My husband's brothers girlfriend has never been friendly to me. But I have also try to make it a point to go out of my way to be nice to her. But lately i'm sick of it. When she comes to our home she does not even say Hello and the same at family parties. I think she is jealouse she as been dating and living with his brother for 5-6 yrs and we have only been together 3 1/2 yrs. and we just got married. But still I don't think it is right for her to come in my home and be rude to me. My husband is always saying he is going to say something to his brother but he never does. And they come to our house all the time. Like twice a week i have to feel uncomfortable in my own home because of her. They are coming over tonight and i asked my husband to saying to his brother about her coming and he said he would but now he doesn't want to because he doesn't want to start a fight with his brother. So I told him fine then i will just not come home utnil they leave. What should i do?
2007-03-23 05:05:22 · 14 answers · asked by cas1026 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It might be a good idea to ask this woman if she wants to meet for lunch or get together sometime... you will both be on mutual ground. ASK HER what you have done to offend her. Tell her "I feel uncomfortable in my own home when you visit"
If you tell her how you feel, perhaps this will clear the air.
Otherwise, it might prevent her from ever visiting again.. RELIEF!
Someone needs to confront this issue, and since YOU are the one experiencing discomfort, you might consider taking steps to change things for your own well-being.
It's no great loss if she never comes over again... i'm sure you wouldn't lose sleep over it!
take care of YOU...
2007-03-23 05:19:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing by keeping open communication with your husband but the problem isn't with him or his brother it's her.....OH HELL NO she didn't come into your house acting as if she pays the bills or sleeps in your bed. That is your house and only one female should be allowed to have an attitude in your house, and that's you. When she comes over tonight be very nice, then pull her outside and have a woman to woman talk with her, ask her if she has a problem, then tell how you feel and how you perceive her rudeness, then let her know that the solution is that either she become more cordial towards you, or you would just appreciate if she not come at all.
2007-03-23 12:13:19 · answer #2 · answered by Khalil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot be serious about not going home until they leave! Why are you waiting for your husband to say something? You need to say something!! It is you who's feeling uncomfortable in your home, not your husband. I know that you are trying to respect him, because that's his brother's girlfriend, but you need to do that yourself. I guarantee that you will feel a whole lot better when you do release it. Don't wait too long, because it will build and build and build and then it may turn into something that you really don't want it to. Just say it and be done with it!
2007-03-23 12:19:23 · answer #3 · answered by Bee R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand I haven't had this with family but I have ahd it with my husband close friend which he thought of as a brother.He was always putting me down and was jealous of the time that me and my husband spent together.they are no longer speaking because it got so bad that he started a bunch of lies.So anyway what I did was just what you said if he coming over to your house go out shopping or whatever to get away.have your husband to invite just him over so that all three of you can chat.If you feel more all four of you should talk in a public place and make it clear how everyone feels
2007-03-23 12:21:20 · answer #4 · answered by what did you say 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is stop nagging your husband about the subject. He knows what you want, to keep telling him and making his life miserable is just going to cause a problem with the two of you. Not very smart on your part.
Sorry to say but she comes with the deal for your husband. It just works that way. Your husband shouldn't say anything to his brother, you are so wrong on that point. You just want the two of them to fight, after all you know that is what will happen and you keep telling your husband to talk to him. Just tell your husband that his brother needs to be coming over less often, and hold your tongue.
2007-03-23 12:12:49 · answer #5 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a similar problem with my husbands grown daughter by his first wife. I finally did have to make a scene. I told the girl I will not walk on eggshells in my own home. It didn't change her atitude, but now my husband will meet her somewhere else and not very often at that.
2007-03-23 12:22:00 · answer #6 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have every right who you want in your house..but knowing the person i am i would approach her as s about this.. when it comes to speaking about issues with another women i am not scared...if she is mature and your are mature then she can handle a little talk..ask her why is it that she comes into your house and say nothing..she might get offended but who cares..its your fu cking house..gosh i dislike females like that..act like they have no fu cking respect for someones home.and the sad thing is that you have to be uncomfortable..like you told your hubby you are not coming home until they are gone...
2007-03-23 12:13:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i think you should say something to her or the brother. Dont wait on your husband to do it bc we both know all men are procrastinators. lol Dont let her make you feel uncomfortable in your own house. If you have to then tell her that she isnt welcome until her attitude changes. Confrunt her tonight and if she gets bitchy then throw her out.
2007-03-23 12:10:53 · answer #8 · answered by Worried wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's YOUR home too, and why can't YOU say something to the brother? Perhaps he hasn't noticed her behaviour. Stop being so friendly toward her and ignore her like she does you.
2007-03-23 12:10:06 · answer #9 · answered by SodaLicious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to the brother, let him know that you won't tolerate her rudeness towards you in your home, that's right YOUR'S not hers and not his. (I would like to think that once you bring up the subject with the brother, your husband will have your back)
2007-03-23 14:32:31 · answer #10 · answered by lilian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋