the beginning.
This is a bit selfish thing which has to settle down soon or later.
It has to take time but the best thing to try to live far away from parents. You need to use your clever mind to talk with your fiancé to live a bit far - without using "MOTHER" word. Find another important reason :))
ALL THE BEST!