I went behind my BF's back & got the number to his new cell phone which he said is his business line. He said that he wasn't giving the # out so I felt suspicious. Once I got the # I called him private just to see if I had the right number, I thought he'd let it go to voicemail but he picked up & I hung up. When he asked me if it was me. I told him that I knew the # & he freaked out. He hung up the phone on me. We've seen each other since then & we've talked since then but he won't talk to me about the issue. I'm tryin not 2 b hard on myself bcause I figure it's a cell phone #, it's not his bank acct. am I being too hard on myself or is he being 2 hard on me cause now he barely makes i contact with me, and is sensitive about anything I say about the phone. He said I violated him & that I'm a liar. So how do I make it up to him or is he overreacting 2 something that isn't even that serious?
2007-03-23 04:05:36 · 24 answers · asked by geminig 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think he is too hard on you and he is acting shady so trust your gut he is up to something for sure!
2007-03-23 04:11:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
To you and me it seems like he is overreacting because it is just a cell phone but obviously it is important to him. He didn't want to give out his # and you should have respected that even if it seemed like he was overreacting. Instead you went behind his back and got it. That shows just how possessive you are whether you are willing to admit it or not. You couldn't let him have something to himself without getting suspicious and thinking that you should have access to it. It's childish and it's disrespectful even though it was just a cell phone to you and me. He has a right to feel violated and you are a liar in that situation. Clearly he is upset and you need to tell him that you are sorry and that you recognize that you shouldn't go behind his back and do things like that if you want to remain with him. If he is able to accept that then it won't be a problem anymore. If he isn't then the two of you aren't meant to be together and it's a life lesson for you. If you were a guy people would think that you were possessive and maybe a little controlling so the fact that you are a girl isn't going to change what I think about the situation. Getting something behind someones back is not even worth it if they do want you to have it. It's not like you could ever have used it because then he would have known what you did. Like I said it was just that you don't want him to have anything to himself. You need to grow up and get past that stage. Let him know how him not giving you the number made you feel and see how he feels about you not trusting him. You have to realize though that you may have killed your relationship.
2007-03-23 11:18:10 · answer #2 · answered by Vince R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off it is going to be awhile before your boyfriend talks to you about the cellphone issue and he wants to be sure he does not say anything he does not mean or something that could hurt you. It does not seem like he is hiding anything, if has a cell phone for business use only then he is entitled to have that, maybe he did not want you to have it because it is business and not personal. He could make it clear to you however why he has a business cell phone and why it is mainly for business. Just don't bring up the issue for awhile until he has had a chance to cool down and get his thoughts together. It is not necessarily something you make up in a flash, just move on to other important things in your relationship and work on what other problems you have in time he will come around and he will forgive you.
2007-03-23 11:15:27 · answer #3 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me make sure I have this right....You are saying that he is mad b/c you found out what his work cell phone was andhe got mad about it? Or was it b/c you lied to him about knowing the number? Anyways, what is the big deal. I have to agree,its just a number not a bank acct or SSN#. And why is he calling you a liar? If everything is fine, unless you guys start talking about the phone thing, then I would not press him on it....I think he is over reacting a bit.... How long have you been together...... Does he have trust issues or something? I mean I understand his side, but it does not seem like a big deal to me......unless there are some other issues that he is reacting too...... I would try to talk to him about it again and if he has a problem, then just drop it and move on......
Good Luck!
2007-03-23 11:14:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he works for someone else, maybe the company pays for the cell phone and that's why he is not supposed to give it out. Cell phone bills can go through the roof. It wouldn't be the first time that a company has prohibited personal use of business cell phones.
You should have trusted him. It's a difficult thing to earn back. You will have to earn his trust if you want to continue to see him. I think that the best thing to do is to come clean and tell him the reason that you did this thing. I don't think he is overacting....how would you feel in his shoes?
2007-03-23 11:10:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's hiding something. Do not give in. You have an intimate relationship and this is not just about his phone. It's about an obsessive need for privacy at best and his other girlfriend and lies to you at worst.
Would you hide your vibrator from him? Pretend that you didn't have one? Get angry if he found it? Hope not. The concept in a relationship is sharing and understanding each others soft spots and accepting each other for your weaknesses as well as those attractive strengths.
You cannot build a relationship on censored information. Let it crack now before before you invest more time and emotion into it.
2007-03-23 11:12:55 · answer #6 · answered by notasperfectasyou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is weird that he was so against you having the number in the first place. I would be suspicious too. I think he is over-reacting but if you still want to make it up to him just sit him down and talk to him about it and tell him how it made you feel. Hopefully, if he is a good man and right for you, he will understand.
2007-03-23 11:10:59 · answer #7 · answered by Maid of Constant Sorrow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, in a way you did sneak around to get the number. In which, shows your lack of trust. So, that could be why he is not too happy with you.
I would say you need to speak to him in person. Tell him that you are sorry for invading his privacy like you did and that you won't do it agian. If you two don't talk about it then it is going to mess up your relationship.
2007-03-23 11:09:44 · answer #8 · answered by Ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why cant you have this number and why is it so important? I am missing something here. It shouldnt be a big deal for you not to have the number. I think you were a little deceitful in getting the number on the sly but thats not the biggest issue here. He seems like he is hiding something to me.
2007-03-23 11:11:55 · answer #9 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u showed him u dont trust him now he doesnt trust u face it u may have lost a good thing because of ur insecurity and to b honest u did violate him and lied to him no matter how many excuses u come up with u cant make it up once the trust factor is violated its usually scarred for life and if he was asking this question from his viewpoint my advice would b to dump u in brutal honesty
2007-03-23 11:11:44 · answer #10 · answered by mmbmw2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've demonstrated that you have trust issues. To some people that could be a deal breaker. If you are honest with him and admit you were suspicious, maybe he will understand and forgive you. But be prepared to live with the fact that you may have damaged the relationship beyond repair.
2007-03-23 11:10:58 · answer #11 · answered by I_hope_I_know 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋