I asked him this morning to get tested and he told me no. So i kept begging him because i care about him and want to know if he got anything. But of he doesn't have anything to hide he would get tested ...right.
2007-03-23 05:06:04 · 10 answers · asked by Sasay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Always use a condom
2007-03-23 05:08:16 · answer #1 · answered by Sexy Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming that you mean you asked him to be tested for HIV and/or other STDs. If that is so, then please consider carefully what I'm telling you: his refusal is the equivalent of telling you that he doesn't care about your LIFE, because that's what HIV/AIDS testing is all about: LIFE AND DEATH!
RUN, do not walk, away from this loser and find yourself someone who respects you enough to care whether you live or die! That said, please please PLEASE remember that HIV can take months to incubate before it will register on a test. In other words, your boyfriend could have gotten infected two weeks ago and it might not register positive on the test but he could still pass the virus on to you! Abstinence is the ONLY absolutely safe alternative to sex--in other words, there is no such thing as safe sex, only safer sex. Condoms can and do break if used improperly, but the protection they offer is better than no protection at all. If you can abstain, DO SO until you are in a secure long term relationship with someone you absolutely trust with your life. And then remember that you are still at risk, because people can and do change.
I'm not trying to scare you; I just don't want you to die! Chances are, you won't contract HIV from your partner, but it only takes ONE TIME with an infected person. Do you really want to risk your life for a few minutes of pleasure? Don't have unprotected sex until you and your partner have both been tested and found negative after having remained monogamous for at least six months. Be safe and live long :)
2007-03-23 12:27:17 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to maintain your own health. If he won't get tested, don't have sex until he does. You can't pressure him into it, but you can make it seem a much better thing to do rather than live in a loving relationship without the sex that could go with it (unless you are young, then don't have sex at all).
2007-03-23 12:10:23 · answer #3 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should get tested anyways just to make sure that you don't give your boyfriend anything and vise versa. Better safe then sorry. the only thing you want to give your man is love ..
2007-03-23 12:12:11 · answer #4 · answered by Da Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's being selfish...maybe you should consider finding a different boyfriend. Condoms aren't 100% guaranteed, so if you decide to be with him sexually, be aware that you are playing russian roullette with your own health. Especially since you don't even know what his status is....
Maybe he's afraid to find out? Whatever it is...is your life worth it?
2007-03-23 12:17:18 · answer #5 · answered by minimickimichelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume you are referring to being tested for STDs - if he is not willing to be tested tell him no sex. I'm willing to bet if there is nothing to hide he'll change his mind. If there is something to hide you need to know about it.
2007-03-23 12:10:22 · answer #6 · answered by lunasage 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Exactly.maybe he is hiding something but i hate to just say that maybe he is scared.Doeshe know someone that was sick.Maybe you should just say it like this.I really want to know because maybe someday I would like to have kids.I don't want to ruin that for me or you.
2007-03-23 12:13:02 · answer #7 · answered by what did you say 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tested for STD's? Don't have sex with him untill he brings you negative results for the tests.
2007-03-23 12:10:39 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have similar problem,bt i manage to confinced him to get tested.try and make him knw the disadvantage of getting infected,that is if he's a flierth.but if he dosnt understand you,then my dear use condom until he's confinced for the test
Good Luck.
2007-03-23 12:30:36 · answer #9 · answered by beautiful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's scared but i would advise u not to have sex with him until he does and always use protection
2007-03-23 12:19:01 · answer #10 · answered by lisa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋