I have a long distant boyfriends who 2 best friends (well most of his friends) are females. He said something to me last night about one of them wanting him to go to the movies with her, and the other one wanting to meet him for breakfast. Am I being unreasonable by not liking this siuation?
2007-03-23 04:28:48 · 22 answers · asked by dipinchocolate 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, you're being unreasonable. Speaking as a girl who happens to have a lot of guy friends...everything we ever do is just friendship based. You would not expect your boyfriend to have any say over which friends YOU see, so how do you justify trying to control his time with his friends?
2007-03-23 04:41:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anastasia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you two been an item?
If he had these friends before you two were together, then I'm sure they've been doing this for some time now.
I'm not all to sure on how "cheating" works but if a guy wants to cheat on you, he's not going to tell you. He's being open and honest with you about what he's doing. At least for the most part of what you can tell since you're so far away.
Have I ever done this kind of thing before on my better half?
Yes I have..... I've been married now for 4 years, and we've been together for almost 10. I too have almost ALL guy friends, and that's all they'll ever be.
here's my example~
About once ever few months my friend and I will meet for lunch and just talk and hang out.
He's married too.....
But the kicker to it all is he's my husbands best friend.
We're not doing any thing, except having lunch.
Both our spouses know about it, so it's really not that big of a deal. As for going to the movies, we've done it maybe twice in 5 years. We're both faithful, and all of us trust one another!
It's all about how YOU feel. Can you trust him, and are you comfortable with what he's doing?
I wish you the best, and relax a little... you can't ALWAYS doubt the males. I'm sure it's nothing.
Good luck~
2007-03-23 04:49:16 · answer #2 · answered by Loveable 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well with a long distance relationship it is really hard. Obviously you both have enough trust in one other to stay together even though you are probally apart more so than together. I am a big believer that the opposite sex can be "JUST FRIENDS." However, I do no that girls (beong one myself..haha) tend to sometimes see friendships as something a little more! I would suggest that you tell him about your concerns, and then offer to meet with him and his friends for dinner and a movie. You will be able to tell how they act when you are in the picture. If they act akward in any way they obviously have some hidden feelings for your guy!
Good Luck and remember to always go with your gut feeling!
2007-03-23 04:35:01 · answer #3 · answered by goldielocks_d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a wee bit fishy, that's for sure. Especially the breakfast part of it. Movies, I don't think I'd be comfortable, but breakfast or any meal for that matter is a definite no-no. Why not find someone closer to you, someone you can meet for movies and breakfast yourself? Definitely I wouldn't throw a fit or anything, but I'd definitely explain that you are uncomfortable with the situation of him seeing other girls.
2007-03-23 04:33:35 · answer #4 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you aren't unreasonable. First of all, long distance relationships NEVER work, especially if you have no intentions of moving closer together. Esp. worse when all of his friends are girls. If he really likes you, he should respect the fact that it makes you uncomfortable. (of course then he will just go anyway without telling you he's doing it...)
2007-03-23 04:34:19 · answer #5 · answered by agkwatson@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends how well I know this person and what kind of person they are. If it is someone I totally trusted and my man was someone I could trust, then there would be no issues as long as it wasn't a thing they did all the time with out me!
2007-03-23 04:32:22 · answer #6 · answered by WOOOOO Whooo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most problems occur during a long distance relationship. you're not there so he's looking for a "replacement". you have every right to be nervous, because you know deep down he can't be trusted and you arent fulfilling a need. meaning why can't people get it that long distance relationships dont work! i guess you can tell him not to go, but he'll end up resenting you and thinking you're too jealous or untrusting.
2007-03-23 04:33:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well going to breakfast is one thing the movies i wouldnt like the idea of that at all......
its hard when ur in a long distance relationship. he prob misses ur company. so having close girl friends maybe helps him fill that void
2007-03-23 04:33:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off, let me say that this issue came close to breaking my dad and his gf up. Personally, I think whether it made me mad would depend on a few things: 1) did he tell me? 2) is she single? 3) do i know her and am i cool with her? 4) is she hot?. Every case is different.
2007-03-23 04:33:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no not at all. you never know with those long distance relationships.... that's all i'll say. Trust me, i've had 2 major boyfriends. With the first one he broke up with me with email. then he had a couple of gf'swaiting inline.
the second...well, let's just say he's a man-whore.
2007-03-23 04:33:34 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Rayyhol♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋