2007-03-23 04:00:19 · 23 answers · asked by Rerun 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Let him tour a jail, or a morgue....or both.
2007-03-23 04:03:41 · answer #1 · answered by Nasubi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why haven't you taught him discipline and respect? If he is unruly @13, it's your fault. If you were to start now, you probably wouldn't be consistent because he would rebel to a new set of rules. I also suspect that although he is unruly, he is probably a mama's boy, and expects you to give him what he wants. I'm sure you are aware of this, but are lazy and do not want to change your ways of giving in. You are raising a criminal.
I'm not sure if you should send him to a military school, or private school, or have him stay with you. The only reasons children test boundaries is 1. they naturally are selfish. and 2. they want to see if you care. If you don't care, they will get worse and worse to see how much you will let pass, if you let too much problems to pass, they will feel you don't love them. You will resent the child because of his disobedience and by not following through with a punishment, you are telling them that what they do doesn't matter and the only consequence is that they make you mad. Have him get a job. He should have chores around the house, but in the summer get him to buck hay or have dad teach him how to build and fix things,(unless there is no father which would explain the teens unrliness)
Sorry to be so harsh, but you need to wise up. If the only time your child is nice to you is to get something, that's not love.
Remember, he learns from you. If you are too selfish that when he did something wrong you didn't want him to "hate" you he will have a false sense of love. If you send him away now, that's giving up.
be open and talk with him.
Teach him life skills.
In a way, you need to untrain him. DON'T LET HIM ARGUE WITH YOU THE ONLY REASON A CHILD WILL KEEP PRESSING TO DO SOMETHING IS IF THEY KNOW THE PARENT WILL GIVE IN. SAY NO ONCE, IF THEY PROTEST, IGNORE HIM UNTIL HE CAN STOP WHINING LIKE A SPOILED BRAT.
*It is legal to spank your child.
2007-03-23 11:25:35 · answer #2 · answered by carriespnc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out first how he became unruly upto the age of 13. you should understand it that the age of 13 to 19 is called teenage. This age is very sensative. you should act with this boy with full affection and attention also. your home is first place to keep him and you are the master to be an example before him in this regard. I think your unruly boy will follow rule as far as possible.
2007-03-23 11:09:48 · answer #3 · answered by mgaznavi_0 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Valley Forge Military Academy(pennsylvania)
2007-03-23 11:10:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a bad 13 year old once. Have you tried your public library or the boy scouts? Public libraries sometimes have programs for young people. Teach him to appreciate books and reading. This might help to give him some person and learn good manners.
Bring him to the library and have him browse around and pick out a dozen books that he really things he would like to read. Then you will find out which books he is really ready to read. You might wind up eventually narrowing it down to one or two books. Be careful he doesn't suffer from eye strain. Make sure he is reading in good lighting.
He could probably use a responsible person to take time with him to mentor him and even coach him to give him some meaning in his life. If he is not doing well in school then he may need a tutor.
2007-03-23 11:08:13 · answer #5 · answered by devotionalservice 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First "discipline him" with Love, this could be one reason he's rebelling, because of "Lack thereof", and I wouldn't send him away!! I simply would take him to do lawn work, for the elderly, no better discipline than "Good Old Fashioned" "Hard work" it'll be good for him to make money too, to encourage him to do good, that by doing good , you get rewarded!! And the hard work, will show him what the "real world is about".......Good Luck, and lots of Hugs!! Unconditional Love, sometimes makes a "Great difference" in one's life!!! Smile!!!
2007-03-23 11:11:51 · answer #6 · answered by Hmg♥Brd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say talk to a probation officer/juvenile authority and arrange a tour of a jail or prison. That might straighten him out. Teen boys need a man to reel them in. Or a mother with a very stern disposition that's unafraid and willing to set them straight by any means. Godloveya.
2007-03-23 11:05:30 · answer #7 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are camps in Arizona that for a fee will come and grab the boy and take him to the desert to their camp to straighten him out. They will force him to work and be respectful and be drug and alcohol free. I think it costs like 7 -8 grand to hire them.
2007-03-23 11:06:42 · answer #8 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are the ones that are suppose to show him displine. he is to young to be going to places like that. and plus those places are not for behavorail correct. but for kids that are sucidal, and have bad run ins with the law. he may be acting out emotions that he can't express in words. you may need to take him to cousiling. i am not being rude.
2007-03-23 11:06:41 · answer #9 · answered by liznjames_08 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Any Military base, prison, or third world country might do it. Try spending time with him, giving him responsibility with rewards and if that doesn't work, try drugs. That's what our medical professionals always seem to recommend.
2007-03-23 11:06:31 · answer #10 · answered by Partisanshipsux 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most boarding schools would be fine, especially the military ones..
2007-03-23 11:03:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋