My bf broke up with me bcoz his family couldnt accept me (im not muslim) and he didnt know what 2 do... now he's gone back home (singapore), but i still love him, after 3yrs together. Should i go and try 2 get him back? What can i/we do about his family? Muslim/singaporean advice esp - need some tips!
2007-03-23 04:23:41 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know its his family's personal problem, not in islam, like many of u said. I wont convert myself (im christian) but am very open 2 other beliefs and learning (have already learnt alot)... would like both beliefs in our (hopefully) future family one day. Maybe its easier 4 him 2 bring up w family to their face, not on ph from another country? Should I go there n try 2 meet them on their ground/culture b4 asking him 2 try again?
2007-03-23 05:08:47 · update #1
The big thing here is not that he is Muslim or you Christian but that he left you!!!!!!
HE LEFT YOU !!!!!
get on with life, and for goodness sake all stop putting blaim on race, religion, sexes, colour or whatever else!
2007-03-31 03:58:44 · answer #1 · answered by delbolof 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me answer the question as best as possible... You had a Muslim boyfriend so that means he was in a very neo-muslim family normaly a pious Muslim would not let their son/ daughter date they would arrange the marrige so you were luck that it was a love match. and as the person before me said there are certain traditions and things about the culture that need beunderstood. If you want him back the best way to get him back would maybe be to revert to Islam, only if you accept the culture and our beliefes. If you do this the next step is to call him up and recite the sha'hada or the decleration of faith with luck he will be back in your arms but heed my warning... my father is muslim and my mother are american... my father no longer feels compelled to be with her and visa-versa think long and hard about if it will be worth it in the long run and make a most wise decision take it from a Muslim who knows exactly what you are going through because of my parent and because my girlfriend is lso a non -muslim. Have a lovely day.,
2007-03-23 04:42:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In islam, an muslim man CAN marry a non-muslim women. Its in the Holy Koran. Just a suggestion, if you marry him, you may to either respect or follow his customs out of courtesy. You have to love him for who he is all the way. His family will eventually accept you. They will have to get over it.
I'm a muslim, but I know the rules that muslim parents just make up, and most of them doesnt have anything to do w/ islam. Good luck to u but its going to take time and alot of work.
2007-03-23 04:37:40 · answer #3 · answered by Its me again 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you need to get your man back. I'm a muslim, and I understand that muslim parents wouldn't want their kids dating a non-muslims, but if you both are truly in love, I say go for it. Call him, and tell him how you feel about him, and he should talk to his parents about his feelings for you. I have a question though: are you willing to convert if the parents ask you to? Just wondering.
2007-03-23 04:31:00 · answer #4 · answered by calmangel4all 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
is the problem that he is a muslim ?
there are some customs and traditions you need to understand, and it's not necessary related to the religion,
why his family couldn't accept you? I'm a muslim , and be sure that nothing in Islam prevent the muslim to accept the not muslim, there is another reason , please search for the real reason, and have my best wishes
2007-03-23 04:31:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, please be live me i do not wish to hurt your feeling, but forget him. see the problem with Muslim family's are that you never ever just marry the guy u marry to the whole family.the Muslim mother in law's are very very demanding, another word when a new bride comes to their home that poor bride becomes the servant, the bride will be Lucky if the groom does not have a sister, oh boy o boy with sister in laws war 24 seven. they will drop in and out of your place without any warning. Now I'm not saying that all of them are but most are like that be live me i am ARMENIAN born and raise in mo slim country. ITS NO NO we have this saying that it is best that you marry with your own kind. like birds with birds, now if you marry with another Christian with diff rent race like us. We Armenians most of us marry to other Christians or with our own same race. do not go there now if he relay loves you he will come for you and if he did it is wise for you to make him understand you will not change your be lives and customs. And under no circumstance live with his parents.
Good Luck
2007-03-30 21:50:22 · answer #6 · answered by not fair 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Islam is a very complex religion and i can guarantee u that he wont abandon his beliefs because no Muslim would be so stupid to do that.I am sympathetic to your dilemma but if he really means the world to you i suggest you learn to accept Islam because thats the only way.
2007-03-31 03:54:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experance with other cultures,It will never work out.Just forget about any "long term commitments with this man>This world has it's way's with "Family first" & If his family is the problem then it will only get worse for u>dont end it on bad feelings!Tell him u love him & respect him &end it @that.keep in touch with each other Be "friendly" but don't expect u two to be "Friend's". If men wanted "friends"they'd have "sex"with their sports buddies>there is a big difference between "Friends" & "Being Friendly " & men have this problem understanding the difference between the both.there is no such thing as"Oh we are just friends"in a man's mind."i suggest u rent the movie "WHEN HARRY MET SALLY'.u'll understand the whole "Friend's"thing good luck.I am sorry u fell in love ,but it happens ,keep him in ur heart cause that's where he is gonna be ,not with u.it will never work out u'll still love each other but if u get hooked up (like engaged or married ) it will be a nightmare,arguments.conflicts believe me >want to hear more Email me @badassgrandmother@yahoo.com.I'll tell u my experances with "other cultures mixed relationships".Take care of u.
2007-03-31 02:42:10 · answer #8 · answered by lisa c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not Muslim but if he was my boyfriend and also the guy that i was madly in love with, i would go there and try to get him back! talk to his family tell them the way you feel. maybe they will change their mind. it will all work out if its meant to be!
2007-03-31 03:38:37 · answer #9 · answered by raven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sure his family wants him to marry a muslim girl.. but he can also marry for love.. to be honest with you, many parents just make the rules up as they go along.. many laws are manmade (from parents) made for any certain circumstance.they will have to get over it, there are many mixed marriages in our country.
2007-03-31 01:03:48 · answer #10 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋