So I saw my ex again the other night, he was holding me, hugging me, even crying..i thought several times he was going to ask me back but he didnt. The problem: he has a GF...who he describes as a nice girl. I get the feeling he doesnt want to hurt her...but its been over 6 months and he still says he is in love with me. Hes never tried to turn it into a booty call so thats out. I just dont understand what to do. I wont be number two girl ...i didnt speak to him for 4 months..ive only been in contact with him for maybe the last month. It was so hard to see him crying and holding onto me.
Heres the best part..theyre going to be taking a trip together in a few weeks..he says if he hadnt already paid for it, he would probably not be with her for the last 2 months and things with us would be very different.
Do i simply not talk to him until he figures things out or do I come with it and tell him that if he wants us to work he needs to break it off with her?
2007-03-23 04:30:21 · 15 answers · asked by Lioness 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's apparent that the feelings he had for you while you all were in the relationship are still there. I hate to say it, but I think his current girlfriend may be a rebound relationship and he's still confused about his feelings. I definitely think that you need to sit down and have a talk with him. You need to let him know that it is not fair to you and his girlfriend that he is playing with both of your emotions. He may want to just spend some time to think about what exactly he wants before someone's feelings become more damaged. If he says that he knows you're the one that he wants to be with, then he needs to level with his current girlfriend and let her know what's going on. If he says that he wants to be with her, then you may just want to spend less time socializing with him, so you can go on to new things.
2007-03-23 04:49:40 · answer #1 · answered by Shandra S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont talk to him...he seems like a loser. I once had an ex-bf who did the same exact thing, and let me tell you why he is doing this. He is stringing you along just so that if he ever has a time in the future when he does not get along with the gf that he is with and they break up, that he would have you. He is just using you as comfort to know that there is someone there even when his gf might not be there...You do not need a guy like this because even if you guys do end up going out again, he might do the same thing to you.
2007-03-23 11:35:03 · answer #2 · answered by sagin123 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmmmmmmmm
good food for thought
people should avoid torturing each other when possible I think
I do understand not wanting to be second, thats exactly how I feel too. Or maybe 3rd, 4th or 5th even, how would I know even.
Maybe he did try for a booty call, maybe you was scared.
If the booty calls are going someplace else, money or not, maybe he sees no chance and not worth even more thinking then.
Time for some serious, thinking, drinking, and then maybe some talking, if we ain't all talked out by then.
The mass production assembly line interchangeable parts thing will not work for me. Ever.
2007-03-23 11:40:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to be this blunt, but.............ex's are ex's for a reason, and deserve to be kept in the past. If he truly didn't love her, he wouldn't take this vacation. If he truly loved you, he'd change ALL plans and leave her. You aren't a booty call now, but that's precisely what he wants it to be. Tell him irregardless of whether or not this vacation with his g/f is paid for that if it's you he wants, he doesn't go. If he says no, or goes anyway, walk away and don't look back.
2007-03-23 11:36:06 · answer #4 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough question. Do you really want to get back with him so he can go find that #1 girl again. Make your self unavailable to him and keep your distance. He will get over it (hopefully). You don't want to be the reason why he broke up with the other chick who was apparently #1 to him when you two broke up. Seriously, there are other guys in the world who would love to treat you as a queen that you should be treated as!!!
2007-03-23 11:37:18 · answer #5 · answered by WOOOOO Whooo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all he still loves u
ok
now u need to ask ur self do u like him
if no leave him alone and let him be with his girl
dont make him break up with her knowing that u dont see him like that
now if u do like him
u talk to him
see where his head is at but never tell to break up with girl
he will need to make the decision for himself
if he does great
and then u guys live happily ever after
2007-03-23 11:38:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ex is key here!!!! move on rapidly to next exit ramp gun the gas flee hes another womans problem now not urs count ur blessings hes controllin u both wants his cake and his ice cream too
2007-03-23 11:34:51 · answer #7 · answered by mmbmw2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs to cut the cord with the other chick before starting things back up with you. make that clear. still keep in contact with him. but things cant go any further until shes gone.
2007-03-23 11:35:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
why can't he tell her to forget the trip and take you instead if he really wants you back?
Looks like he is playing games with you
wake up
2007-03-23 11:35:19 · answer #9 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should do what your heart says but if he really didnt like her then he really shouldnt be wit her i think you should find someone better and you probaly dont need him to say your there problem when he does end up breaking up wit her.
2007-03-23 11:36:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋