How do i fix my child's behavior problems?

Question

My son goes to pre-school (head start) four days a week. He has began throwing trantrums, including throwing furniture, spitting, biting, yelling, etc. Every time he throws a tantrum, the school calls me to come and pick him up. Now he has learned that if he misbehaves, I will come and get him. He feels rewarded by his bad behavior. How do I fix this???
We have tried all sorts of punishments. We took most of his toys away, all special treats gone, tried "safe zone" or time out, even gave him a spanking......Nothing works.... Help Me!!!!

Answer 1

You need to consistently reward his positive behavior and punish his negative behavior. Although I believe in spanking, maybe it's more effective to take away something he likes (game, book, etc.)

Answer 2

Do NOT ever spank a child. It just makes them grow up with a spanking fetish. I'm not even kidding I really wish I was. Avoid doing this at all costs, it's just bad parenting all around.

Time outs are best. If the school is where he's acting up, the school should issue a time out. Tell them that sending him home is just rewarding his bad behaviour, and that you wish for them to deal with him by giving him a time out.

Also, talk to your child, find out about school and if something is setting him off.

Another thing, ask the school what they might be feeding him. If he's getting pop or juice or any foods with high sugar content he could just have way too much energy to sit still, which could also cause some of this behaviour. Good food makes for good kids.

So again, check on this stuff, don't spank EVER, and tell the school to give him time outs.

Answer 3

When he gets in trouble and you have to go and get him, ask the teacher what they were teaching that day, when you get home do the work, make him sit and do is homework and everything he would do as if he was still there in school. That way even if he acts up he's still learning the days lessons and he may realize that being bad isn't going to change anything.

Answer 4

He is full of anger - you need a counselor to find out why. He also needs a male role model (if you don't have his Daddy handy) to step in and lay the ground rules of acceptable behavior.

An experiment done a few yrs ago involved separating the young bull elephants from their elders. As time went by, the young bulls became more violent toward each other and other animals in the community. It wasn't too long until they were killing rhinos in the area.
Their solution?
They brought back the adult males and very quickly the dangerous behavior got under control and the killing stopped.
The moral of the story?
Children need males to direct them toward correct social behaviors (especially boys).

I don't know if this is relevant to your situation. It's just an fyi.

032307 10:31

Answer 5

He is too young for pre-school and he will probably be too young for kindergarten also. Not age wise but emotionally wise. It's not unusual for some children to start Kindergarten at 6 My twin siblings did and so did my grand daughter. Keep him home until he is 6 and then send him to kindergarten and see the big difference. There is nothing wrong with that and your son will benefit from it imencely not just now but throughout his entire academic life. Good luck.

Answer 6

Tantrums are a way for a child to get attention. You should ignore them at all costs until they have settled down. Only then are you rewarding him positively for being quiet.

Answer 7

cut his behind. Some people just dont know how to handle these type of situations. All you have to do is cut his behind everytime he does these things. He will get the point eventually. DUH

Answer 8

you gave him a spanking

u need a upgrade

u need a Belt

Answer 9

consultant psychologist