What sould I do?

Question

I broke up with my boyfriend 6 months ago, during the break up, he had a really hard time coping with it & after 6 months, I called and ask him back for a second chance but he already started a relationship with another girl. So i asked him will there be a second chance and he said right now no and its already too late because he really cares for the person right now and lets remain as friends then we will see how thing will be in the future. Prior to that, he said i will always have a special place in his heart having being his 1st girlfriend. Right now, part of me feels that there will be a scond chance but another part of says there wont be anymore. I still love him very very much and i really hope that there will be a second chance. What should i do now? Wait for a second chance or let the second chance become a fake hope? Deep down i still love him very very much.

yes, come to think of it, it was a foolish decision to break up with him till then i realize how foolish am i to let go of someone to who loves and cares so much for me. During the past few months, i have been regretting all the things that i have said and done to hurt him before this and just when i was about to tell ask him for a second chance i found it that he already had a gf that time. i cant help but thinking about the times we could have been togather again and another chance to treat him better but guess everything is too late now. Im tried to move on but in the end i cant forget about him. i am full of regrets and that other part of me still have a little hope for a second chance then again logic says it doesnt. i really dont know what to do now.

Answer 1

If you were his first girlfriend, then that is the special place in his heart. Allow him now to find a love elsewhere so that he has something to compare his emotions to. He seems to have accepted the reality you put upon him 6 months ago, and though initially it may have been hard to let go, eventually he did and has moved on.

Answer 2

Honey, move on there are more wonderful men out there to date. You are still young test the waters. There is no need for you to keep dwelling in the past. What was done can not be undone. Look at this situation as a learning experience of what not to do in your future relationships. Plus this guy has moved on you should too because the more you run behind this guy and beg and plead him for a second chance the more he is going to know that he has the upper hand over you. Time heals all wounds. Don't keep living in the past live for the present tomorrow isn't always promise. Find yourself a good man and move on. Good luck, keep your head up.

Answer 3

Don't wait for a second chance. You probably won't get one soon, and if you did, it wouldn't work out.

You need to get out and keep growing without him. Maybe you two are meant to be together, but the timing was off the first time you dated. After you two have grown a little more, you may be more compatible, meet again, and get your second chance then. You'll always have a special place in each other's hearts, but you can't shut your heart down pining for a lost love you might not get back. Keep living and loving, and just let the future happen.

Answer 4

Friend! everyone commit mistakes... firstly, stop regretting; get along with your life.... now that you are free from any commitments, review yourself and your longings. What kind of relationship are you looking for; a casual one or one that lasts a life time? Are you contemplating marriage? Then this is the right time to look for your better half. Sometimes, our wrong decisions turn out to be for our best.

If your friend could not wait for you for six months and has so soon sought solace in another's arms....then he is not your
true love. It is so strange that he wants you to wait and see how things would turn out. Human relationships are not employment posts.... He seems to be carrying a no vancancy board. Dust your self and enjoy your life.....

Friend! you seem to be a very simple person who can really complicate things for the self. You believe people and take many for granted. You too should be careful with your relationships. Human mind is very sensitive and every bitter relationship leaves a scar on it. So be mature in your dealings in the future

Answer 5

I am going through a similar situation. All I can say to be honest that if you love him as much as you say you do let him go. He is happy now. He has fond memories of you. If you keep persisting he will eventually get angry with you and annoyed and most probably end up disliking you. However if you just leave it now as he already knows how you feel give him space. As for you if he does come back great but try and move on and learn from this experience. If its meant to be its meant to be. You will never stop loving him but it will get better in time.. Good luck.

Answer 6

I have been in this same exact situation, and a year later (now) I am going out with someone else, but I still love my ex-boyfriend deeply. He still means so much to me and I dont understand the real reasons to why we broke up today. As it turns out, his gf (now ex-gf) broke our friendship apart, and I also was rude to him because it hurt to see him with another girl and pretty much rebuilding the world that we made together with someone else. The hurt was too much and Im kind of glad that we did not get back together because I woud always think about the time he left me for someone else, and I doubt I could trust him the same as well.So I think you should try to move on, it hurts like crazy but you need to live your life as well. Im sure you will always have a special place for your bf (after two years I still do) but you just need to live your own life and just hope that one day it will stop bothering you

Answer 7

You've simply forgotten the reasons you broke up with him in the first place. Maybe it wasn't anything so concrete, but it was something that obviously annoyed you enough to where you couldn't continue....and now 6 MONTHS later?? you decide you want him back? That's a long time to wait. Maybe it's because you know he's with someone else? Maybe it's because you're not with someone and you feel lonely?

What ever it is, you need to move on. You don;t love him - you just miss what you had. You can have that with someone else - someone who might not end up annoying you.

Answer 8

If you love him why did you break up? You need to move on, I don't see another chance and to wait for one is foolish. Maturity will help you in the long run.

Answer 9

That was a very foolish thing to do but like they say when you let it go if it comes back then you'll know if he still loves you but for the main thime just go on with your life and let it play out.

Answer 10

He's with another girl, so you need to move on. You need to find someone who loves you. You said that you still love him, well obviously, he doesn't feel the same way, 'coz if he did, he'll be with you right now.