The guy I know I'm suppose to spend the rest of my life with just broke up with me. Me and him only started dating 2 weeks ago (i've been friends with him for years tho), but he found out that my ex, who i still live with, didn't know about me and him. my new guy also found out that i cheated on my ex, which is his main reason for breaking up with me since he's had that happen to him before and couldn't stand to go through that again. He is definatley someone I would never ever do that to cuz i know what he's been through and i've never felt so strongly about someone before. How can i prove to him that it was a stupid mistake i made that i would never do again? my friends told me to give him some space and he'll come around, but i'm afraid i may have lost him forever. i don't even want to be with anyone else, so don't say move on. i'm willing to wait forever for him, that's how much he means to me. plz give me some advice on what to do or say. i love him so much and want him back.
2007-03-23 04:09:42 · 17 answers · asked by dolfingrrl928 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am currently in the process of trying to move out, but moving back home where this other guy is, is in another state and i need a job so it's not like i can just pack up and go.
2007-03-23 04:17:29 · update #1
i also did tell my ex about me and the other guy since i thought that's what the other guy wanted.
2007-03-23 04:18:54 · update #2
If you truly want him back then the first thing that you have to do is move out, or tell your ex too. Secondly go and see your forever guy in person, do not call him on the phone, only go in person and explain to him what you did to us, say that you truly love him, you want to spend the rest of your life with him if he is willing to do that, and say that you will wait forever, whether he says yes or no.
Just keep in mind there is always a possiblity he will say no, if he does, then don't linger and beg, just say to him, "well I will always love you, and if you ever change your mind you know where to find me."
If that happens then just say that and walk away, he will come to his realizations and call you back, if not then just wait and see what the Lord has in store for you, you never know.
2007-03-23 04:15:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, Move out away from the ex. How does the new guy know that you aren't still at times with the ex?
Next, Show him. That's all you can do to prove it to him. Be completely honest and communicate. Communication is the strongest thing other than trust in a relationship. IF you communicate and are honest, trust will follow.
This happened to me about a year/half ago. I am now with the "new guy" but it wasn't easy. Just keep trying. If you really truely love him and want to be with him, don't give up.
2007-03-23 04:16:20 · answer #2 · answered by ToRsKi2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. Usually my motto is "Once a cheater, always a cheater" and that may be your boy's motto too. The good thing is that you know you screwed up, and it was a stupid mistake. You also don't have any temptation to screw your new boy over by cheating on him. I suggest you call your boy up, sit him down, and explain to him that you know you screwed up, and that's not the kind of person you want to be. Tell him you're not a cheater, it was a stupid mistake. Explain to him how you love him. Tell him the only reason you didn't tell your ex about him was because you feared it would stir up competition between the two, and you didn't want to lose him. Make sure he understands how much you love him, and how you've been friends for a long time. Remind him that he knows the real you, and he knows you know right from wrong. See how you feel after the end of a nice long talk with him, and get back to us! Good luck.
2007-03-23 04:15:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
For starters, maybe moving out of your ex boyfriends house would be a good thing. Maybe the guy you were seeing thinks that something might happen with you living with your ex. Also, sit down and explain to him that it won't happen again but he might be in the mind set that once a cheater always a cheater. Its hard to get over being labeled like that but maybe you shouldn't have cheated on your ex. I guess just keep trying to talk to him and maybe he'll come around.
2007-03-23 04:14:39 · answer #4 · answered by Just a girl... 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
move in your own home .find a one bedroom apt. and start proveing you can do it on your own .by liveing as an good example .build up his trust by not being around other men .stay away from your ex also ..tell him after you move on your own that you have made great improvement by showing it .not saying it... invite him to a small cook out with your family so that your family suports your improvement in doing well on your own .no roomates it would cause troble ....for more information ask a adult to give you financial advice and a job ..do not live with others ..alone is best so that if he comes back no one is thier to break your relationship ...telling the truth is always the best way to keep the relationship together and not to sneek behind him ..keep your self out of troble .with friend you cant trust ..to improve also make new better friends and slowly loose conact of your old friend ..Why?because they are bad influinces and your boyfriend will now the next time he see's you you have showed him you have changed and able to live on your own ..start liveing your life like a adult .. You will also get nice resalts from people watching your life improve..fix your life ..you get better at getting him back..thats how you build his trust up again and remind him that was the bad past and youve learnd your lesson in life by not making that same mistake and saying your sory and not to give up on the seconed chance to show him you mean it and give you how long it will take to get your self on your own ..and it will work ..and it shows you can be responcable also guys like that also no pets are best to find a place faster ..good luck.and also go to a church thats close ..you will find that they will also give you good advice and new good holy friends ..show your improvment ..bolive me GOD can help by following his comandments and sin no more ..that is what he is looking for ,for the rest of his life ..he wont turn you away this time . .tell him to wait .. for as long as you need to get all this ready and then talk about a real relationship ..after you have finished..getting your life together ..and GOD be with you always ..take care
2007-03-23 05:10:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you need to tell him how you feel the best way is write a letter not a love letter but the truth be honest explain what happened with your ex and how you understand it was an awful thing to do to some one (cheating ) a letter is better because you can give it to him then he knows where you stand and its up to him to come to you (if he wants to) don't push him he will run.
2007-03-23 04:17:20 · answer #6 · answered by loopy loo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is tell him everything you said here. Let him know how much you love him, if he feels the same way, he'll give you a chance. Always be as honest as possible when you're in a relationship because once that trust is broken, it's so hard to get it back. Good luck.
2007-03-23 04:15:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people who cheat would always say, "I'd not do it to them or it'll be different with someone else" but for someone who's been cheated on they've heard it all before. Even if you did convince him to come round to your life he will always have a deep level of mistrust in him that will probably destroy your relationship over time. A good start to getting rid of your past would be to move out or kick out the ex, living with him already creates a level of mistrust. I certainly wouldn't date a woman who still lived with her ex..... Good luck.
2007-03-23 04:21:47 · answer #8 · answered by darkness_returns 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, you're out of luck with this one. Your actions are obviously unacceptable to him, so he may be the man you're looking for, but you are not the woman he's looking for.
And what on earth are you still doing living with your ex??? No guy in his right mind is going to be happy with that arrangement. Move out and get on with your life.
2007-03-23 04:15:51 · answer #9 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are dealing with the most delicate and ego oriented part of the guy. It will take time and maybe, only maybe, it will work. But time and just being around will do it, if at all.
2007-03-23 04:15:17 · answer #10 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋