I always get involved with guys that will not commit. They always talk about how great I am but will not take the next step. I am attractive, great sense of humor and have my own interests. I never try to push for anything because most of the time a guy goes in the opposite direction if you do. It seems like the ones I have zero chemistry in are pushing for a relationship with me. I give them a chance but its just not there. You can't force it. Then the ones that there is something there...they just cannot do it.
2007-03-23 04:50:08 · 12 answers · asked by Jen_n_TX 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
These guys start out normal, but as time goes on and things might get serious they change.
2007-03-23 04:57:26 · update #1
we are talking around 8 months to a year. so there is something wrong there.
2007-03-23 05:01:11 · update #2
Hi Jen, I'm a firm believer in "what's meant to be." It just wasn't meant to be with those other guys, which is why it didn't work out. When you come across the guy who's right for you, there will be chemistry and he'll be ready to commit. And it's true that when you stop looking for him, there he will be. I'm single as well, so like you I'm still waiting for him to show up and have experienced the zero chemistry situation. Good luck to you!
2007-03-23 04:55:19 · answer #1 · answered by Katiecat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are looking for the wrong kind of guys. The ones who go out and party with their buds all the time and are into their looks alot should make your turn the other way. Chemistry and lust is two different things. Try going to a different place or joining a gym and become this guys's friend first before going to the dating stage with them. If you don't know a person, the whole dating thing sucks in the end!! Keep in open mind, your perfect someone is possibly the person you least expect to be.
2007-03-23 04:54:32 · answer #2 · answered by WOOOOO Whooo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once said to my counselor... "I always end up with the same losers!" Interestingly, she said that until I make positive changes within myself, I will always unconsciously gravitate towards the same kind of men. Ever heard of the LAW OF ATTRACTION? Look it up on google sometime. It's a powerful thing! You sound like you have a healthy self-esteem, but it's just a thought. Also, you may want to change where it is that you look for men. If you want a man looking for commitment, bars and clubs are not the way to go.
2007-03-23 05:03:18 · answer #3 · answered by paddington_ck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe most of the men you are attracted to in today's culture are not mature enough to make committments until the age of at least 28. How old are the ones who are non committal?
Are you giving away too much sex?
Try being very sexy and touchy. Provide visuals of your breasts and between your legs that they can see at times depending on the angle they are at and your positioning. Provide some feel for the most special ones but only in selected circumstances and with a little work on their part. Don't ever let them get even close to third base (oral sex).
So that they don't get mad at you about being a prick teaser when you're at the point in your relationships where sex (orgasm) usually occurs, tell them that you are saving your self for the one and only who is ready for a lasting committment including official marriage. At that point if they are thinking seriously about a lasting committment including marriage they will stick around. If not, they will move on.
If you follow my advice. Let us know how long you can maintain this approach and what its effects are on you and your men. Let us know when you get married.
2007-03-23 05:09:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you keep doing the same thing you've always done, and expect a different result?
You probably go for a certain type of guy (most of us do), but you have to realize that when you put the same thing in, you're always going to get the same thing back out.
2007-03-23 04:55:40 · answer #5 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how are you defining a relationship? if your wanting the white picket fence in the first month yeah that might be the problem. nothing can happen in two weeks when you talk long term commitment. and what pattern are you repeating that you only like guys who dont commit makes me wonder where dad is.
2007-03-23 04:58:32 · answer #6 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you keep getting put inthe friend ship category so its to late.
or no one wants the cow when your giving out the milk for free
2007-03-23 04:53:25 · answer #7 · answered by iCantAidYou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probable, for the reason which you're coming off such as you in basic terms % to be friends with out certainly holding your self. you may wait around perpetually questioning which you will possibly desire to get something started. yet, shall we be straightforward you will possibly desire to certainly flow as much as the ladies you like, and ask them out. self belief my pal; organic self belief :)
2016-10-20 07:14:10 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you see like you have a good head on your shoulders. maybe your looking in the wrong place for love. it might help to find a man in your locol area on singlesnet.com try it it works!
2007-03-23 04:54:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You like that bad boy type huh? You must be young
2007-03-23 04:53:06 · answer #10 · answered by lethalx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋