my boyfriend and I fight a lot. in my mind, he manipulates things and has to get the last word in the argument, no matter what the cost.
because he has to get the last word in, he has ended up saying some pretty cruel things to me in the past. He has called me several nasty names (terms you should NEVER call a woman) and on 3 occasions he has made the comment about how he is trying to push me away, get me to leave him, or how the relationship was all a joke, he was just playin
everytime he comes back and apologizes, saying he just said those in anger.
How would you deal with your sig. other telling you the relationship was a joke? even if it is in anger, still hurts
does he mean it or is he just trying to hurt me?
anyhow i am loosing ALL Desire to be intimate with him, as you can imagine. how do we bring the passion back>
2007-03-23 04:22:40 · 7 answers · asked by looking_4_peanuts 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If I were you, I would have ended that relationship a long timen ago. You cannot see that this man is verbally abussing you?? Leave him, he doesnt deserve you.
2007-03-23 04:26:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds extremely controlling to me. He's trying to make your self esteem completely disappear so that you'll never leave him and he will have complete control over everything you do, who you are allowed to see, when you are allowed to leave the house and whatever else he feels the need to control. If he's saying these things in anger now, imagine what he will do in anger in the future. I don't think you need to worry about bringing the passion back I think you need to worry about getting your own life back. There are many wonderful men out there. I wouldn't date this guy if he were the last man on Earth.
2007-03-23 11:39:39 · answer #2 · answered by Rosie B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch...those are pretty mean things to call a woman and very disrespectful. you will have to draw the line of how many times he has told you excuses for "I was just playing" or "I just said that cuz i was angry". He may have an anger problem, if he cant talk to you in a civilized manner during a fight then yes you are just letting him slide with that. I understand how you feel, been there with 'verbal abuse'. I left in my relationship when that happened to me.
2007-03-23 11:29:10 · answer #3 · answered by Its me again 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, thank god your are not married to him. I feel when your angry true feeling sometimes come out. Even if half of the things are his true feeling, is that enough? If you dont feel intimate with him anymore, maybe you should move on and remain friends. Or try and take a month break from each other. This will let the other realize if they appreciate the other and truley miss them.
2007-03-23 11:28:50 · answer #4 · answered by the need to know 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to? If you fight now, you will always fight until it gets worse. It sounds like he has anger issues.. you should let him go.....
I was called names like that before.. when there was no need for it no matter how ****** mad they are.. he's a bastard and you are in an abusive relationship.
2007-03-23 11:28:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u really need to think about the things u want and how u want to be treated and talked to. even out of anger he shouldn't say these things to you. i mean every relationship has its up and down, but sometimes enough is enough. talk to him and ask him what he really wants from u.
2007-03-23 11:31:04 · answer #6 · answered by ivelisse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about the situation and how you feel. hopefully he'll try to see it at your point of view, and then everything will be better.
but if that doesnt work, i'm sorry to tell you hun, but you would probably be better off without him.
good luck
2007-03-23 11:27:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋