i just want to know. is a guy that doesn't buy stuff for his girlfriend really in-love with her? He doesn't have to go bankrupt. little things are even more appreciated. i once had a guy and we were going out for a year and during all that time, he never got me anything. yea, i mean anything at all. looking back,i just can't help but think that was it fair of him?what do you think of such a person. Did that kind of behaviour have to do with how he felt about me?
2007-03-23 03:52:44 · 37 answers · asked by kikky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think that buying things = love. He may love you & not think it's necessary to buy anything for you. I know that it's nice to receive things though..... it makes you feel special & feel like they're thinking of you when they buy something for you.
Have you tried talking to him about it? Do you buy things for him? It's never fair when one person does something for their boyfriend/girlfriend & it is not reciprocated. I know it's not important to have things bought for you & you shouldn't expect it, but we always wind up expecting..... it's nice if you buy something for someone & they go out of their way to think of something really nice to give you. Even if it's just a little something.
I would say talk to him about it! Or maybe talk to one of his friends or one of your friends & have them pass it along..... like "oh.... she told me that she's not happy.... but don't tell her i said this!" so you don't have to directly say "Buy me something!" it may lose some of it's meaning if you tell him to do it.... because he's not doing it of his own will, he would be doing it because you told him to... and that's not really as special.
2007-03-23 03:59:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the status of your relationship. You are right that money rarely has anything to do with it. Creative and thoughtful gestures are often very inexpensive. I once dated a guy who washed my car every Saturday morning! What a guy! A true labor of love. I was working full time and going to school, and had a baby. He would take his time and clean my car, check my oil and tire pressure, and just make sure that me and my baby could travel in comfort/safety. On the other hand, I often washed his laundry or cooked meals for him. I would separate the food into plastic containers that he could warm up and eat anytime. Sometimes I would drop off his dry cleaning, etc. The bottom line is that if you are involved with someone, you should BOTH care for each other. It works both ways. I do not believe in being a little princess and just expecting to be catered to all the time, BUT I think it's cool when couples have an understanding and they do little things for each other. I am not a very materialistic person and I live on a strict budget so I am not into giving, receiving big gifts. I don't think gifts dictate how much a person loves you. I think it has a lot to do with their upbringing. If they never saw men being thoughtful, they may not realize it is appropriate. Anyway, since you're talking about an ex I wouldn't worry too much about it. He's somebody else's problem now...lol!
2007-03-23 04:06:51 · answer #2 · answered by Tommithesupermom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A guy that doesn't buy his loved one a gift or the though of saying I love you Is rue. I deeply believe that wheather you have a mate or friend you should be treated with respect & love . Before going farhter did you question him about the gift or how you feel . I think you should let him know how you feel . Every once in a while a woman need to be treated with love
is the little is things that count is not about how much it cost . Sometimes is make you think if he has a caring heart girl you deserve lot better IM not sure about any thing else but speak your mind it goes 50/50 for both to keep together good luck
2007-03-23 04:05:19 · answer #3 · answered by boricuasexy1210 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But did he cheat on you
Whats the difference a guy that buys and cheats
or ...doesn't buy and does not cheat
DATE AND WAIT make alot of friends they buy
friends stuff all the time
Maybe it showing you to be more independent
DATE stop being held down for nothing
DATE and enjoy the town with as many dates you
can go on and not have to ask permission to go on
DATE and the time will come when someone that
saw you having so much fun being single they will take
you and make a lady out of you in Marriage
1st buying you a ring
2nd ... a home
3rd ... some stock
4th...the things that you need and want so that you can DATE your MATE till you both drop
A boyfriend may buy you stuff to keep you around
A husband buys and pays for stuff that make you want to stay around
2007-03-23 04:07:43 · answer #4 · answered by manoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend would ask me this question alot. Her ex wouldn't buy her anything. She's the type of person that likes giving and recieving. To me it just seems like he doesn't want to put out too much effort in the relationship. Does he like not get you things on holidays or birthdays? I mean that right there would show me that he doesn't care about me at all.
The guy I just started dating bought me a really nice present for valentines day... We were only dating for 2 to 3 weeks at that point. It was the best thing anyone has ever gotten me. I love it. I know how it is to be with selfish men that don't care.
2007-03-23 03:58:05 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a tuff 1 b/c if u don't say anything about it then nothing will change but on the other hand if u do say something then ur labeled a "gold digger". I have been in that situation when I have bought a guy something just b/c I'm out shopping & I think "hey maybe he'll like this" I get it & I get nothing in return...not that I expect something right away...but I got nothing for b'day.v'day, christmas or anything like that.
I eventually got fed up & left him alone tho. Sooooo make the best decision for u sweetie!!
2007-03-23 04:00:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This really depends on the guy. I once dated a guy who bought me practically everything a girl would want. Things didn't work out between the two of us and when it ended I returned everything to him. Now that I look back, I think he bought me stuff just to try to buy me my love because we fought all the time.
When I was dating my husband he rarely bought me stuff, but I was fine with it because if I wanted anything I would buy it myself. I don't like counting on people for anything. I didn't want him to think that I was using him for his money, and by doing this I was making sure that he understood not to expect any special favors from me in return.
2007-03-23 04:01:36 · answer #7 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, It does not mean he doesn't care about you. It does mean he is not a shopper. Many men are not. That is a good thing, he will be good at saving and every couple needs one person in the pair who can save. This isn't always true tho, sometimes they just do not know what another person likes and do not want to make a mistake, so they get nothing. Did he take you places?
2007-03-23 04:00:51 · answer #8 · answered by JAN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rather rather for a month then not give some thing nice to the woman I love at list once a month.
I dont believe that material things are important the giving
If he didmot have money and he would find other ways to show you he loves you like writing a song' that be ok.
if he just take and do not give frome him self he nead to learn how to give.
2007-03-23 04:04:41 · answer #9 · answered by daglas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relashonship and your love for someone is not based upon if they do or dont get you gifts.....Yeah, gifts are a nice gesture of they were thinking of you and they are nice to get,though they should not determine whether or not you are going to stay with someone......I dont think that if your man does not get you anything does not mean that he loves you any less than someone who buys you things all the time~! Some females are very materilistic and that does matter to them....I personally dont think that it should be a big deal~!:) Good Luck~!
2007-03-23 03:58:42 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He (or a she if this story is flipped around to be the gf) is self-centered and cheap. Not someone you want a relationship with.
This question is not about money, but about the little things. It costs next to nothing to pick up $3.99 flowers from the grocery store on occasion. Or to buy a $.99 card that says "I'm thinking of you."
2007-03-23 03:56:29 · answer #11 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋