Are completely controlling my life. they wont let me wear wat i wanna wear, hang out with who i wanina hang out with. they wont lemme do anything i wanna do. they make me feel useless and like i cant do anything right. ive told them how i feel about this before and they said they would look out for myh feelings more but they wont. they still haven't. what should i do to get it in their head that they can't competely controll my life?
2007-03-23 04:35:39 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to realize your parents are looking out for you. You don't know it yet, but mistakes you make right now, can ruin your life for good.
2007-03-23 04:40:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? And what makes you think that you are mature enough to run your own life - think about that, it's not a nasty comment.
Are you able to talk to your parents in a calm way - no screaming, shouting etc? I find I always get more angry when my daughter gets lippy and cheeky - she gets her own way much more when she talks properly to me, thinks things through and meets me half way.
Do yo appreciate your parent's viewpoints? Have they explained why they don't want you to wear whatever it is that you are wearing. My daughter's tops are too low and her skirts are too short. We've had problems, so now she wears jeans and makes sure her shirts are more appropriate. And gues what? No more nagging!
Your parents care about you and they want the best for you. Remember that. And they've been there, hard as it is to believe, and know exactly how boys think, and teenagers in general. Honestly, the world hasn't changed much.
2007-03-23 11:42:22 · answer #2 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In order to answer your question I think it would be fair to know how old you are? Have you done things in the past to make them distrust you? ( lie, cheat ,steal ,drugs) those type of things because lets say if you have, Put yourself in your parents shoes. Remember this one thing A parents job is never finished! You will know this one day when you have children of your own.
2007-03-23 11:43:13 · answer #3 · answered by Tree70 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this but as long as you are of that age that you have to live under your parent's roof & authority, you will have to deal with them "controlling" your life. However, you do not have to allow them to give you YOUR IDENTITY. You can respect their authority & do as you are told as long as you are living under their roof and are of that age but at the same time, make your own agenda to get your own job and means to support yourself when you get of age - and when you can, move out on your own and start living your own life.
Living on your own you will make mistakes just like everyone else does. You will experience your own "growing pains" and you will learn your own lessons for your own life. One of the HARDEST things I had to do was "let go" of my parents and accept that I do not want to be who they are, I wanted to be my own person. That was very hard for me to do because I felt like I was "rejecting" my parents when really all I wanted was my own identity, to make my own decisions and live my own life. It's not easy but you can do it when you have your mind made up to LIVE YOUR OWN LIFE and be who YOU are, not who your parents either want you to be or are trying to MAKE you to be.
Sometimes too, parents have a tendency to put upon their children the "dreams" and "things" that THEY THEMSELVES either didn't get a chance to do or made mistakes as they tried to do things they wanted to do in their own lives. They sometimes think that their children will experience the SAME THINGS they did when THEY were coming up. But the reality is, this is a new day and TIME. And YOU are not THEM. You have your own set of beliefs, your own character & your own personality and spirit. Hold your own and respect your parent's authority while you are living under them and keep your own agenda so when you are ready and are of age you can move out on your own and take care of your own and have your own independence & freedom to be YOU and live your OWN life.
2007-03-23 11:45:13 · answer #4 · answered by 747 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how old are you
cause I'm 14 and i respect
my parents decisions butthere
are somethings they cant control
like how i hang out with cause that's
my decision not there and what i
were is also my decisions and they
respact that as my decisions
2007-03-23 11:49:17 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal Dead! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋