My 10 year old daughter tells me all the time she hates me,she wants to live somewhere else ,from the time she is up in the morning, to the time she is in bed.She will not talk ,or look at me and when I try to talk to her she does not want to talk , she will talk back to me ,roll her eyes or even try to discipline me... When me and her father kiss,hug or old hands she gets very mad she will push us appart and tells me don't touch my daddy. The other day my husband kissed me and she told him that because he kissed me she will kiss a boy at scholl??????? I am very worried about her ,I tried everything. I am asking for advise please.....
2007-03-23 04:33:21 · 9 answers · asked by chantal r 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If you're the stepmother, and fairly recently married, this makes an enormous amount of sense and is pretty common behavior for a stepchild (lashing out, anger at your relationship with her father, etc).
If you are her mother, and your husband is her father, it sounds like there's something enormously wrong here that will require professional help. When did this start happening? I'm inclined to think she's been molested, given the way she's reacting with jealousy and anger over physical affection.
2007-03-23 04:48:49 · answer #1 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By your letter, I'm thinking you might be the step-mother? Either way mom or step mom this little tyrant has no respect for you or maybe not even for herself. Have you talked with the Father? Try talking to her and the father at the same time and explain how you feel. If that doesn't work, move her out to grandparents or someone else until she gets over this stage in her life. We use to have a family night where we would all come together and hash out whatever feelings were bothering each of us. It really worked and as the kids grew older, they automatically would come to me and ask for advice. Hang in there and I wish you all the best.
2007-03-27 04:24:50 · answer #2 · answered by God Bless America 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there any reason y she might be upset with you? Have you told her off latley for something that might of set this off?
Ask her why she "hates" you! maybe shes just going through a little phase of some sort?
Everytime she says she "hates" you ask her y? say: Whay do you hate me? whats wrong, what have i done? If you can find the source then you'll be able to fix the problem.
Try not to be too soft with her too or she'll get used to walking over you.
I dont have children myself but if you let her get her way now she will walk all over you nad you'll both never be happy.
Hope this helps. :)
Goodluck I'm sure you'll be fine!!!
Lou xxx
2007-03-23 04:43:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a 15 year old girl and sometimes i get angry at my mom more than i do my dad i guess i do it because i have more of a relationship with my dad and my mom puts us on punishment too long and my dad doesn't really do that What I'm trying to say is maybe you didn't give her that much attention while she was younger and her dad did maybe she depends on him more than you i think you should talk to your daughter one on one see if there's anything that she would like to do and see if you can help her do it if that doesn't work then it would when she gets older and want to go everywhere and out with her friends or you can try to ignore it she's probably trying to get attention but the last source his hitting her i think that would make it worst if they don't work just email me and i will get back to you and maybe i can talk to your daughter
2007-03-23 04:56:52 · answer #4 · answered by shiraandchrisbrown 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you her real mother? Or a step mother?
I don't understand how a 10 yr old could be like that to her real mother. Its gonna be a long process, but try doing things with her alone! You & her time ! Go to the nail salon & get your nails done, hair salon, shopping..........
Dont hold hands or kiss or show affection in front of her for a while. Hold off on that until you two fix ur problem! Watch a movie together or go to the movies together. It sounds like she is jelous, maybe its the lack of time you dont spend with her. Try family outings too, or rent a movie with u 3! Good Luck!
2007-03-23 07:21:32 · answer #5 · answered by Mammamia3 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to tell her that her mouth is getting her into trouble and you dont care if she likes you she still has to mind you. Tell her that kissing a boy at school will mean she cant go anywhere else but school for a certain length of time. She is not "the boss of you" if you know what I mean-dont let her talk to you that way anymore-You are not her friend you are her Mother.
2007-03-23 04:42:10 · answer #6 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am very confused thers gotta be a reason why she sais that to u .. are both of u her real parents ?? well in any case i think that the best things for u to do is talk to her, i know this will be hard for you and her but try to talk to her ina way that wont get her so mad...i mean shes already mad at you so why make it worst right? theres different ways to talk to different people and i think if you find the right way to talk to her than you will be able to find out whats wrong and try to fix it. i know this is hard for u specially after how she treats you, but your the adult and shes only ten so if anyone is goin to try and fix anythin i think its going to be you.
2007-03-23 06:02:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-20 07:13:37 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a great book: your 10-14 yr old. helped me alot!
2007-03-23 05:17:03 · answer #9 · answered by airgemm 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋