We both are taken. I met this guy and we constantly connected and like each other a lot. We had sex once. It was very passionate. We both know we both are taken and we can't be together, so we're just having this affair and yeah.. it's just for sex.
Only knowing him a week, I moved to another state. I did give him a way to contact me. Since i left, he sent me texting and called me everyday saying how much he missed me and liked me. Me too very missing him. We flirt and flirt. But i know it's time to stop. we both know we aren't gonna see each other again.
The other nights he just texting me and said he couldn't sleep thinking about me and that he has feelings for me and he didn't know why. well, I don't wanna believe me but part of me want to believe it. I know maybe he can't get enough sex or whatever. but since he knows and i know we can't meet, why should he still say all of this?
I just wanna know ya'll opinion about this. Is he playing me or falling for me?
2007-03-23 04:12:19 · 35 answers · asked by Lavender 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We both know it was sex that we enjoyed. we both know we can't be together. But why does he need to say all these things like he thinks he fall for me.. stuffs like that?
2007-03-23 04:14:14 · update #1
First of all, if you feel like you want to be with other men, an open relationship would work best. Open relationships allow for honesty, which is a crucial element of any relationship. Doing this undercover means you're not fully being yourself with your mate. If you can't be yourself with someone, it's best to be alone.
Second, unless you're wiling to leave your man for this guy, you might as well end it and not talk to him anymore. I can't say I've been where you are because I was always able to separate thought from reality and my sense of detachment was unbreakable. I never had problems knowing when it was time to walk away, even if I wasn't yet ready to. My only advice is to end it. It would be best if you end it to work on your relatioship but I don't pass judgment, so I won't go there.
Speaking with the forked tongue I used to have when I was 'out there', you've already broken rule number in the cheat game so you have no choice but to end it. You are never supposed to get emotionally involved and when you do, it's time to make a decision to leave your mate or walk away from the affair. Affairs aren't supposed to last over a period of time. You're just juggling secret relationships, if they do. It doesn't matter whether or not he's trying to play you or if he's fallen for you. Suppose he's fallen for you? What kinda difference would that make? Again, are you willing to leave your man? If not, what he wants is irrelevant. Take control of your situation, don't let it control you and dictate your actions.
2007-03-23 04:51:48 · answer #1 · answered by Honey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is an important mode of getting involved emotionally. You will find a normal man sometimes "falls" even for a prostitute and develops a long-lasting relationship. Just because your affair started with sex, it does not necessarily mean it cannot be genuine love. In fact, often it is the other way round - an affair starting with sex can be a deep one. From your description, it appears to me that your lover is really in love with you, though the reverse may not be true. He does not seem to be "playing" you. I fail to understand why it is impossible for you to see each other again. If YOU have fallen in love with him, I would strongly suggest that you go for it. A true love is not easy to find and it will be most unfortunate to miss one.
2007-03-23 04:30:15 · answer #2 · answered by saudipta c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This situation is confusing for everyone. He is comfusing sexual feelings for love. He had a great time and so did you. He now does not have you there to get that feeling again so he feels like its you he misses and he thinks he is falling for you. He isnt. Do yourself a favor, change your number, email and whatever you gave him and move on. If you really love your partner your with now or even want to give it a try, you must cut off all communication with him. If you are truly unhappy, you can find him again. But you must do this so you dont regret it later in life. Everyone changes once your with them. This guy will too.
2007-03-23 04:19:12 · answer #3 · answered by the need to know 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you care about the person you're with, tell this guy never to contact you again. You made a terrible decision in cheating and should try to do better -- if not for your partner at least for your own self-respect. All he wants is sex -- if you were really together, he would eventually tire of it and move on to somebody else. I guarantee it. We all want what we can't have -- human nature. Eliminate this unnecessary hurt and drama! FORGET ABOUT HIM AND MOVE ON!
2007-03-23 04:23:13 · answer #4 · answered by paddington_ck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow !!!
The 1 thing you should be asking your self is why did you have an affair and then you blast it on the internet like your hudband / boyfriend wouldn't see it. So not only are you a liar and a cheater but your not to bright either.
You need to cut off all cantact with this dude and tell your partner whats up and hope he /she stays with you.
If you do stay together what is to stop you from doing it again?
2007-03-23 04:32:26 · answer #5 · answered by 女性ウルバリン 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In my experience, sex isn't as casual as we'd sometimes like it to be. Also, even tho a young man would screw a metal pipe if it would let him, still, emotions do get attached, and often emotions are what makes you want sex so badly. I'd say you two "fooled around and fell in love" like the song says - why can't you be together?
2007-03-23 04:17:15 · answer #6 · answered by All hat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he is falling for u sex is a very inntimate and since u said it was passinate it ells me that if he justed wanted sex he could find it where he is. he likes u alot u can fall in love after on0 week i know its hard to belive but u can the is this couple i counsel the met for 24 hrs in vegas and now they r married and have been together for 25 years so i think deffintyl is in love with u. the question is r u in love with him?
2007-03-23 04:21:39 · answer #7 · answered by missy A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex literally can be like a drug. Especially new sex. Couples yearn for that high after years of being together.
He may not know it, but he sees you as his "drug" dealer and he's searching for another high.
You need to find a way to tell him not to contact you any more. Why did you give him your number? I think you are leading him on, maybe?
Cut the cord!
2007-03-23 04:18:30 · answer #8 · answered by Yinzer from Sixburgh 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh he fell awhile back. He is passionately lost on you. I know. I have been there. But both of you need to realize that it would never work. Enjoy the passion while it is there and the pain lets you know that you are really alive, but be intelligent and practical.
2007-03-23 04:18:35 · answer #9 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He says this stuff because he is completely infatuated with you at this point. It will most likely die out over time......but, if you two are meant to be together, then who knows what will happen? In the mean time, just take it with a grain of salt.
2007-03-23 04:17:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋