How does one win a womans heart?

Answer 1

Thats a big question! In fact, I would say it has more to do with what you consider to be winning her heart... do you want her to love you and want to be with you, even if you have to change? or do you want her to love you for who you are...?

I've spent alot of time thinking about this question, and I actually found, that given enough time and space, you can make anyone think they love you and want to be with you. I suppose the harder part is getting the time and space... However, if you have that, there are a couple of simple things that always seem to work...(btw, this can help you make friends as well)

1. Always be pleased to see them. No matter what, no matter how inconvenient it is, have a smile and joy in your voice when they call or see you.

2. Notice any change, and comment positively on it. If they have a new haircut, if they are wearing a different perfume or lipstick, or they are dressed more conservatively or more casually. Tell them it looks good on them. Even if it is something more difficult to compliment, try and think of a positive spin. Let say she puts on weight, tell her she is looking healthy, or less stressed.

2. Compliment them for something very personal. Idle flattery doesnt count. Spend some time looking at them, what seems to be the most individualistic thing they have done, and compliment them for that. Say, they wore a particularly bright shade of lipstick that day... notice it and compliment it. Complimenting unconventional things, small things that are not normally noticed, get extra credit. Like, don't just tell her she has beautiful eyes, tell her you love the tiny variations in the color. Don't just say she dresses well, tell her there is something positively impressionistic in her fashion sense.

3. Never outstay your welcome. Always have time for her, give her your full attention, but then, have somewhere else to go.... ie leave her wanting more. DONT EVER LET HER GET BORED.

4. Always have gum or mints. Both to offer graciously, and to make sure that when she tries to imagine kissing you (trust me, all women do that when someone is coming on to them)... its a nice picture.

5. Dont have dry lips! (see above)

6. Always bring a gift. It doesnt have to be expensive, and the more thoughtful the better. Shows you were thinking about her and that you pay attention to her. Like, if she says she is getting a cold, show up with a really nice orange...

7. PAY ATTENTION
to everything she says and does. will make anyone fall in love with you.

8. Get to know her friends, and get them to like you... but don't ever have more time for them than for her.

9. If she wants to talk about her problems, listen, commisserate, agree with her perspective, never, never never disagree, argue, or try to turn it into a lecture.

10. Let her meet your friends. People who like and respect you will help her to see your value. This does not hold true for ex girlfriends... keep away from them. That only breeds jealousy and insecurity, which makes any relationship unhealthy.

11. Detach yourself from the outcome. Of course you care if she falls in love with you or not, you wouldnt have asked the question other wise... but act as though you really don't care... you are fine without her, you would like to be her partner, but you can be happy with being her friend. Don't get sulky or accusative or demanding.. thats a huge turn off. Remember that everyone wants to be friends with people who seem that they don't need any friends.

Answer 2

First off don't listen to any of these broads below - they don't know what they want even though they say they do. Never take advice from women on what women want - they don't even know what they want individually let alone what women in general want.

Second don't worry about winning the heart, worry about getting in the pants. Do that as many times as possible while you're still young and single. When you meet the right girl you'll know and it will just happen. Approaching a situation with "how can I win her heart" is already the wrong mindset and you will surely fail.

In terms of what others wrote:

LadyLuck - CORRECT

ashrafmeer - WRONG - nice guys finish last
sean w - WRONG

That **** might work on fat chicks starved for attention but not the ones you want to take home! Hot girls walk into any bar and get attention from everyone - too much in fact, they won't be impressed by that. Whether their little blonde bimbo pea brains recognize it conciously or not it actually turns them off when you are too nice and always available - they're use to that, they want something different, a challenge.

Answer 3

Assuming of course that your woman of interest is more than just a nice looker, and worthy of respect and FRIENDSHIP!
The best way to a woman's heart is to do the following things:

1. Tell her the truth. If she is worth loving she will respect your honesty!
2. Show your appriciation for her by saying so! Knowing you are a valuable part of your man's life is bery endearing and wrms the soul!
3. Be a good listener. Women love to talk! Im a chic I know! So listen and take an interest in what she has to say, without watching tv out of the corner of your eye or letting your mind wander.
4. Allow her to have and express her own opinions. Knowing that a man respects your intelligence and ability to use logic is critical to mutual respect.
5. Let her know that her "assets" are not the only thing you love about her. Mention your appriciation or respect for her talents (Eg. Good cook or good conversationalist).

6. Show her the same respect she shows you. If she is decent she will treat you with respect and you should offer her the same.


This has been the key to my marriage and I can honestly say that no matter what my husband says or does, if he is respectful and honest, we have no qualms. He is my best friend and love because of the things mentioned above. Give to her what you get from her! If she is the right woman she will return these gifts to you.

Answer 4

depends on the woman in broad terms; However, Love, Care, Attention, the Ability to listen, usually all go a long way in what I have seen.
No guarantee that it will win a womans heart, but IMO it helps.
Respect is the element that holds all this together. And in so many ways this is mutual, so I guess one person in the connection has to go out on a limb, as it were, and show their respect, and good wishes, good will. But it all depends on what the Lady wants

Answer 5

Being yourself is important, but being willing to make positive changes for the woman you love is necessary as well. Relationships do take work and when you both work together, there is no failing. Remember these things -- honesty, respect, kindness, flexibility, intimacy, communication, friendship, responsibility, empathy, dedication, and devotion.

And buying her flowers once in a while doesn't hurt either!

Answer 6

Get to know her and what she likes and dislikes. Compliment her. Be a gentleman. Practice good hygiene, and always be consistent and persistent with your wooing, but do it at a distance and with respect, until she becomes comfortable with you and invites you to come closer. Don't force your affection on her. Always be there with a ready smile, a helping hand and a few flowery words to lift her spirits. One day she will smile back at you and there will be a twinkle in her eyes.

Answer 7

A woman's heart is not won, it is given. To persuade a woman to give you her heart, you serve her needs above your own, in sincerity. You sacrifice your needs for hers. Eventually she will see a pattern and begin to trust you. This means she has given you her heart.

Answer 8

-Be yourself!
-Respect her
-Have good communication with her...
-Make her feel attracted
-Give her lots of compliments
-Be her friend
-Be nice
-Be understanding
-Need to have things in common
-Appreciate everything she do
-Support her in everything she decides to do
-Be honest
-Be a good man
-Treat her like your Queen
-Make her see stars

She'll go head over heals for you. That works, it worked for me... I'm married with 3 children!

Answer 9

By being respectful and honest. These two are key to any relationship!

Answer 10

Tender loving care, respect, romance, honesty, loyalty...
She is your lover, best friend and companion through life..
Mother of your children.....
Treat her that way....Never take her for granted...