My parents recently got divorced....i cried....lol....but i live w/my dad and i don't know whether i should try to stay with my mom or just continue to live with my dad until my mom gets back on her feet? Someone?.....advice?......plz.....lol
2007-03-23 04:48:20 · 13 answers · asked by Christy P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Emotions just ARE. There is no "should." If you feel sad, feel it. If you feel betrayed, confused, torn, disloyal, angry, fearful, loved, or ignored, feel that, too.
I would think you a strange person if you didn't feel all these things-often at once.
Stay with your dad, if you can. Make as few changes inyour life as you can. Stay in your same school, same friends, same hobbies, same neighborhood, and try to keep your normal routine. It will help you to adjust.
Exercise, and hang with your friends. Eat right. It will help you to think straight and work off depression. Talk to a counsellor at school. Write a journal that you share with NO one! Hide it well. It will help tremendously. Get involved with theatre or sports so you can express emotions freely.
Move to your mother's when she can give you a stable life, if yo want. Call her a lot, and hang out with her when you can. Try to be cheerful. Tell her you love her, and miss her.
Don't take sides with your parents, since you love them both, and both of them are right and wrong. If they try to drag you into their fights, tell them both you love them and to leave you out of it. Then STAY OUT! No letting them use you as a messenger. They will respect you for standing up for yourself, and they will appreciate that you are a mature person.
My sons went through a divorce, and we are all fine. Study in school, so you never have to stay with someone you don't love, just for the convenience.
2007-03-23 05:40:14 · answer #1 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stay where you are happiest and the most well taken care of. Whether that's with your mom or your dad. Don't feel sad about your parents divorce. It's not your fault. They just can't live in the same house and have lost respect for one another. There's not much anyone can do about that.
2007-03-23 04:52:56 · answer #2 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say why they got divorced. And yes, you should feel sad and of course, you cried. No one wants to to have divorced parents, we all want our family to stay together, no matter what. But of course, soemtimes it isn't possible. (Although I do believe parents should try harder!!!!!)
I think you should do what is best for you - talk to your parents about it. You don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, but maybe they should consider you first????
Good luck honey. YOu'll be fine, in the long run. And make sure when you are a parent, that you're more sensible than your own parents were.
2007-03-23 05:14:50 · answer #3 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to feel sad when your parents divorce -- you are going through a LOSS in life, and it's difficult.
Your parents obviously don't love each other anymore, so they are probably better off. Still, it is normal to feel badly.
It doesn't matter which parent you live with -- i'm sure you love them both. If you can visit your Mother often, and wish to, then go right ahead!
Take the time to decide what you want, and if you can, talk to your parents about it, too.
sending hugz your way!
2007-03-23 04:57:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're both your parents and just like it the two of them to create you ,it will take the two of them to raise you .It doesn't matter which parent you stay with,as long as that parent is capable of caring for you.If your mom needs time to get on her feet and you staying with your dad is all good then go for it.Don't be sad over the adults inability to maintain their marriage,we all make choices and some are good and some are teaching tools.Their troubles are not of your creation,you are of their creation.Just do the right things for you and care as much in all your decisions as you care about shopping and all the things that please you for your choices will determine your happiness.
2007-03-23 04:57:27 · answer #5 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm you should be sas this is a tough time in any kids life. Depending on the situation. Your dad is obviously the stronger one, with more money. But it looks like your mom could use some support I'd look into getting settled in her pad, if she wants. good luck
2007-03-23 04:54:08 · answer #6 · answered by M-A- Double T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't change your environment if you can avoid it. You have enough to adjust to with your parents and don't need to adjust to a new home, school or friends. I am sure your life is stressed enough as it is. You can be sad for your parents but you have to remember that the divorce is between them and in their relationship with each other..not with you.
2007-03-23 04:52:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok it's ok to feel confused.many of my friends parents are divorced and the ccryed ....even the guys!since your living with you dad you should see your mom at least sometimes talk to her ,it's not your fault for the divorce. maybe you could spend the wekends with her and then the rest of the week with your father.i know that its hard because my biological father left my mother before i was born and i would c him on weekends but i stoped because i wanted to .....hope this helps
2007-03-23 04:54:51 · answer #8 · answered by ~*GIRPOP*~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should feel sad..
Stay with your dad as long as he is a good parent...
Don't take advantage of him..
You know that being a good parent means you
don't always get everything you want...
2007-03-23 04:52:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feel however you want to. There's no rule that says you "should" feel sad. Maybe you know it was for the best and you don't feel sad that it's finally over. So What? Feel any way you do. It's your feelings after all.
2007-03-23 05:54:20 · answer #10 · answered by hardlyworkinwoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋